What provokes a reaction from the ex?

[confused_too_much]

Ok guys... I was dumped a little over a month ago by a girl I was with for 2 years. for about 2 weeks I was a mess, calling, texting, LONG emails etc telling her how much I loved her, I even travelled 100 miles with a damn rose etc.... haha (how sad) I sat on a fecking train with a rose!!! I laugh about it now but then it was kinda make or break time! I told her lots of different things, I begged, pleaded.... EVERYTHING!

 

...now?

 

Well... I have been getting some serious reactions from ex recently and VERY positive!!!

 

I am pretty much healing and healing fast! I am gaining my confidence back in leaps and bounds. I'm beginning to see how I kinda like being single again though would love to try again with her - she's like the icing on the cake. But recently things are changing with ME big time!

 

My advice is DO NOTHING, act cool and REALLY move on - at least try to act like you are.

 

If you want to provoke a reaction then thats all you gotta do. Get on with life and do absolutely nothing. When she contacts you again, play it so cool - if you really aint ready then just ignore her till you are.

 

READ: girls are not attracted to missery, insecurity, weakness or lack of confidence.

 

If the reason you broke up with your ex had nothing to do with a guy, her NOT being in love with you in the first place, abuse or anything of the sort then by doing nothing and I mean absolutely jack diddly poo you greatly improve the chances of your ex's desire for you becoming stronger.... We all know the signs when someone is interested in us, right? just look out for them, they are SO obvious!

 

Sometimes girls can be so odd, never quite understand them myself but it takes you to step back and look at the situation from an outside perspective to really see whats happening! I know my ex and I know what she was like when we first met and man she is displaying ALL the same signs she displayed when we first met andthe funniest thing is I think she has forgot that I actually know her... takes a wise man to play dumb!

 

My strategy was simply to begin not caring what happens and get myself back. However, in my case (the break-up) it was purely a case of me smothering her too much... so I dont know ifthis will work for all break-ups.

 

what I have working to my advantage is that she knows what I am like and she KNOWS that it wont be long till I get over her truely. She already knows I have been going out and I know she knows I rarely go out without attracting the attention of the opposite sex... it happened when I was with her and it probably (I hope, hehe) wont stop happening (not meaning to be arrogant). Now... the BIGGEST advantage I have is: we rarely had any bad times together.

 

Good luck and just do nothing, move on, make yourself a better, much happier person, confident, strong and you'll see what happens!

 

I have been dumped 3 times before by the same girl (not this ex) - my downfall was I didnt work on me, No contact generally does get them back, if they cared and loved you that is, but if you dont change youself and work on why she dumped you then you'll get dumped again! I learned pretty much the hard way. This relationship is where the penny has dropped! Man I have learned so much about myself and my PAST over the last few weeks that I am litterally becoming a completely new person. Feels great!

 

I work on me I get her back if not then at least I lower the chances of getting dumped again by a different girl!

[Trialbyfire]

Working on yourself is an excellent idea, but make sure you do it for yourself versus doing it so that the next girl doesn't dump you or just to get the girl back.

 

When people are happy and confident, it always shines through.

[Guest]

So I have a question. I am in the same situation. My girl said I smothered her too much and she lost the "spark." How long did you go without talking to her? Did you initiate the contact? I feel like I should wait like a month and then call her on Christmas to wish her a Merry Christmas...then maybe a couple weeks after that invite her to hang out...and just act like myself...don't act like I am bothered and am having fun...what do you think?