theadventure50120 Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Took me a month to have sex with my gf (ex now , knew her a month before so maybe 2 month) , i knew what she was like...and i enjoyed letting her wait. To see if she was with me for one thing.
Gala Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 I am glad to have come upon this thread this morning. I am 41, and I can tell you that even when you've been around the block a couple of times you still get tempted and you still feel weird and vulnerable. I recently started dating again after a couple of years off from everything, and last month I went out for the first time with a guy who is going through a divorce. Sparks flew on the first date, tho we just kissed, but I was so guarded that I backed off...he was kind of ready to fall into my arms, and this scared me. Later I changed my mind, we talked a handful of times over a month, he called me during and after a vacation I was on, and we went out again last weekend. We didn't have sex, but he did stay over - and it got pretty intimate...he also showed real tenderness. This is hard to resist. Long story short, he's pulled back ever since. And I feel stupid. I was so close to just walking away, unscathed in my size 0s. If this change occurred because it was too soon, there's nothing I can do. It is just so hard to go from being celibate and not wanting to take risks to feeling like you did the wrong thing because you followed your desire. I know that the Divorce Factor is a complicated question on its own...I've been down that road in dating before. I thought I'd learned the lesson. Unfortunately, the other person doesn't know how impaired he/she is. Too bad people in divorces can't be kept out of circulation till their issues are behind them... I'm off to lick my wounds and go on with my life. I wish that today I could say "Gals, throw caution to the winds and seize those opportunities for expressing desire and passion!" But that seems not to be the order of the day.
Vanquish Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Me and the girl im with now know of eachother for awhile, talked a few times throughout this time but just recently really got involved with eachother on a new level that we never really had the chance to get to in earlier years. Sure we had sex the first night we were alone together but i knew her before that and we had some great times just hanging out. I think what seperates my situation is we didn't actually do vaginal sex, she wants that to wait which i respect more becuase we get a feel for eachother and until we are ready to take the full leap we will do that. Things are great so far, almost better so then any girl i've ever been with. Of course we only see eachother during the weekend so this might be a factor, we keep eachother at somewhat of a distance due to our school/work lives but this works out well ecause by the end of the week we miss eachother enough to rekindle things.
Star Gazer Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 I'm sooooooooooo feeling the same way right now, Maria! My guy and I had sex on the 4th date, and while we did talk 2 days later, I was the one who called HIM and he called me BACK... I hate hate HATE this feeling I have right now!!!
Gala Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 Stargazer - I like your avatar! Not that this helps you any, but I did realize yesterday that I may very well be spared the - um, challenge - of a divorcing man during his first Xmas season alone...not pretty, I tell you! I hadn't thought through how I was going to navigate that anyway. In any case, we all deserve more than we're getting!
My Fair Katie Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 *shrug* I had sex with my husband on our first date. I'm pretty open about sex though, if it didn't work and he lost respect for me, obviously he wasn't worth investing more time in. Luckily, I either dazzled him with my charm and wit or blew his socks off in the bedroom (the dear refuses to confirm my suspicions and will only smile slyly when asked).
Cecelius Posted November 27, 2006 Posted November 27, 2006 If a woman has sex with a man soon after meeting him, like the 1st or 2nd date, does he lose interest quicker? I would, in general. If a guy asked you to be his girlfriend on the first date, would you lose interest quicker?
Fire Onyx Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I've had this happen to me recently. I lost interest because I didn't feel any emotional connection and that was because it was too early. It turned out to be just sex.
freckles73 Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 I've had this happen to me recently. I lost interest because I didn't feel any emotional connection and that was because it was too early. It turned out to be just sex. According to your other post you were never really into the girl from the moment you met her. If you were, don't you think the fact you rushed into bed probably wouldn't matter?
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