punk666 Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 hey, I was supposed to ask this girl out today but i didn't because i don't even know her and she probaly dosen't even know me. I am trying to figure out a way i could talk to her so she can find some stuff out about me. There are alot of rumours out there saying that i was in prison and was involved with drugs which is not true. I am just a normal person who dresses differently. I already know she likes the same music i do and i sometimes catch her looking at me. We hang out with diffrent people and have different friends. I was thinking of going up to one of her friends and introducing myself but i don't want to screw stuff up. How do i get to know her and how would i be able to approach and talk to her without looking weird. Thanks.
Green Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Look its nerve racking but I say just go up and approach her and say hi, once you start talking things should get easier. If it feels like shes acting weird when she talks to you just keep talking because it might be that she's shy. Ask her who her fav band is and why, and what their songs make her think of, talk for a short little bit and then in as confident a voice as you can muster say you need to give me your number. keep looking her in the eyes and smile even if she takes a long time to answer. If she does or doesnt give you the number your reaction should be the same smile and act like its no big deal what ever happens. Dont talk to her friends or what ever just do the direct approach. You dont have to wait till shes alone you can go up and talk to her while shes with her friends and ask for the number infront of her friends if theres no way for you to get some alone time. just walk up and ignore who shes with and start talking to her. you need to do this as soon as posible stop being a wuss and go for it monday if thats the next time you see her.
MassiveAtom Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 It's all confidence man. Be confident enough in your bad ass self to check and see if SHE is worth your time. Get her attention by saying something off kilter. No pick up lines but be creative in the situation. "Excuse me, Those are cool chains, looks like they weigh a ton. You must have pretty strong hips to hold THEM up..." for a suggestive opener. OR Catch up to her and tell her her heels are leaving holes in the sidewalk and, fine upstanding citizen that you are, you'll have to report it. If she laughs, you're golden.... See, women of all types love to laugh. Even the goth/Punk chicks. It's the most common thing they say. So believe them. They WANT to be swept off their feet. hell for that matter, who doesn't? BE the PART.... If it's cool in your circles to be all punked out, then be that, prepped out with Izod and khaki's? be it. Or be yourself, whichever helps you feel most confident. She'll pick up on your confidence and barring insanity, she'll fall for you within the first five minutes...sometimes longer. Good luck! Keep us posted, I love a good love story. changing always MA
Author punk666 Posted November 25, 2006 Author Posted November 25, 2006 Thanks for all the help, I can't wait for monday, lol.
MassiveAtom Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Thanks for all the help, I can't wait for monday, lol. There ya go! It's supposed to be fun! So have some fun with it! Remember, humor, humor, humor...no slapstick type stuff, you'll look like an idiot. But be clever, confident, and charming. and within a few minutes she'll be asking YOU out. oh, and Ask alot of questions...there is NOTHING women like to talk about more than themselves... On the very real possibility of rejection: Should she be having a bad day, or a bad week, or is just kinda grumpy in general...just remember... she isn't rejecting you right off hand... she's rejecting this one particular approach...so, lay low, and wait for it, 5-7days more or less, and come at it from a dif'rent angle. If she has a boyfriend, then refer to RULE #1 of the Universal Code of Conduct of the United Brotherhood of Men which reads, "Leave another man's woman alone." And if she eventually fully refuses your offer, just remember it's HER loss, there's another out there just waiting to be with you.
Green Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 look dont worry so much about being funny just go talk to her whether she's with her friends or not on monday. If you screw up some how or feel rejected dont wait 5-7 days go talk to her the next chance you get later that day or the next day. remember get the phone number because you want to be able to hang out with her. and go for a kiss at the end of the first hang out
MassiveAtom Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 look dont worry so much about being funny just go talk to her whether she's with her friends or not on monday. If you screw up some how or feel rejected dont wait 5-7 days go talk to her the next chance you get later that day or the next day. remember get the phone number because you want to be able to hang out with her. and go for a kiss at the end of the first hang out Ah, I see. You're not into the whole chase/mystery/interest level thing, KMT... Punk666, Women LOVE to be pursued...Just be damn certain you WANT to catch her.
Green Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Atom im into everything but some of the stuff your telling him such as humor and timing are hard to pull off he has a better chance if he just goes for it. he'll be a step ahead of all the other guys his age to wussy to make a move
MassiveAtom Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 Atom im into everything but some of the stuff your telling him such as humor and timing are hard to pull off he has a better chance if he just goes for it. he'll be a step ahead of all the other guys his age to wussy to make a move "Ah yes! I SEE" said the blind man...He's a yungun! Yeah, P6, listen to KMT... go simple, and straight to the point! And definitely go for the smooch!
Author punk666 Posted November 28, 2006 Author Posted November 28, 2006 Hey, i got a little problem. i am kinda shy, LOL. Monday she was only there for half the day so today,(tuesday) i saw her but waited until the end of the day just incase i get rejected. So i was going up to her and a buddy of mine pulled me aside and started talking to me. I felt screwed up and i was sweating like crazy so i decided not to approach her. I didn't want to look like an idiot. So, tommorow (Wensday) i am going to do it no matter what. I am not going to be a wuss or chicken out. My friends are betting on me to see how it will all turn out. I took the advice you guys gave me and i planned it all out. Once again thanks for the help. Tommorow will be the day of truth, LOL.
MassiveAtom Posted November 28, 2006 Posted November 28, 2006 Hey, i got a little problem. i am kinda shy, LOL. Tommorow will be the day of truth, LOL. Try this, Imagine yourself succeeding...Literally visualize her being totally into your approach and enjoying every minute of the conversation. You said you were nervous. So try picturing what you want to happen until it';s really clear. kinda like practicing, or psyching yourself up for it. Most of all, remember...she WANTS a "nice guy/bad boy" to talk to her, and she really DOESN'T want to reject anyone (unless she's ill)... why else does she look so good? You'll do fine. Relax, Say hi, and have fun. slightly dif'rent MA
Green Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I told you man dont even wory about planning it out. At your stage in the game whether she likes you or not just the fact that you have the balls to make a move will be a victory in its own. Look in the time you started telling me this story and today I probably hit on 10 different women atleast and I only got any where with one. look your making to much of a big deal out of this just talk to her a little ask her a few questions about music or something and listen and sweat, and then ask her for her number like you dont care. If she asks why you want her number just be like so I can call. If she than proceeds to say why do u want to call. In a jokingly cool way say I dont know. dont make a big deal out of any of this ur just chating her up a little and then ending with "you should give me your number" or "let me get your number" and then just pull out ur pen or phone or whatever like you know shes going to give it to you. If she doest give it to you dont say anything just act like it didnt hapen it doesnt mean ur screwed for good. remember no matter what happens tommorow whether she has friends talking to her, or ur friends talking to you or what ever just go talk to her and do it. when u get her number wait like a day or 2 before calling it, dont call it that night. If you call the number and she doesnt answer dont leave a message just call back the next day or what ever. and once you chat her up once try to chat her up more but dont do it in to friendly a way or you'll seem like just a wuss always do it in a non caring trying to get something way from her in the begining. you really have to play the game atleast at first.
ddnnee Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 good advice there. too bad my balls are too small at the moment. until my balls are bigger, i'll be a supa player.
Author punk666 Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 Hey, sorry for the long wait. I should probaly tell you guys how this all turned out in the end. I had to hold it off until this week because i had to take care of some buisness first. OK, So the day before i was suppose to ask her out i couldn't keep it a secret anymore and i told my buddy. I guess he must of went up to her at the end of the day and told her i liked her because the next day he told me that she wanted to meet me. I went up to her and introduced my self. I was so shy and so was she by the look on her face. Then the bell rang and we took off to our classes. We didn't say anything to each other for the rest of the day. The next day (yesterday) i was hanging around with friends and i couldn't stop looking at her. I knew i had to talk to her. So when last period came, i was walking past her locker and she waved and said hi. I forgot everything i was thinking about and walked up to her and talked to her. I had to take off so i wouldn't be late for my next class but she told me that we should talk more often. I couldn't stop thinking of her and i was determined to ask her out. So after class i waited at here locker and i just said to her if she wanted to go out sometime and she said YES. I couldn't belive that she said yes since we didn't even know each other. So i was happy, but i forgot to ask her for her number so i will probaly get it off of her Monday. The only thing that i think that will be weird is that she just started highschool and i only have less than a year left, LOL. I don't think it will be a issue. Thanks for everything...
Green Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 what are you like 17-18 and shes like 14-15. That is kind of weird and your posibly breaking the law but hell yeah you like her she likes you good going buddy. Oh and next time just approach the girl faster and dont let your friends go tell them you like them. thats really great that she said she wants to go out some time to bad you didnt set a time and a place and get her number! u have to make all the moves dont expect her to come find you now and set that time and place, remember stay cool, and try to touch her and stuff when you talk to her and tell her shes hot and stuff be flirty.
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