mybeatingheart Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I have known him about 2 years and we have always been flirty with one another. I have always felt intense attraction with him, and i believe he knows how much i like him, yet he does nothing to didcourage me quite the opposite. Not that i want him to, i quite enjoy the flirtiness with him. and yes i would like it to go further, i'm ashamed to say it but its the truth I love the way he looks at me at times when he touches me. and i wish he were single, i have tried many times to forget him and move on and thought i was i did see someone else that i quite like but none of the spark i have with the MM honestly no-one has ever made me feel like this ever. This new guy though i thought might help me forget him but he hasn't i'm just liking the MM more and more, I don't know why i'm posting this but feel like i have to express my feelings i have no-one to talk to about this, its hardly ideal to mention to your friends (who may be married themselves) that you fancy the pants of a married man.
Guest Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 honestly no-one has ever made me feel like this ever. Oh well. Sucks to be you then. See, the thing about life is that it's not all about you. You're just another grain of sand like the rest of us so nothing says you're entitled to anything (or anyone) just because you like them. What if it was a house or a car that belonged to someone else? You'd understand that, right? No stealy other people's things. Well it's the same with people. Someone else got there first so be an adult, accept it, and go find someone of your own. People these days just seem to be big spoiled babies that want what they want and throw tantrums if they can't have it - even if it belongs to someone else. Really sad, that. He's NOT yours so buzz off.
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Why on earth would you want to involve yourself with a married man? Go read a bunch of other posts in this section before you decide to hop into bed with him. 1)He is married and has a wife. Possibly he has kids too? 2)He is married, and has a wife, who he isn't going to leave, even if you fall for him hard... 3)You'd have to keep this secret, from your friends, family, co-workers...Why ON earth would you want to have a onesided relationship (i'll explain what I mean by that later) in which you'd not be proud of? OH yeah, cuz he's married... Focus on the new guy. Especially if he is single. *Married people are offlimits*, even if he is flirting with you, so what? IT is what it is, and if you pursue him, you will more than likely regret doing so. Again, go read some threads in this section to see what you're up against. -Holidays alone. Secret meetings, phonecalls - ALL on his terms. You will lose out more and more. This is what I meant by onesided...You'll be so into him, waiting for him - While he's at home with his wife, happily knowing he's got TWO women fulfilling all his selfish needs....THat is, if you have an affair with him... You haven't yet, but you are close. DO NOT involve yourself with the MM. He isn't yours for taking! Plus, think of his wife, how would she feel? You want to help him cheat on his wife? If so, be prepared to take FULL responsibility of your actions and suffer the consquences when the affair is exposed. Please think about the long term here, not 'in the moment so you feel good'. Ask questions, talk to the OW who have posted here, ask them about their own situations and see if they had to do it all over again, would they?? I can tell ya now, most would have RUN the other way and not allowed themselves to become the other woman.
oyster Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 whichwayisup summarized it all. I wish I found this forum and this section before I became the OM. One sided relationship that has to be a secret, plus the drama, plus always at the mercy of the married person schedule. hum, we single are FREEEEEEEEEEEEEE and we have the CHOICE to chose. If I turned back time, the Married person has to 1-Divorce, 2-Clean up 3-Prove to the single person why he/she divorcé is better suitable than a comparable SINGLE.
kymberann Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Save yourself the time, energy and pain this will cause you NOW! It will take you nowhere except heartacheville! At first you will have a rush of euphoria, happiness, that damned " I am so in love" feeling. You'll get an excited surge just from the secret keeping, as if this is so special because "NO one else knows, then it has to be real, magical/mystical, serendipity". whatever crap you want to call it! But eventually it will dwindle down to thoughts of not being good enough that MM won't leave for you. Frustrated and tense moments when you have to wait by the phone to see if he "can sneak out and come over" for only a few hours at a time. And don't forget how disgusted you will feel when he says to you, "I need to go take a shower so I don't smell like you" after making mad passionate love like no other two people on the whole entire earth. Those feel good emotions will further be replaced with jealousy as he goes home to wife, confusion as to how much longer you can take, and how much you are willing to deal with and yes even hatred that you allowed yourself to go through this torment! Add to that the desperation from wanting more and more time, then there is the obvious anxious and fraught behavior/feeling as you silently wonder when you will get to have more alone time with MM. The list goes on....this is only the begining of what I am going through! Simply turn the other way and don't give it a second thought~ Best!
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