emmaUK Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 i just feel like i wanan die and no matter how much people tell me "just move on" "get over him" you'l meet someone else" look to the future" etc etc etc - it dont help me to feel any better or make me feel like i wanna go on a second longer. i feel an unbearable feeling... i cant eat or sleep or do anything much for that matter. i feel like im not going to cope with this very well at all.
roxy_1980 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Emma, It's always the worst right after the break-up. You feel that it would just be easier to get back with them, especially when you have been together for several years, like you were. It's a comfort zone. It's our natural tendency to go towards what is familiar to us. But, it's not always what's best. Having read most of what you've posted through this relationship, it was self-destructive. It served no good purpose for either of you anymore. The trust in the relationship is long gone. Without trust, there is no peace of mind and without peace of mind, the relationship means very little. When you have feelings of despair and do not want to carry on, look at your beautiful daughter and focus solely on her. She's what matters. Stay strong, Roxy
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 All you can do is cry it out. Cry until you can't cry anymore...Then cry some more. I remember getting so hurt by a guy when I was in highschool many many years ago, he dumped me ON THE PHONE the night before my final exams! Bastard!! Can you believe that??? Anyway, I cried for days on end. Infact, I cried while writing exams! I told the teacher it was stress related. (though that didn't help my mark! LOL!) After afew days you'll feel abit more normal, it just happens. You may still cry but each passing day it will be less and less, then before you know it, it won't hurt as much.
Walk Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I hear ya Emma. It sucks! Probably the sharpest pain I felt was the time when my exbf completely avoided me one week after he'd taken my virginity, and then I found out that he'd been cheating on me the whole time... and on top of that, I'd loaned him $500 for his rent, and when I finally found him to confront him about it he called me every nasty name in the book. I was devestated. I wanted to die. Tried to commit suicide. Didn't do it, but I hurt so bad inside that it seemed like the pain would never end. I've found focusing on really small goals helps. Like.. breath in, breath out... make it through the morning...lunch is your goal. After lunch, then make it til dinner. etc. etc. Each day that passes is one more day of healling. Take it slow. Force yourself to eat at least something. Soups are good. And force yourself to go for a walk if you have a safe area to walk at. It'll help wear out your body so you can sleep better when you can fall asleep. Read up on the stages of grief too. Denial, anger, bartering..etc. You'll go through those stages while you heal.
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