Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 aaarggg my turn! weird. I'm having a relapse! I don't know what provoked it. Yesterday I was in the store and this guy shushed this girl and I flashed back to this horrendous moment when, as ex was trying to figure out if he was going back to ex or staying with me, he shushed me. more details on this seinfeld-esque moment here, comments appreciated! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t104979/ And today I was thinking about the fact that even though things aren't working out between them, he probably keeps in touch with her. But is forgeting all about me. The yuky feelings stem from the fact that she's mistreated him so much and yet he is still invested in her. I made him feel like a million bucks (he would constantly repeat) and he walks away. Must remember: Not the man for me, his loss. I am the prize. repeat as needed.
Spinderella Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 He doesn't sound like a great catch anyway. I would feel bad about that too, because it would make me feel I was so unimportant to him, my feelings didnt even matter. And yeah, its his loss.
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 The yuky feelings stem from the fact that she's mistreated him so much and yet he is still invested in her. Oh, please. Does she take him for granted? Are you talking about the frequent spankings? And are you sure that he doesn't secretly enjoy them?? We're complex beings, and I don't think you can quantify what it is that he is getting from her. You know that you should probably just let this go. Shhh...
Author Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 sure let it go, but it's what I've been telling myself for the last few weeks : "get over it, it's not important, let it go". I mean, when I think about it (and it has been days since I've thought about him). Yet I think about the shush and I get all emotionnally tied up. Shushing brings me right back. So my question is, how do I let it go? I basically want someone to tell me I'm being ridiculous about the shush thing. It's not a sign of his complete disrespect for me, rather a sign that he was overwhelmed and needed space at that precise moment. Does that make sense? But magichands, you're right. I only know what he told me about her. And He also told me he likes a good spanking. I know he's not the guy for me. I just need to get over this shhhhh.....................
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 It's not a sign of his complete disrespect for me, That's exactly what it was!!!! Why do you need his respect?! Shhh...
Author Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Why do you need his respect?! Point taken. Wow this is weird. A part of me just does not want to accept that this guy could treat me this way because... (thinking it through) omg! probably because I was hanging on somewhere in the back of my mind to the idea of a second chance. I must accept it. No second chance for the shush-master. Damn. I really liked him. It also means he wasn't worthy of the faith I had in him. I can't explain it. I never had so much faith in anyone as I did in him. And he betrayed that - with a shush. You guys just witnessed letting go in action. So thanks Spinderella and Magichands. Tough love is where it's at. (But if anyone has any other input, please join in)
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 No second chance for the shush-master. Hey, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Can you imagine how sexy it would be to hear someone shush as they pump? Shhh, shhh, shhh... ahhh! It's a bit like being nailed by a steam train. Once you've had your furnace stoked, you never go back.
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Hey, I'm sorry that you're going through this. Can you imagine how sexy it would be to hear someone shush as they pump? Shhh, shhh, shhh... ahhh! It's a bit like being nailed by a steam train. Once you've had your furnace stoked, you never go back. huhu! Believe me, the shush-master had what it took at the pump station... Just gotta find myself another ride.
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Just gotta find myself another ride. Just remember that you may well be having nightmares about being shushed at critical times in your life. Times when you desperately want to get something out. You could learn sign language, but then you have to rely on them not turning their back on you. I am a proud screamer. Carry a pocket megaphone if you need to. Or just punch them in the head. That'll teach them to shush you.
D-Lish Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 OMG! I'd bitch slap someone if they shushed me! Beotch! Shush this! Nobody shushed anybody in my store today... but an old lady farted LOUDLY in the changeroom....again. ahhhh, it's a daily occurance, reminds me that I don't want to get old. Whoa, lady! What are they feeding you there at the old folks home!??? lol. You're the prize K,... his loss. Now a shush pumping spanker... that would be a prize! Every once and a while we experience a setback... probably out of lonliness. The holidays are approaching, plans are being made... couples walking around in the malls all happy holding hands humming christmas carols. Give me a slingshot and a good pebble... I gotta get myself to TO, meet you for a pint and go trolling for boys... haha. His loss. Things aren't working out with him and his ex then??? D
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 OMG! I'd bitch slap someone if they shushed me! Beotch! Shush this! Nobody shushed anybody in my store today... but an old lady farted LOUDLY in the changeroom....again. ahhhh, it's a daily occurance, reminds me that I don't want to get old. Whoa, lady! What are they feeding you there at the old folks home!??? lol. You're the prize K,... his loss. Now a shush pumping spanker... that would be a prize! Every once and a while we experience a setback... probably out of lonliness. The holidays are approaching, plans are being made... couples walking around in the malls all happy holding hands humming christmas carols. Give me a slingshot and a good pebble... I gotta get myself to TO, meet you for a pint and go trolling for boys... haha. His loss. Things aren't working out with him and his ex then??? D Hey girl! I just discovered the "new post" function. took me awhile but now I'm addicted to LS times 5. I think it's all part of letting go. The shush was that one thing that just did not jive with my perception of him. Although, mise en contexte: his ex had just called my place and he was trying not to have an anxiety attact. I was starting to feel vulnerable, catching on that he was going back to her, and I wanted us to make things ok by projecting ourselves as friends in the future. He shushed. It all went downhill from there! His fault. His problems. His issues. But really, who shushes people? How mature is that? And this from a man I believed could take on the world? You know, I really hope we do get to meet in TO before I move away. You, an outgoing blonde, me, a nerdy brunette. Those boys just won't know what hit 'em.
D-Lish Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I'll totally make sure to get into the city in the next few weeks! Guys prefer brunettes anyway! Naturally... I'm a brunette according to my hairdresser and my roots! Why was his ex phoning your place? Yeah, the shushing thing is a bad sign. We play people up in our heads- I thought my ex was way more of a stand up guy than he turned out to be. But the fu&%er dumped me over the phone and left me during a really hard time. That tells me all I really need to know about what kind of man he truly is. I think we sometimes fall in love with the perception and potential that we ourselves create about them. Such a stubborn guy, my ex. Shushing, geez, how old was your ex anyway? I need to find a new ride too.... D
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Why was his ex phoning your place? Ah well that's easy. He had ignored her first e-mail. He was really proud of himself, as in, wow, I've finally moved on! So she sent three other ones. I don't know what he said in reply to those. All I remember is that he would get bogged down more and more after every e-mail. He told me: "She knows just how to get to me you know?" Eventually she realized that she would have to put her cards on the table or risk loosing him. She got my number from his parents and called my place. I think we sometimes fall in love with the perception and potential that we ourselves create about them. Couldn't agree more. In fact, in the case of the shushing ex, I think the potential I saw is what I'm having the hardest time letting go off. Not only that, but it burns me to know that he knew I saw it in him. Maybe he was weak. Or afraid. Or, oh wait, was still in love with his ex-girlfriend. I have to learn to be more selective when it comes to investing myself with a guy. We play people up in our heads- I thought my ex was way more of a stand up guy than he turned out to be. But the fu&%er dumped me over the phone and left me during a really hard time. That tells me all I really need to know about what kind of man he truly is. On ariawoman's thread you say your friends didn't really like the guy. I can see why if he broke up with you over the phone. I mean, I already thought it was pretty lame he left when you were having a hard time. D, this guy doesn't deserve a prize like you. But then I am reminded of everything I have learned thanks to LS and you about how our pride plays tricks on us. How could he let go of you? I suspect he's a weak one too.
D-Lish Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I can't believe she actually had the balls to call YOUR place looking for him! Weak is right. It sounds like you and your ex just had "bad timing". I remember meeting this awesome guy in my last year of University- we hung out all the time, we clicked, he was so good, and so right for me. Unfortunately I had just gotten out of a long term abusive relationship and I just wasn't "ready" to be with that guy at that time. To this day I still think of him and have some regrets. I think you're going to be a regret for this guy in the long run. He obviously just wasn't ready to accept a healthy, positive relationship. When he finally does get his s*** together and resolve his issues~ he's going to think of his time with you and kick his own ass. My ex is soooo icy. I've resolved not to contact him anymore. I keep saying that and breaking it, but this time I'm really working at it. You're the prize, you're the prize... his loss. lol, that mantra has hooked me! You're just going to have to start shouting it to complete strangers! Someone will come up to you at work and say, "um, excuse me, but..." and you'll just turn to them and shout "I'M THE PRIZE!!!" then go back to what you were doing. I think Magic hands has a crush on you... he said he wanted to "sniff" you! haha. This relapse will pass. You've been doing really well. Stupid weak, cowardly ex's! D
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 I You're the prize, you're the prize... his loss. lol, that mantra has hooked me! You're just going to have to start shouting it to complete strangers! Someone will come up to you at work and say, "um, excuse me, but..." and you'll just turn to them and shout "I'M THE PRIZE!!!" then go back to what you were doing. Lol. Ah that's priceless D! I have to try it just to see my co-worker's reaction! LOL. I'm still laughing.
Teacher's Pet Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I need to find a new ride too.... What kind of ride are you looking for? Something sporty? Or perhaps something bigger with better traction on those bumps? -tp lowrider
D-Lish Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 What kind of ride are you looking for? Something sporty? Or perhaps something bigger with better traction on those bumps? -tp lowrider Something to make me feel safe that is good on GAS! Something with just enough mileage for me to know it's trustworthy- but not so much mileage that it'll break down on me. Airbags are a MUST, as is four wheel drive for those days when I'm feeling stuck. Should have the strength of a semi... but the balls of a V8. Oh, and I'm the only one that gets to ride it! Other "passengers" will be swiftly and effectively ejected. And if my ride is really good to me, I will promise to shine it's bumpers as often as needed! lol. D "I've got no ticket to ride"
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 And if my ride is really good to me, I will promise to shine it's bumpers as often as needed! There's nothing like a good oil change.
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I think Magic hands has a crush on you... he said he wanted to "sniff" you! haha. I'm going more for the slow squeeze. You don't want a pink elephant charging you, believe me. Not from any angle.
D-Lish Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 or a lube, oil, and filter.... yeah, that's what I'ma talkin' about. puuurrrrrr for me baby.
Teacher's Pet Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 TP is good on GAS, D-Lish. LOL Like you've ever taken me for a test drive. -tp gas guzzler.
AriaIncognito Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Oh, i was referring to bodily gas. HAHAHA. *runs away cuz I'm definitely faster*
Teacher's Pet Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 *runs away cuz I'm definitely faster* Of course you are. A woman with her dress up runs a lot faster than a man with his pants down. -tp unzipped and unleashed!
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