Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 i am just wondering what how to react to your boyfriend just geting caught in a really stupid small lie. I guess I will explain, my boy was sending me pics from a night he went out and they went to hooters he told me there was a pic of him and one girl that worked there which I have no porblem at all with. But he was sending me the pics and I said "where's the one with you and the girl"! with a little wink as a joke. Well he told me that his bro didn't send him that one yet but I got the email with that pic in it!!! He tried to re call the email, so i just replied and said "guess you made a mistake and sent it to me than tried to recall it "thaight your bro didnt send you that one yet" and he just said "something must have happened i didn't even see it I would have snet it anyway" Thats the weird thing he would have and I would never care bout something like that so why did he lie?!? and try and re call it? I just am not mad just upset that he would fib about something so stupid. I don't want to drag it on jus wondering what I should do, just leave it or be upset I donno. The holething is I don't care the only thing that bugs me is that he would lie about something so stupid and he NEVER would. We are extremely open to everything. any input?
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 i am just wondering what how to react to your boyfriend just geting caught in a really stupid small lie. I guess I will explain, my boy was sending me pics from a night he went out and they went to hooters he told me there was a pic of him and one girl that worked there which I have no porblem at all with. But he was sending me the pics and I said "where's the one with you and the girl"! with a little wink as a joke. Well he told me that his bro didn't send him that one yet but I got the email with that pic in it!!! He tried to re call the email, so i just replied and said "guess you made a mistake and sent it to me than tried to recall it "thaight your bro didnt send you that one yet" and he just said "something must have happened i didn't even see it I would have snet it anyway" Thats the weird thing he would have and I would never care bout something like that so why did he lie?!? and try and re call it? I just am not mad just upset that he would fib about something so stupid. I don't want to drag it on jus wondering what I should do, just leave it or be upset I donno. The holething is I don't care the only thing that bugs me is that he would lie about something so stupid and he NEVER would. We are extremely open to everything. any input? Does he know that it wouldn't have bothered you to see the picture?
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I think he was only trying to protect you. Even though you said you had no problem with it, almost all women would so he may have been uncertain about whether or not to send it to you. I wouldn't grill him or put him on the spot about it. Just let it go.
TYASAFAHICSI Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Dump the lying SOB. Seems to be the advice most people here give. I mean first it is this, and then where can it lead? Might as well nip it in the bud right now and ditch the fokker!
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Dump the lying SOB. Seems to be the advice most people here give. I mean first it is this, and then where can it lead? Might as well nip it in the bud right now and ditch the fokker! Just like your last thread is bogus, your advice here is terrible. To the OP this is obviously not something to 'dump' your bf over.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I agree that its nothing worth breaking up over but you definitely need to talk to him and tell him that its not cool to tell these little fibs. For some people, if they can lie about something so meaningless, then they have no problem lying about bigger things.
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I agree that its nothing worth breaking up over but you definitely need to talk to him and tell him that its not cool to tell these little fibs. For some people, if they can lie about something so meaningless, then they have no problem lying about bigger things. But it wasn't something so meaningless. If he lied about what he had for lunch then that would be strange and something to worry over that he could just as easily lie about something big. But he lied because this was a picture of him with a hooter girl to be sent to his gf to see. Obviously most men would not share such a picture with a gf and he may have been having doubts about whether or not to share it, which I think is healthy compared to a bf who didn't care about sharing such a picture with his gf. She now has a copy of it to look at whenever she wants to and I doubt it will not have even a tiny 1% influence on her even if subconsciously.
TYASAFAHICSI Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 My post was satirical. Sorry if it did not come across. I have read a bunch and it seem that the prevalent answer to any man who fibs, lies, or otherwise does something unagreeable to the poster, the other women get on the "ditch his ass bandwagon". Women are always given the benefit of the doubt here and the men are run out of town on a rail. Look at EmmaUKs post. Hell, look at mine! Fun2BeMe--you offered some good advice, and you have no problem calling out Outcast, but now it seems that you are the self annointed Goddess of thread veracity! Have you deemed this one to be bogus or not bogus? Just curious! Personally in regards to this post, someone mentioned if he knew you were cool with it--that is probably the answer---I am guessing he was not sure. Maybe there is a communication problem.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 But it wasn't something so meaningless. If he lied about what he had for lunch then that would be strange and something to worry over that he could just as easily lie about something big. But he lied because this was a picture of him with a hooter girl to be sent to his gf to see. Obviously most men would not share such a picture with a gf and he may have been having doubts about whether or not to share it, which I think is healthy compared to a bf who didn't care about sharing such a picture with his gf. She now has a copy of it to look at whenever she wants to and I doubt it will not have even a tiny 1% influence on her even if subconsciously. I am referring to meaningless as a little white lie or fib. I didn't mean that the lie that was told to Mythical is meaningless.
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 My post was satirical. Sorry if it did not come across. I have read a bunch and it seem that the prevalent answer to any man who fibs, lies, or otherwise does something unagreeable to the poster, the other women get on the "ditch his ass bandwagon". Women are always given the benefit of the doubt here and the men are run out of town on a rail. Look at EmmaUKs post. Hell, look at mine! Fun2BeMe--you offered some good advice, and you have no problem calling out Outcast, but now it seems that you are the self annointed Goddess of thread veracity! Have you deemed this one to be bogus or not bogus? Just curious! Well since you are a member for under a month it seems strange that you have formed opinions on what type of advice is given on this forum. I have been posting about my messed up relationship for months now and if it wasn't for everyone constantly telling me to see things his way I woud've left him a long long time ago including once again a few days ago when I was set on doing it. So again, I found your post to be out of place but anyways, would like to continue on a clean slate and just to advise you to not make such grandiose generalizations about how men or women are advised here. Everyone's situation and feedback are different from the longer time I have been here and I find it hard for you to make such generalizations. Anyways...
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I am referring to meaningless as a little white lie or fib. I didn't mean that the lie that was told to Mythical is meaningless. Well you did tell her to have a 'talk' with him about the little fib. He obviously did it because maybe he didn't want to hurt her. I'm sure he knows not to lie if this is the one lie she is complaining about here. Maybe he thought he'd just show her from his own computer. I mean it's kinda sad she has a copy of that type of a picture and if I was in his shoes, after clicking the send botton I'd be like "oh sh**, what was I thinking" and try to retreieve it. Then to be put on the spot and have a 'talk' about not fibbing is over the top.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Well you did tell her to have a 'talk' with him about the little fib. He obviously did it because maybe he didn't want to hurt her. I'm sure he knows not to lie if this is the one lie she is complaining about here. Maybe he thought he'd just show her from his own computer. I mean it's kinda sad she has a copy of that type of a picture and if I was in his shoes, after clicking the send botton I'd be like "oh sh**, what was I thinking" and try to retreieve it. Then to be put on the spot and have a 'talk' about not fibbing is over the top. But Mythical said that seeing the picture wouldn't have bothered her at all, so the only thing that he did that was anywhere near hurtful was lying about the picture.
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 But Mythical said that seeing the picture wouldn't have bothered her at all, so the only thing that he did that was anywhere near hurtful was lying about the picture. How would she know it won't bother her before she sees it? I've heard of dozens of stories where a girl says it won't, but once she sees it it does. Maybe he wasn't sure if it was the right thing to show her. Let's say it did bother her and so she wanted to see it. If she told him it bothered her, he would not have shown her so maybe he thought she was saying that to get him to send it. I find it strange he emailed such a picture and would've only show it from the computer so she wouldn't have a copy. I find it strange that it would have absolutely ZERO effect on her and her bf was smart to realize this.
Author Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Thank you to you both (you know who you are) You are both right, yes Riddler he knows it wouldn't have made me mad at all. I didn't mention I have been having a really hard time lately and going through some really ****ty things. I think he just didn't want to upset me. I am guessing that is why..
My Fair Katie Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Maybe your email correspondence was a little clearer than you're indicating here, but by responding to his sent pictures with: ""where's the one with you and the girl"! with a little wink as a joke." he probably figured you didn't get that one and assumed he didn't send it, which would mean he didn't yet get it (that's what I would've figured and I speak fluent women). But like I said, maybe I'm just all cluster*****ed.
Author Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Thanks fun2beme and ridller I don't take stupid advise from ppl like that anywase... I know he meant nothing by it and I would actually have no problem with it at all he told me about the pic a day before he just didn't want to show me today im assumeing because we didn't have the best night last night. I just wanted to know if i should be mad or just say it bugged me and leave it at that. I've decided to just drop it....my response to the pic was just don;t know why you'd lie about something like that. He said i never lie to you and never would but it just screwed up and sent for some reason. So he kept trying to cover abbout ahving it (obviously he is embarrsed) but I know his intentions were not to hurt me. thanks guys I think its just better to forget about something so dumb, he knows I have been very depressed ad probabaly didn't want to put a dmaper on things
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 How would she know it won't bother her before she sees it? Go back and read the first post. She did see it, he sent her the pic, denied it and then tried to recall the email.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Thanks fun2beme and ridller I don't take stupid advise from ppl like that anywase... I know he meant nothing by it and I would actually have no problem with it at all he told me about the pic a day before he just didn't want to show me today im assumeing because we didn't have the best night last night. I just wanted to know if i should be mad or just say it bugged me and leave it at that. I've decided to just drop it....my response to the pic was just don;t know why you'd lie about something like that. He said i never lie to you and never would but it just screwed up and sent for some reason. So he kept trying to cover abbout ahving it (obviously he is embarrsed) but I know his intentions were not to hurt me. thanks guys I think its just better to forget about something so dumb, he knows I have been very depressed ad probabaly didn't want to put a dmaper on things Well you do continue to say that the two of you have a great relationship, so I am sure that he meant no harm.
Author Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Well you do continue to say that the two of you have a great relationship, so I am sure that he meant no harm. Thanks, When he calls me this evening If I mention it at all Iwill just say I know you were trying to avoid making me sad/mad so I just want you to be honest and say that and not pretend it was your computer that screwed it up, like I mean he said his brother never even sent it, and I got an email saying he tried to recall it so obviously he is lying and just embarresed I just deserve for him to admit that. and thats all I will say. Good idea you think?
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Thanks, When he calls me this evening If I mention it at all Iwill just say I know you were trying to avoid making me sad/mad so I just want you to be honest and say that and not pretend it was your computer that screwed it up, like I mean he said his brother never even sent it, and I got an email saying he tried to recall it so obviously he is lying and just embarresed I just deserve for him to admit that. and thats all I will say. Good idea you think? Couldn't have said it better myself.
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