Greenfrog Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I broke up with my long term bf and have tried to start dating. I wanted to remain friends with my ex but he said something so cold, mean and cruel that I think I never want to talk, see or even know him anymore. I don't think Im bad looking Im 5'5, 126 lbs, workout a lot and have blond hair and big green eyes. I even modeled to pay for my college tuition. (If that means anything) He now directs tv commercials and showed me a reel of a new one. He went on and on about how great their skinny bodies were and how nice that they were 6'2 and 5'10. Later on we were talking and I said that the models he worked with were attractive but Im glad I have some breasts and a decent butt and am not rail thin. He turned to me looked me in the eye and said with all seriousness: You are not good looking. Do you think youre good looking ? You can't compare yourself to these girls who are thin when you aren't slender like them." was stunned and asked him if he was kidding. He actually reiterated again said I was not good looking and that I shouldnt get all emotional about facts he was telling me. What is wrong with him ? Is he saying that because he wants to destroy my self confidence to date new guys ? I am so depressed and hurt. I havent told my family or friends what he said. I think theyd kill him. Should I just never speak to him again ? I want to say something to make myself feel better, but I dont know what. Great Thanksgiving Im having. Alone brooding over this.
oyster Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 just cut the EX FREE. I am a guy and I will never understand why woman wants to remain friends with their EX.
westernxer Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Given your physical description, I'd love to have you as my Thanksgiving turkey (I'd eat you slowly with a smile). Kidding aside, your ex is probably bitter about the breakup, thus his cruel words. Sometimes it's better not to be friends with exes. Now you know why.
Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 hmmm you know I really don't know. If i didn't care I guess I would play along with it and act like it doesn't bug me at all....is he good looking? But if it did bug me and he actually was doing it to shoot you down.don't ever talk to him again like seriously obviously your not bad looking so hes either on crack or just plain trying to piss you off.......like its just ridiculous....maybe he is jealous of you
Mythical Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 aha I left something out. Me and my ex dated for 4 years and are still friends.probabaly not a good idea. I mean he still tells me I am beatiful but a les serious case, if I bring up going out, talking to other guys, having fun etc.he gets jealous and mad and say things like "thats stupid" those ppl are losers anywase", etc....just I know its because he is still in love with me but if you are going to choose to be bitter and mean move on. I should probabaly do it for him, but we are still friends
lindya Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 He turned to me looked me in the eye and said with all seriousness: You are not good looking. Do you think youre good looking ? You can't compare yourself to these girls who are thin when you aren't slender like them." was stunned and asked him if he was kidding.[/b] He actually reiterated again said I was not good looking and that I shouldnt get all emotional about facts he was telling me. He needs a basic lesson in understanding that subjective assessment - even his ( ) - does not equate with objectively ascertained facts. As for dictating how you should feel about his comments....that sounds like the comment of a wanky little git who's on an "I'm Mr Facts and Rationality" crusade at your expense. People sometimes use insults as a means of manipulating others into working for their validation. Is he the type to do that? Or might he have witnessed some-one else speaking to women this way, thought it sounded good and decided to throw something similar in your direction? Is there any particular reason you want to stay friends with him?
burning 4 revenge Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I did this, but she kept insisting I was gay when she knew I wasn't just to hurt me. So I said similar things to your boyfriend except directed at her hooknose and her face and she cried. I don't feel the least bit sorry for it either. happy thanksgiving everybody!
Spinderella Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 What is wrong with him ? Is he saying that because he wants to destroy my self confidence to date new guys ? I am so depressed and hurt. Yes. Nobody would say that, if they really thought it was true. If you don't speak to him again, he will have to think about why.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I broke up with my long term bf and have tried to start dating. I wanted to remain friends with my ex but he said something so cold, mean and cruel that I think I never want to talk, see or even know him anymore. I don't think Im bad looking Im 5'5, 126 lbs, workout a lot and have blond hair and big green eyes. I even modeled to pay for my college tuition. (If that means anything) He now directs tv commercials and showed me a reel of a new one. He went on and on about how great their skinny bodies were and how nice that they were 6'2 and 5'10. Later on we were talking and I said that the models he worked with were attractive but Im glad I have some breasts and a decent butt and am not rail thin. He turned to me looked me in the eye and said with all seriousness: You are not good looking. Do you think youre good looking ? You can't compare yourself to these girls who are thin when you aren't slender like them." was stunned and asked him if he was kidding. He actually reiterated again said I was not good looking and that I shouldnt get all emotional about facts he was telling me. What is wrong with him ? Is he saying that because he wants to destroy my self confidence to date new guys ? I am so depressed and hurt. I havent told my family or friends what he said. I think theyd kill him. Should I just never speak to him again ? I want to say something to make myself feel better, but I dont know what. Great Thanksgiving Im having. Alone brooding over this. Wow, he is heartless and just plain mean. It is difficult to be friends with the ex and I think that its harder for him then it is for you. I think that he only said those comments because he wants to ruin your self-esteem and confidence to the point where you won't want to date any other guys. I believe that he is just jealous because he knows that you could probably date almost any guy that you wanted. Just remember that he doesn't have to be a part of your life or heart anymore, so don't let his hurtful comments get to you in anyway.
dgiirl Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 First of all, what your ex said to you was completely mean and cruel. And I personally would not have anyone like that in my life. That's NOT a friend. However, his response was in response to you trashing the other girl's he works with. What you did was not much better. Maybe you should think about why you felt the need to trash these women in front of him? Were you insecure and looking for reassurance from him that he still found you attractive? He's an ex! You shouldnt be playing these types of games with an ex.
Pyro Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 However, his response was in response to you trashing the other girl's he works with. What you did was not much better. Maybe you should think about why you felt the need to trash these women in front of him? Were you insecure and looking for reassurance from him that he still found you attractive? He's an ex! You shouldnt be playing these types of games with an ex. I didn't even think about this. Good point dgiirl.
Author Greenfrog Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 However, his response was in response to you trashing the other girl's he works with. What you did was not much better. Maybe you should think about why you felt the need to trash these women in front of him? Were you insecure and looking for reassurance from him that he still found you attractive? He's an ex! You shouldnt be playing these types of games with an ex. I didnt trash them. I said they were attractive but I was happy with myself. And his exact words were how much he wanted to f^ck them silly and they had the kind of bodies men like most. I didnt say anything bad about them, I stood up for myself by saying Im satisfied with myself. And I should add that the ex already has a new girlfriend (5'11, 130 lbs) So while he has a new girlfriend he goes overseas and salivates over girls he has hired for tv commericals. I wont be his friend anymore, Im just sad I tried so hard to give him the benefit of the doubt and wasted energy caring.
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Were you insecure and looking for reassurance from him that he still found you attractive? He's an ex! You shouldnt be playing these types of games with an ex. I understand why you're upset, but beauty is only skin-deep. Pretty things don't keep your attention forever. Looks like you got stung by your own barb. Serves you right, I think. I assume that your college tuition was more than a three-figure sum, so that's pretty decent validation if that's what you feel you need. Well...when you get back to your college dimensions. Just kidding.
Author Greenfrog Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 so get this. exN just IMd me how he was all alone on Thanksgiving. He said his new girlfriend won't do what he wants at holidays so he didnt even bother seeing his own family and his godson today. That he is eating cold tomato soup. And that maybe I can come over and keep him company later. Yeah oh wow I want to have a late night booty call with a cheating ex who thinks Im unpretty ! :lmao: I dont engage in schadenfreude, so I am not sitting here gloating. I am just amazed by his insane disconnect and his pathetic inability to get along with women longterm. What a sad weird loser. And with that said Im taking a nice bubble bath, getting dressed and going to see The Fountain or Deja Vu in NYC. Hope everyone had a delish Thanksgiving or an otherwise good day to everyone across the pond.
dgiirl Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 And his exact words were how much he wanted to f^ck them silly and they had the kind of bodies men like most. Clearly, this man has no respect for women. So why are you friends with him? Anyways, I still stand by what I said. If a man said that to me, I'd tell him that I found that language very disrespectful, stand up and leave. I wouldnt try to level myself higher by attacking these women and comparing my boobs to theirs. You didnt handle the situation very well. You let his first comment slide by, then attacked these women in an effort to raise your own self esteem, and then he attacked you again. He clearly got what he wanted, you to doubt yourself. If you want respect, then act in a respectful manner. Stand up for yourself with class by saying exactly what you feel without trying to degrade another.
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Yeah oh wow I want to have a late night booty call with a cheating ex who thinks Im unpretty ! What better way to get the validation you so sorely need? Don't let this opportunity slip you by. Just make sure he says you're prettier than the TV-commercial girls before he sticks it in.
theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Best way to get back at an ex who insults you is say "well you went with me , i can't be that bad" , they can't say they were desperate because it will make them look like a fool. My ex always said that's what her bf before me said to her , me being a fool at the time told her this.
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 You're telling me that you've NEVER been desperate? Liar, liar...pants on fire!
theadventure50120 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 You're telling me that you've NEVER been desperate? Liar, liar...pants on fire! No. lol. I set my heart on people i like , if they don't feel the same i find another I did insult my ex though , but she has ruined her face since i been away from her...by getting 4! lip piercings. Which doesn't look normal.
melodymatters Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 The bottom line: any guy with whom you are, or were, romatically involved with, who feels compelled to talk about how hot his ex's and or other woman are is either: insecure pathetic mean spirited or a completely clueless ( the last being the only forgivable one) I am willing to state few things as fact, but having danced round this particular campfire more than once, I back up my statement. Therefore, is they fall into the first 3 catagories, who cares, lose their number. The last, is teachable, trust me.
roxy_1980 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Unfortunately, you stayed friends with an @$$hole! Dump Him!!
Author Greenfrog Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Unfortunately, you stayed friends with an @$$hole! Dump Him!! I have. He can rot. He actually wrote me a long stupid email tonight explaining that when he said I am not good looking what he meant for my own good is that I'd be stunning if I weighed 110 or less. He's a Nutf^ckingheadcase
Walk Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Holy Crack Whore Robbin!! 110lbs at 5'5"? hahahahahah His idea of attractive is if you disappear when you turn sideways. Of losing you when you walk over sewer grates??? he's a little outta touch with the idea of "healthy body weight" isn't he?
Author Greenfrog Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Holy Crack Whore Robbin!! 110lbs at 5'5"? hahahahahah His idea of attractive is if you disappear when you turn sideways. Of losing you when you walk over sewer grates??? he's a little outta touch with the idea of "healthy body weight" isn't he? No according to him ALL men like really thin women. And if they don't he would tell me they were "settling" or had low self esteem. When Id tell him some men prefer a little meat, he'd tell me I was feeding myself women's propaganda. My grandmother said it sound gay or pedophile-like to want someone so thin. And he knew I was anorexic as a teen and then weighed 98-105 lbs when I modelled. His new gf is 5'11 , 130 and he says how perfect her tiny @ss is. I sure know how to pick 'em.
magichands Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 He's a Nutf^ckingheadcase With a great arse?
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