suchislife Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 The Mad Texter did it again! And, I got sucked right in - AGAIN! If you check my other posts, you'll see how he texts, blah blah, says we'll get together, yada yada... And then, bam! Nothing. Not texts, no Happy Thanksgiving, nothing. Wow. I'd like to say he's a jerk but I'm the jerk for letting it happen again. I know it has nothing to do with me, it's all about him being scared and him not wanting me to think I'm not special enough to hear from him on a Holiday. He's right. I'm not. And I think I'm glad. Now, I just have to do NC and take one day at a time. I feel like S*** but have no one to blame but myself. Wow.
lolablue Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 He is a jerk... next time he texts you delete it right away and don't respond, don't give him the satisfaction, you deserve better. take care
Author suchislife Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 I know I do. It just hurts. I also know that's why he's doing it. Why, oh why, would I want to be involved with that?! Thanks for responding. My post isn't new, or unusual, but it really hurts, just the same.
lolablue Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I know it hurts, thats why we're here right? You need to start thinking about yourself and your needs and thats when things will start looking up. And if he's intentionally trying to hurt you why would you want to respond to that? He's playing games don't let him. ((((hugs)))))
lolablue Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 It will get better, just time. Go out with friends, keep busy, don't let him break your spirit.
Author suchislife Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Thank you for responding. I'm going with a group of people to see a movie later. That will help. We have been friends for a year. What a stupid way to end it.
theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Next time he texts , ignore him and watch how he acts...he will be confused and not know what is happening and you will have control. He texts you , you text back and he ignores you , he thinks he has all the control thinking he can ignore and talk to you when he pleases.
Author suchislife Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Yes, this is a control issue. I've been reading some of the other messages and have read that I can control how I react and even though I know that, it's easier said than done, which most of us know. I'm just tired of the immaturity of it. If he really had control of his own feelings, he would just act like a normal person. He was snotty to me the night he was getting ready to visit his family. I think it was because I told him to have a great time and he didn't know what I would be doing. Well, ASK! I didn't rant and rave and make comments about him staying and spending time with me. Gee, call me a grownup. The world doesn't revolve around me and I thought it was great he was seeing his family. Whatever. I'm just going to go on cruise control and stay busy. Thanks for responding. I'll take all I can get.
theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Yeah just think of all the times he has ignored you and learn from it. Don't think he has changed and he will text back , he will do that when you start ignoring him. What helps me is when i help others on here , it lets me see what i did wrong. It's so hard helping yourself in your own situation , but when helping others it makes you realize. I'm 15days NC now and i have control as i ignored my ex's last attempt to message me .
Author suchislife Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 I'm going to come back to this post and read what you wrote until I get it through my head. I barely got through the day, which is really too bad. You are absolutely right - he will text. I just have to grow up and realize it's not going to get better. I have to remember how I felt today and how I struggled to not cry. Thanks.
Author suchislife Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Doing ok today. Going out and getting some things done. I had some time to think and really, let's face it, this whole thing is ridiculous and I just want a normal life. This texting is just kind of distancing and not real. I'd like more opinions/encouragement. It keeps me going. Thanks.
lolablue Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Glad to hear your doing better. It will get better. He just likes to know he has the power to contact you whenever it suits him, and that is just not fair. So ignore him, let him get a taste of his own damn medicine, let him wonder. Have a great weekend!
Author suchislife Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 Doing better today. Probably the calm before the storm... of tears that is! I deleted his number from my cell which will help with those weak moments. Staying busy with family, friends and other stuff. I just need to think about me for a while. I do not want to go through this a Christmas, and I won't if I don't let him back in.
Author suchislife Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 Making it through NC. There's just no point to this anymore. I'm calm but you know, it's empty. Going to work out soon and that will help. There is a part of me that feels a bit of relief but I know I'll have a hard time tonight. Just have to stay busy.
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