forgotten1 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Long story short... Been broke up with my ex gf for about 2 wks. We parted peacefully, and it was a joint thing. I've had no contact. She texted me the other night to tell me she missed me and hopes I'm doing well. I didn't respond. Today she called me to wish me a happy thanksgiving. I didn't know what to do, so I ignored it at first. I called her back about a half hour later. I'm proud of myself because I didn't cave in on the phone. I kept it short. Asked about her family and school. Briefly let her know what I was up to in my life. I kept a positive tone, and cut it off before anything emotional came out. I just said, I should go, I have to get ready to go to meet my family. Maybe it was just me, but she seemed a bit taken back for a sec, but then we just said goodbye. I know I wanted to say so much to her, but I know its not right. If anything, she is the one that needs to express the emotion first. Until then I am going to be as distant as possible until I'm completely over her. Talking to her made me miss her so much. Just the sound of her voice...her laugh... I was scared to call, but It's not ruining my day as much as I thought it would. Anyways, just thought I'd share my experience... Feedback is welcome!!
Author forgotten1 Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Yes. I mean, I think things could work in the future. After she is done with school next semester, the relationship could be a bigger priority for her. I'm not counting on that though. I am doing what I need to do. If it happens then so be it. I'm just not going to explode emotionally to her in hopes of bringing things back. It wouldn't be worth it right now.
Author forgotten1 Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 man...now I'm going crazy. I can't stop thinking about her. I want to call her and try to meet up, although it was an LDR and she's almost 3hrs away. I feel so clear on everything that happened and I DO think there could be a chance. I don't know whats right right now. All I know is that I have been so strong. I've fought every urge I've had and so far succeeded. I want to call her this weekend. I know what I want out of it. I don't know if its possible. I also don't know if more time NC is going to solve anything. F%$k. So confused. I think (hope) shes feeling the same way right now...
confused_too_much Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Dude do NOT contact her on a weekend - if you contact her you will answer HER thoughts - she may be asking herself "hmmm... why aint he contacting me, it's weekend, I wonder what he's up to" - if you contact her then she can go out happy knowing that you are thinking about her!!! think about it No contact on a Monday - it shows you didnt have a good weekend, if you do do it through the week and at evening, after 9 or so.... hehe In fact wait till she contacts you again!!! Once that happens you'll be sure she was thinking about you. Take care.
Author forgotten1 Posted November 25, 2006 Author Posted November 25, 2006 Thanks... I think shes thinking about me a bit. Its just that I've been pretty unresponsive to her latest contacts. I feel as if I do that too much it will drive her away for good. I DO want her back at some point. I dunno...Your right about contacting her over the weekend, or early week. Or at all even I'm going to try my hardest to give it another week, or more if possible. I know this semester is over for her soon, and that would be an opportune time to meet up. I don't even want to express anything to her unless it is to her face. I was going to send her flowers just to say good luck with school cause I know shes having a hard time keeping up. I'm not sure whats right, so I go on ignoring etc. I can only do that for so long though...
confused_too_much Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 forgotten1 - if she loved you (really loved you) and you guys had good times together she will be thinking of you. My ex called last night! at 4am, drunk, with 2 of her mates. This used to be normal when we were together so it wasnt like it was unusal, well it was unusal because we are broken up!!! It was nice to have caught up with one of her friends though, I have to say, I liked her (as a friend). her excuse: "hey, I know I shouldnt be calling, I am not calling to make up I am just calling to see if you had been drinking"... yeah right! Girls like to test guys mate, just be aware of that! ok. whether they know they are doing it or not they test us all the time! Ignoring, fishing for jealousy, teasing etc... generally, these are all tests! I know my ex and I know when she is fishing and she was fishing last night. I didnt act up or play to it. forgotten1 - play it cool. Have fun, and let her see that you are cool and not bothered. DO NOT wear your heart on your sleave EVEN if/when you get back with her. No flowers (not yet) no nothing from you, just play it cool and move on.... if she really likes you and was in love with you it wont be long dude till she starts flaking and calling you up more often and with dumber reasons to call than the previous one.... just DO NOT go into an emotional rant! I feel as if I do that too much it will drive her away for good Act the way you have been acting - but sometimes flirt a little! You wont drive her away you will drive her CRAZY!!! Now man, you can hope if you knew there was love in the first place but if there wasnt love then dont expect anything - you will know she is thinking about and possibly missing you when SHE calls you.
Author forgotten1 Posted November 25, 2006 Author Posted November 25, 2006 Thanks man. I know shes thinking about me, but shes even more stubborn than I am. I just have to do what I have been doing and put myself first. Go out and have fun like I have been. I dunno...Its hard because she was a LDR (3hrs away) so its not like I'm going to run into her, nor will her friends see me out having fun. Its easier not to contact each other since we are so far away. I guess what I need to say is this... Her and I love each other, there is no doubt. Right now things are messed up because of her school. I've ignored her a couple times already. I just hope she comes around again. If not, I don't know that I can forget about it myself. I almost regret calling her back the other day (refer to my first post in this thread). It felt good after but now I just want more...
freshlillies Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Thanks man. I know shes thinking about me, but shes even more stubborn than I am. I just have to do what I have been doing and put myself first. Go out and have fun like I have been. I dunno...Its hard because she was a LDR (3hrs away) so its not like I'm going to run into her, nor will her friends see me out having fun. Its easier not to contact each other since we are so far away. I guess what I need to say is this... wow you sounds like me me and my ex are trying the " friends things " but we were ldr so seeing him is not an option or him getting any old feelings for me.. the best thing i can do is just sit back and as you ignore him , while inside i am breaking down and all i want to do is hear his vioce.. i CANT and i refuse to act like a fool. if she has any feelings for you , they will not go away that fast, giving her some time to miss you is best. on a side note... girls think about relationships alot more then guys, we pick at them and annalyze them .. so if you as a man are thinking this much, imagine what shes thinking. that is all good luck
Author forgotten1 Posted November 27, 2006 Author Posted November 27, 2006 thanks freshlillies... I've just been so strong holding out. I've even met girls. All meeting new girls did was remind me how hard it is to find someone that truly keeps my interest. Someone I click with and won't get sick of in 2 days. I'm not sure what the next few days will bring. I just want to hear her voice, and find out if she feels the same way I do. The only way I know how to truly find that is to call her....blah...
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