WhiteKnight Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Well I have been formed into a relationship lately and things are slowly improving but I ran into a problem when my girlfriend gets drunk. I'll explain... I have been having the trouble of finding an alcoholic drink that actually tastes nice for me. In the end I managed to find some champagne and so did my partner as well. We wanted to use the champagne to celebrate because of the hard work we had this year with our studies at University/College. We've been through a lot and at the same time, this is actually my first for handling a drunk woman. My partner drank a glass and got really drunk, me and my friend were watching her and was quite shocked about it. After observing her she was doing some bad ideas and staggering side to side in the room, so I took her to my bedroom to rest. I felt kinda feel awful at the moment, I feel very bad because I scolded her and ordered her to stay in bed and sleep due to the fact she seemed rather tired and all. Me and my friend help, my partner to the room and put her on bed. She was a bit stubborn and told me that she hated me. Then I scolded her and said, "PLease try and listen to me as I'm trying to look out for you. I am worried about when you get drunk." After I left the room, she went to sleep and I checked of her a few times just to make sure she is okay. Do you think I did okay in this situation? I wouldn't mind any hints or tips for this because I need to be prepared for something like that in the near future. Any advice is much appreciated.
dgiirl Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I wouldn't mind any hints or tips for this because I need to be prepared for something like that in the near future. Any advice is much appreciated. I think you did good for the situation. My concern is why do you need to be prepared for this in the near future? Is this going to be reoccuring frequently? If so, maybe she needs to learn to handle herself better. Why get so drunk to the point that you have to be put to sleep because you're acting like an ass?
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Sounds like you did ok but please don't be scolding her everytime. No one likes that even if their drunk. Not sure how you can prepare yourself for her. I mean you can watch her and make sure she doesn't do anything stupid like drink too much or go out driving. But other than that she's going to do what she wants and consume the amount that she does.
Author WhiteKnight Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 I think you did good for the situation. My concern is why do you need to be prepared for this in the near future? Is this going to be reoccuring frequently? If so, maybe she needs to learn to handle herself better. Why get so drunk to the point that you have to be put to sleep because you're acting like an ass? Hey TYASAFAHICSI, this is not Mikey, its Sean. Hey DGirl, this is not planned to happen frequently but only on social events (like special occassions as such). I may have acted like an ass to her when I scolded her but it some ways I was very concerned for her. Cause she didn't explain to me she was low level blood pressure. I knew I was high blood but I do know my own limitations. So I couldn't really blame myself for checking my partner on and off just to make sure she is okay. Hey IpAncA Yea I was worried about my partner driving a car but yeah, aside from that I do supervise some people from time to time. I try not to scold my girlfriend in the near future everytime except I did manage to talk to her about it. My partner apologised how it happened said to me she suggested that she should take half a glass of alcohol instead of one glass. I responded saying that "Perhaps you should reconsider that, I don't want you to get knocked like that again so I think you shouldn't have any. However, if you keep insisting I will only do a quarter class for you until you can handle it better. Take this as experience..." She's a little fine after that, except the hangover lol...
lovestruck234 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I don't want to come across as a dog here, but you can't tell your girlfriend what to do. Period. I think it's great that you looked out for her, took her to bed, you did the right thing....but by denying her of "well, I will only give you a quarter glass..." I'm sorry but pffft, if that was my bf saying that to me, I would probably roll my eyes and walk away... She should be able to drink when she wants, what she wants...and without her BOYFRIEND, who isn't her MOTHER telling her how much she should drink, and scolding her at the same time. Nuh uh. My boyfriend tried that on me once. I drank a little too much one night and for about a month after that he kept telling me that "you're not allowed to drink anymore....it does silly things to you" yet, he would grab about 6 beers and drink the night away....I won't stand for being told what to do by my own boyfriend...how lame.
melodymatters Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 you ever read somones post and wonder ..." could that be somone I know in real life ?" I can say, anyone that drinks one glass of champagne and gets loopy or has a Bf take her to task for it..... lets just say : we DON'T travel in the same circles.
lovestruck234 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 you ever read somones post and wonder ..." could that be somone I know in real life ?" I can say, anyone that drinks one glass of champagne and gets loopy or has a Bf take her to task for it..... lets just say : we DON'T travel in the same circles. I don't really understand what you're saying...
melodymatters Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 sorry hon, just being facetious : what I meant was : I hang out with a bunch of drunks ! LOL
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 If your girlfriend can't handle drinking and it has a huge affect and change in her personality, then she shouldn't drink at all. Some people have problems, and that doesn't mean she's an alcoholic, it just means her body doesn't react well with liquor. If this happens again and she more or less blacks out, then you know there's a problem here. IS it possible that she didn't have much to eat beforehand? Anyway, you did the right thing -Out of concern, but scolding someone like a child never goes over well. There's a big difference between scolding and letting your girlfriend know that it would be best if she rested so she could feel better.
lovestruck234 Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 sorry hon, just being facetious : what I meant was : I hang out with a bunch of drunks ! LOL Oh, right. Gotcha!
Guest Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 My partner drank a glass and got really drunk This isn't normal - unless she drank a Big Gulp-sized glass. I doubt low blood pressure would be the problem either, though blood pressure medicine might be. First of all if it was literally one small glass of champagne, then she needs to talk to a doctor to see what's up. And if she gets that badly affected by alcohol, it's wise and caring of you to look out for her. With luck, she won't be so immature that she'll 'drink 6 more just because you told her not to'. Clearly booze is bad for her and you both need to find out why.
dgiirl Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 This isn't normal - unless she drank a Big Gulp-sized glass. I doubt low blood pressure would be the problem either, though blood pressure medicine might be. Maybe she just doesnt normally drink? I never drank until I turned 30. And only because i took the wrong punch lol And I got sooooooooooooo tipsy on just a small punch glass. The next time I drank a glass of peach snaps(?) and got so so so drunk, spinning rooms and drunk dials to an asshat. It was a sad sight.
IpAncA Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I never really started drinking myself until I was in my 20s and I don't drink to much (I'm casual) because I'm either then a mean drunk or an touchy feely type of person. I also have a really really bad/dirty mouth that goes with it too. I make people laugh so that's not to bad I guess. Don't get me wrong though that's if I have had to much or until someone interfers with my fun.
Author WhiteKnight Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 IS it possible that she didn't have much to eat beforehand? Anyway, you did the right thing -Out of concern, but scolding someone like a child never goes over well. There's a big difference between scolding and letting your girlfriend know that it would be best if she rested so she could feel better. Wow so many posts... heh Whichwayisup... Well I have to say that I did ask her that and I don't think she answered me truthfully. But what I can say that she did have something to eat though but I can't say she had a lot or not, so I would guess she didn't. However I was encouraging her to eat the pizza that I bought for myself and my friend. To help her sober up, but she ate like half of it and then stopped. Maybe I would seriously consider telling her not to drink at all. I did notice a personality change in her and I'm bit worried now. Hey lovestruck234, yea I believe you right that I may have made her feel restricted to what she can or can't do. So today I she did come around and we spoke about it and said... "Hey look, if you wanna drink that's cool but keep in mind that don't drink too much otherwise I would get concerned or worried about it. I'm not mad at ya, but just concerned for your health that's all." She's pretty much happy with that I guess. Well anyways, to share something. I'm pretty much started drinking on the day since I celebrated with a blast on my 21st birthday. It was awesome. 7 days in a row of celebrations and some alcohol in between, I don't like beer as much but I love the wines XD I don't make it into a habit of drinking but I do know my limitations but keep it down to social times ie. Christmas, Birthdays, Company celebrations etc.
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