blon_dee Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 See my thread "I guess this is it". My ex bf just sent me a text, saying "Hi, i just drove past".. after the thanks but no thanks email i got yesterday.. What the hell is that all about do you think??? I thought it odd...
amaysngrace Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 What the hell is that all about do you think??? I thought it odd... Maybe to see if there was a strange car there or to see if you were home. My newly exBF did that the whole time we were dating when I'd have a night out without him. The man was just checking up on you, IMO.
Author blon_dee Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 But why? I have been trying to get him back, he send an email yesterday saying no. What would be care?
amaysngrace Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 But why? I have been trying to get him back, he send an email yesterday saying no. What would be care? To see if you've moved on, maybe. If you weren't home, some men find that to be attractive. It shows them that you have a life without him. And that, in turn, makes you seem more desirable. I don't know why this is...but it seems to be the way it is.
Author blon_dee Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 I'm always home, have a 3 year old daughter.. He knows that....
theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 "Hi , i just drove past" ?? What's that suppose to mean? Why would he tell you he just drove by your house , the amount of times i go by peoples houses i would have no money on my phone
D-Lish Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Perhaps your e-mail had more of an impact than you thought. Maybe he's had a chance to think about what you said and it's starting him thinking. That's odd behaviour for someone who says they just want to be friends. Perhaps you should text him back and say "well next time stop in and say hello!" It sounds like he could be feeling out whether it's ok to pop by.... Whatever, it's good news. D
Author blon_dee Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 Yeah, i still think it was weird.. Hes initiated a few online conversations since, chatting almost as if nothing ever happened.. Guess he's jus trying to be friends? I have just been light and bright...See what happens i guess.. I think im starting to get over it anyway.. Thinking about dating again maybe? Have you been dating D?
magichands Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Maybe he said "Aussie, Aussie, Aussie" as he drove past, but didn't get any "Oi, Oi, Oi!"? That could have anybody reaching for their keypad in disappointment.
D-Lish Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Yeah, i still think it was weird.. Hes initiated a few online conversations since, chatting almost as if nothing ever happened.. Guess he's jus trying to be friends? I have just been light and bright...See what happens i guess.. I think im starting to get over it anyway.. Thinking about dating again maybe? Have you been dating D? I think he's probably feeling things out with you. Maybe he's just being a little stubborn? You rejected him, so he was hurt, you wanted him back... so now he's just being cautious, being careful not to compromise his pride. That's great you're thinking about dating. Hmmm, I have had a lot of dates... but no one I would go out with twice!
Speedo Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 Maybe you should try dating guys from the south U.S.
Author blon_dee Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 I think thats a definate possibility Dee.. He is the most stubborn man i have ever met actually... Anyway, i guess i will just keep in touch and get on with my life.. Whats the old saying? If its meant to be, it will be.... You sound like me, i go on dates, but just never seem to meet anyone that can hold my interest for long enough... Fussy?? lol ;-)
D-Lish Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I think thats a definate possibility Dee.. He is the most stubborn man i have ever met actually... Anyway, i guess i will just keep in touch and get on with my life.. Whats the old saying? If its meant to be, it will be.... You sound like me, i go on dates, but just never seem to meet anyone that can hold my interest for long enough... Fussy?? lol ;-) Fussy? Oh yes, I tend to be! I'm either meeting "boys"...way too young, or men my same age that look like Grandpa's. My ex was super stubborn too. I know that even if he regrets breaking up with me that he'll never tell me so. He was like that in the relationship too- always waited for me to apologize, never took responsibility for anything... and everytime we had an arguement I would ALWAYS be the one to have to reach out to him.... and apologize of course. Frustrating. Mostly frustrating because I know he cares (have heard it from mutual friends) and still, he won't contact me. Despite me reaching out to him a couple times with some pretty heartfelt e-mails. Pride can get in the way of a man's ability to be honest with himself about how he feels. I've given up completely, but I still love him, so dating is difficult at the moment. D
suchislife Posted November 30, 2006 Posted November 30, 2006 I'm in the same situation. Stubborn, stubborn, stubborn. He got ticked and snubbed me over Thanksgiving. I know he cares, I know he's waiting for ME to apologize because I am not needy enough to want him for myself over the holiday and told him to have a great time with his family - but I don't want to do this again. My friends don't like him now - they see too many red flags, and I don't want to be unhappy. I need someone who can communicate better. It's hard though because I'm attached. I've been asked out a lot but really cared about him and didn't meet anyone I was interested in as well, but, I think I'm just going to stay busy. NC since Sunday.
agnf666 Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 He was probably waiting for a reply like "Why don't you stop by" from you or something... But you know.. men are wierd. I will never understand them.
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