would he rather do it himself than with me?

[livelaughlove]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 month now and I am in love with him without a doubt, but there are things that bother me about him.

 

When we first started dating we could get our hand off of each other. We went from having sex 3-4 times a day to then 3-4 times a week to once every other week to now maybe 1-2 times a month. I have tried making moves and making it completely obvious that I want to have sex and sometimes he will completely call me out on it, but not do anything about it. That right there makes me wonder. Just recently we celebrated his birthday and I practically threw myself on him first thing in the morning and all he wanted to do was get out of bed and then later I found out that he masturbated. That completely crushed me. Then the following weekend we went on vacation together to the beach and it was just the two of us for 3 full days and not once did he try and have sex with me of take any of my advances. I just dont know what to do about the situation anymore. I have tried to let him know by leaving him notes but he just ignores them and never speaks of it again. I just don't know how to get the conversation started or what exactly to say or do. So if anyone out there has any advice that would be greatly appreciated!

[Lauriebell82]

well gradually the honeymood period does end and couples dont have as much sex as they used to. at first its new and exciting, but after awhile the passion wears down to comfortability.not all couples are like that though. my bf and i still have pretty much the same amount, maybe decreased a little bit but thats pretty normal. my bf still wants to have sex with me a lot though, so something might be bothering ur bf that he doesnt.

i think u should talk to him (dont accuse him of not wanting to have sex with u) but ask him if anything is bothering him. maybe its something u both can work on to rekindle ur passion.

[Mythical]

hey,

You DEFINETLY need to speak to your boy.

I have been with mine for almost two years and still have sex 3-5 times a day.

Im not saying everyone has to and if they don't doesn't mean there is something wrong at all.

Im sure it has nothing to do with you, it must be a personal matter since he totally ignores it.

You need to speak to him but be sure to be gentle as something could be wrong with him.

Good luck keep me updated

[livelaughlove]

Ok so I appreciate all of the Info you have given me, but I think that now I have an even bigger issue to deal with. It wasnt just that he would rather masturbate but that he would rather be by himself. The other day he tells me that he feels that we spend too much time together and that he thinks that things will be better if i moved back out. He then goes on and tells me that he has once lived with someone and was engaged to them and that once they moved in they just couldnt do it. Now we have done a lot of talking about getting married before in the past but not within this past month I guess. We have made plans out in the future we were looking at purchasing a car together and looking at houses and now he tells me that its hard for him to live with someone. Well I moved out and I had no choice but to move back in with my parents. So now that I am not living with him we have talked for maybe 15-20 total each day and see each other once for a total of about 5-10 minutes. He'll tell me to give him a call and when i do he doesnt answer and then when I have a real question to ask him and call him he doesnt answer and it will take him a few hours to respond and the excuse I get over and over is that he feel asleep or was riding his bike. Should I beleive this? I mean he wont even really tell anyone what is going on, our friends just think that I am haning out with my parents more and that we still are living together but he refuses to tell his parents (whom I completely adore) Does he really need this much space or is he just trying to tell me to move on? I really just need to know because its killing me.