CarolAnne Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 How do you meet people and make friends if you've just moved to a new city and don't know anyone? I'm feeling so lonely lately - I have an apartment and don't know anyone in town. Most of my old friends are from high school or college and they are so far away. I have no idea how people make friends when you are not in school. And I've thought of going to bars but for one thing I'm not really into watching sports or drinking and I can't think of anything more lonely that sitting alone at a bar. I have lots of friends online but its just not the same. Also I'm kind of a shy person. We have an exercise room in the building but I'm afraid I'll look really fat if I use it. No one is in there anyway. How do you make friends in a strange city?
Green Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 You have to be a strange person. Just throw yourself out there and invite people at work to a movie with you or something. Find a club quick an join it something ur into. If you have the money take an art class if you like art that is, and when your in the class tell people ur taking the class because you like art and you wanted to make friends. Let people know you want to be friends. Oh yeah and dont be picky make some anoying friends
iron_m Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 How do you meet people and make friends if you've just moved to a new city and don't know anyone? I'm feeling so lonely lately - I have an apartment and don't know anyone in town. Most of my old friends are from high school or college and they are so far away. I have no idea how people make friends when you are not in school. And I've thought of going to bars but for one thing I'm not really into watching sports or drinking and I can't think of anything more lonely that sitting alone at a bar. I have lots of friends online but its just not the same. Also I'm kind of a shy person. We have an exercise room in the building but I'm afraid I'll look really fat if I use it. No one is in there anyway. How do you make friends in a strange city? Some ideas: Take a class Volunteer Pick up a sport Join a club Go to a local bookstore and join a book discussion group
jerseyblue29eyes Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Volunteer Take a class Join a group Get a dog and walk them Join a sports team at work Just be yourself and friendly and best of luck to you!
Grrlish Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I've done this more than once, CarolAnne. I did it last summer (2005), in fact. Take a class. Join a gym or a yoga studio and attend the same classes so you'll see the same people. Take dance lessons. Don't be afraid to go out by yourself: go to fairs, concerts, dinner, etc. A nice bar or pub is okay, too, if you drink but don't become a barfly. I happen to like sports and I'll go down to the local pub on occasion and have a beer and watch a game and chat with the locals, some of whom are my neighbors. Join a service club (volunteer organization). Volunteer with a charity directly. Join a bootcamp class for a few weeks. I don't know what you do for a living but some people make friends at work. Stick your neck out. When you meet people that you might want to get to know, ask them to lunch or for happy hour or to a movie or shopping or..? A friend of mine told her boyfriend, when they moved and he complained about not having any friends, that, well, people weren't going to come knock on the door and say 'Hi! I want to be your new friend!'. He had to go out and make the effort to find these people. Go for it! It's part of the excitement of moving to a new place!
Green Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 yeah that last part really is the key you have to work at getting friends invite people to do things with you like movies, shopping, lunch or just go out for drinks with them. Meet these people any where.
NIKI 28 Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 HEy CarolAne we have alot in common because I just move to the State of New York and I was just saying that to my aunt how I'm bored and have no friends. I just met this guy so hopefully everything will go cool for us and maybe when can go from there, but see I met him at my aunt's church job if that makes sense. I guess what you have to do is put yourself out there on the market girl because that's what I'm doing. I have no friends what so ever and it's making me really sad but just keep holding on you'll meet someone. Are you working?? If you are just ask some of your co-workers what are they doing for the weekend or do they know any of the hot spots where you can go especially safe hot spots ya know what I mean right You will be okay. I wish you the best in your new city Peace
CardPlay3r Posted December 5, 2006 Posted December 5, 2006 Just wanted to add an idea..since you're shy and all, try 'dating' sites, they are people that put "looking for friends" in their profile as well so you can take it from there
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