livelaughlove Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 month now and I am in love with him without a doubt, but there are things that bother me about him. When we first started dating we could get our hand off of each other. We went from having sex 3-4 times a day to then 3-4 times a week to once every other week to now maybe 1-2 times a month. I have tried making moves and making it completely obvious that I want to have sex and sometimes he will completely call me out on it, but not do anything about it. That right there makes me wonder. Just recently we celebrated his birthday and I practically threw myself on him first thing in the morning and all he wanted to do was get out of bed later I found out that he masturbated. That completely crushed me. Then the following weekend we went on vacation together to the beach, it was just the two of us for 3 full days and not once did he try and have sex with me or take any of my advances. I just dont know what to do about the situation anymore. I have tried to let him know by leaving him notes but he just ignores them and never speaks of it again. I just don't know how to get the conversation started or what exactly to say or do. So if anyone out there has any advice that would be greatly appreciated!
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 You two need to talk. If he is rejecting you sexually like that, then something is wrong. I am sorry and I don't want to scare you, but it seems he's moved past the honeymoon stage and what's left isn't good enough for you. Now, it is possible that he isn't a sexual person and doesn't need to have sex as much. I don't know. Talk to him, let him know how this is making you feel. How is the rest of the relationship outside of the bedroom?
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 To answer your question: YES! (he is more into himself than he is into you.) Now, google "narcissism". Can you answer these questions for me? 1. Does he take care of his apprearance to the point of excess? 2. When you tell him that you want sex, does he smile at you in acknowledgement/appreciation, but then turns it down without a hint of feeling weird by this? 3. Does he feel that sex is a chore? 4. Does he show "love" in other ways, such as holding your hand, snuggling up to you when you watch TV, makes breakfast for you, etc? 5. Does he mostly talk about himself? 6. Does he ever express empathy???? (big one!)
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