purrfect Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I am so confused. Me and my boyfriend have been going out about a year and a half. It's not that we havent ever had sex or that we dont but he is 24 and i'm 26 and we have sex about once a week and most the time it lasts about 5 minutes. I love him and when it happens, even though it's short, its great. I tell him this and I ask him all the time for more but he always says no. At first I thought it was me which made me angry and hurt, but I've come to the conclusion that whatever it is it's not me. I've tried to ask him and he has a different excuse each time such as ex girlfriends, scared of getting pregnant, being tired, and just not in the mood. I'm starting to have dreams about other people and feel myself looking around and flirting with other guys. Although because of this constant rejection my esteem is at a low. Each day I just get more and more upset and I can feel myself pulling away which is very hard since we live together. I feel trapped and heartbroken and I need some advice. I know sex isnt everything but it is part of a healthy relationship and isnt it some sort of red flag when it's completely off. I love him and he tells me he loves me too. I would like to work it out but I cant take many more "no, come on stop, I dont feel like it" especialy when all i'm trying to do is give him a kiss. It's like he's more a friend than a boyfriend, i'm just completely confused.
Guest Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Was he always like that? Did he always have a low sex drive? Or was it a gradual decrease? Does he says he loves you or shows affection? If you answer this questions he can maybe help you more.
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