Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I am basically over this guy that I was seeing except for when I think about this one detail. He shooshed me. (I mean when someone is speaking and someone else goes shhhhh). Long story short we met while I was on vacation, we had a great time together, great connection. He decided to come visit me for 2 weeks and while he was here his ex girlfriend, "the love of his life" got in touch with him to ask for a second chance. Anyways, things were getting tense at my place and right when things were unraveling, I came into the computer room saying 'hey buddy', wanting to project ourselves into a friendship. Except he never got to find this out because he shooshed me. I stared at him and said 'dude, you just shooshed me!' in a state of disbelief. He said 'yeah, I'm watching something!' An SNL clip on Youtube. Which he could have easily paused. I don't even think about him anymore, yet I was in the store and someone shooshed someone else and I just got all the emotions back of how insulted and belittled I felt when he shooshed me. I don't understand why I can't get over this. Was it as incredibly rude as I perceived it to be? Or was it just because he couldn't deal with the situation and needed time alone and that was his unfortunate way of getting his point across? Is there a way I can forgive this? Why am I still bothered by this? Feedback?
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I don't know why your bothered by it. It is rude and I'm a 100% guilt of doing it myself. Most of the time I did it was because I thought I was doing more important things and I just didn't give a care about anyone else but myself. O you can deal with the situation sure, but you just don't want to deal with it right now because you think your doing something else that is more important. I was more like wrapped up in my own world and when I wanted to listen to talk to someone, I did it when I wanted to, not when someone else did. Its a bad habit to get into and some what of a control thing.
Author Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Shushing! haha! I just found it in the dictionnary. English not my first language. Well, I guess even if it were I'd still be allowed to make mistakes. Thanks IpAncA I'll try to stop letting it bother me. I think it bothers me because it's the exact moment it dawned on me things were over. As in, if he was into me, he would have never shushed. But does that mean that shushing is rude when in a relationship? I mean, I have done the same thing as shushing by saying: listen, I don't feel like talking about ixyz right now, for such and such reason. Nope. I have to face it. I'm still not over it. It is also the one thing I focused on to get over the guy. I would get so mad thinking about it. Right now I just want to let it go, for my own healing process. Was my reaction disproportionate?
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 But does that mean that shushing is rude when in a relationship? I mean, I have done the same thing as shushing by saying: listen, I don't feel like talking about ixyz right now, for such and such reason. It is also the one thing I focused on to get over the guy. I would get so mad thinking about it. Right now I just want to let it go, for my own healing process. Was my reaction disproportionate? Shuching someone all the time is rude and it can annoy people very quickly if done a lot. It can also make people not want to be around you because they can't get a word in or express themselves without that person cutting them off. Na if he did it all the time and it affected you as you said it did, then you had every right to leave and find someone else who wouldn't treat you like that.
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I came into the computer room saying 'hey buddy', wanting to project ourselves into a friendship. Is that like when you make a friendship video?? What a sweet keepsake. I stared at him and said 'dude, you just shooshed me!' in a state of disbelief. Sorry, but when I read this I just burst out laughing. And kept on laughing and laughing. And laughing. You'll never live it down. You've been shushed! If they lead with Shhh, then I'm always ready to pounce with It. Works for me.
Author Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Is that like when you make a friendship video?? What a sweet keepsake. Actually kind of. We would get into these Family-guy-esque role playing tournament and i was going to do a spoof of the two of us running into each other in the future. Sounds corny now, but it actually made sense at the time. Sorry, but when I read this I just burst out laughing. And kept on laughing and laughing. And laughing. You'll never live it down. You've been shushed! Thanks. I think i needed to hear it. I've been dumped by a shush. He shushed me away. It's even better then being dumped by a text. Forcing myself to see the humor in it. see the humor in it. see the humor in it. Not laughing yet, but it will come If they lead with Shhh, then I'm always ready to pounce with It. Works for me. What now? did not get that one. What would pouncing with a sush look like?
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 .. .... .... .... Shhh, .... .'. ...... ..... .. ..... .... It. But you have to pounce. Quoting oneself is such a treat.
Author Kamille Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 :lmao:But you have to pounce. Quoting oneself is such a treat. :lmao: thanks magichands!
magichands Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 I've been dumped by a shush. He shushed me away. I know the feeling. If I get dumped by another person that covers their ears and shouts "na na na na na - I can't hear you" repeatedly, then I think I am going to cry for several days and nights. Straight. I guess I deserve it for telling them the Shhh... story.
seven Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Last week, on the Regis & Kelly show, Clay Aiken was guest hosting with Kelly and at one point put his hand over her mouth to shush her (he thought she wouldn't stop talking apparently). She did not care for that at all and told him that was a no-no. It was awkward, a wee bit tense. Then on The View, Rosie O'Donnell brings the shushing incident up implying that there was some homophobia involved therein ... so Kelly had to call in to their program and set it straight that that had nothing to do with it. Moral of the story: it's best just to say shut the hell up than to shush:laugh:
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 I never thought I'd say this but go Kelly! I wish I had done like Kelly and just kept talking! Or at least pounced on it. Tell that boy off. But I was exhausted and feeling vulnerable. Moral of the story for me: never ever gain be shushed by a shush.
Spinderella Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 But you werent shushed by a shush. I stared at him and said 'dude, you just shooshed me!' see!
Author Kamille Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 But you werent shushed by a shush. see! good point, but I didn't keep going with what I was going to say. I never said what I was going to say. I just let the shush get to me. Never again, next time I'm going to Rippa their tushies. (ouch, that's gotta hurt !!)
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