crazy_grl Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I just saw this thread. I read the first page then jumped to the last couple pages, so forgive me if I'm missing something. Is this guy seriously still upset about the what you wrote in the original post on Nov. 22?!? From the gist of the convo, it seems like he is. That's ridiculous! I thought it was absurd to get upset about you not answering your phone when he knew you'd been pulled over, but to STILL be upset about it. OMFG! You're so lucky to be rid of him. Send him the following: I no longer care if you're pissed. You have no right to be anyway. You knew I got pulled over and it was NOT unreasonable of me not to answer your calls in front of the cop. He would have given me a ticket for sure if I had been that rude to him. Your impatience, constant calls, and accusing tone at the time show your insecurity and jealousy. I on the other hand have every reason to be upset. You told me to F*ck off and didn't have any concern for my well being. I could have been arrested for all you knew. Instead of being concerned about me when I didn't answer, you got angry. That says a lot about how self-centered you are. It also hurt that you didn't even have the decency to act like an adult and break up with me. You just left me hanging without concern for my feelings. More evidence of your self-centered nature. I wanted an appology for the way you treated me, but now I don't want anything from you. I've seen who you really are, and you disgust me. Consider yourself dumped. Never EVER contact me again. And for your own sake, please work on your issues. I feel sorry for the next girl to end up with you if you don't get help.
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Posted December 8, 2006 I just saw this thread. I read the first page then jumped to the last couple pages, so forgive me if I'm missing something. Is this guy seriously still upset about the what you wrote in the original post on Nov. 22?!? From the gist of the convo, it seems like he is. That's ridiculous! I thought it was absurd to get upset about you not answering your phone when he knew you'd been pulled over, but to STILL be upset about it. OMFG! You're so lucky to be rid of him. Send him the following: I no longer care if you're pissed. You have no right to be anyway. You knew I got pulled over and it was NOT unreasonable of me not to answer your calls in front of the cop. He would have given me a ticket for sure if I had been that rude to him. Your impatience, constant calls, and accusing tone at the time show your insecurity and jealousy. I on the other hand have every reason to be upset. You told me to F*ck off and didn't have any concern for my well being. I could have been arrested for all you knew. Instead of being concerned about me when I didn't answer, you got angry. That says a lot about how self-centered you are. It also hurt that you didn't even have the decency to act like an adult and break up with me. You just left me hanging without concern for my feelings. More evidence of your self-centered nature. I wanted an appology for the way you treated me, but now I don't want anything from you. I've seen who you really are, and you disgust me. Consider yourself dumped. Never EVER contact me again. And for your own sake, please work on your issues. I feel sorry for the next girl to end up with you if you don't get help. Yep send that to him. Thats a great letter and it doesn't show that he got to you or that you have any weaknesses. Just send that and follow thru with the n/c because I'm sure he will try.
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Posted December 8, 2006 I just saw this thread. I read the first page then jumped to the last couple pages, so forgive me if I'm missing something. Is this guy seriously still upset about the what you wrote in the original post on Nov. 22?!? From the gist of the convo, it seems like he is. That's ridiculous! I thought it was absurd to get upset about you not answering your phone when he knew you'd been pulled over, but to STILL be upset about it. OMFG! You're so lucky to be rid of him. Send him the following: I no longer care if you're pissed. You have no right to be anyway. You knew I got pulled over and it was NOT unreasonable of me not to answer your calls in front of the cop. He would have given me a ticket for sure if I had been that rude to him. Your impatience, constant calls, and accusing tone at the time show your insecurity and jealousy. I on the other hand have every reason to be upset. You told me to F*ck off and didn't have any concern for my well being. I could have been arrested for all you knew. Instead of being concerned about me when I didn't answer, you got angry. That says a lot about how self-centered you are. It also hurt that you didn't even have the decency to act like an adult and break up with me. You just left me hanging without concern for my feelings. More evidence of your self-centered nature. I wanted an appology for the way you treated me, but now I don't want anything from you. I've seen who you really are, and you disgust me. Consider yourself dumped. Never EVER contact me again. And for your own sake, please work on your issues. I feel sorry for the next girl to end up with you if you don't get help. That a great letter.... Although right I am up in the air as to even send anything at all... I'll have to sit on that for a night Thanks for helping me with that, it's perfect......
crazy_grl Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 That a great letter.... Although right I am up in the air as to even send anything at all... I'll have to sit on that for a night Thanks for helping me with that, it's perfect...... No problem. Take all the time you need to decide whether to send it. If you do, go total NC after that like IpAncA said. He'll probably try to argue with you and blame things on you, but don't get sucked into it.
panzer6 Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 This guy reminds me of my ex. She would freak out over all kinds of trivial ****. I know that she had a rough childhood, her dad died when she was 2 years old. She was treated badly while she grew up and doesn't even like celebrating her birthdays cuz she was always dissapointed on them. She had some losers as boyfriends and she went through 2 divorces as well. She told me that she wishes her ex husband, the father of her 2 sons, would drop dead. That last one kinda frightened me. I know she has been through alot, and I think that to some degree her behaviour is a response to all the stress she has endured. Despite all the crap she has been through she has the capacity to be one of the most loving and caring persons I have ever known. Her 2 sons are awsome and I love them and miss them very much. It's that potential goodness that I always wanted to hang on to. But I can only take so much. I feel like I just got off a 1 year rollercoaster ride. I am literally physically and emotionally worn out. I don't hate her at all, in fact I love her very much and I feel terrible for what she has gone through in her life. I just wish she could come to terms with it in some way so she could see me for what I truly am. I guess what I'm saying to you Hopefull is that he probably truly loves you but he is blinded by all the crap he has had to endure in his life. Did he have a bad childhood, has he lost someone close to him, did he suffer any abuse as a child ? If he has suffered emotional trauma that would go along way to explaining his behavior. But this cannot be used as an excuse for him to mistreat you. He needs to get help and deal with his crap so that he can have some chance at happines with someone. Maybe that someone isn't you, I don't know the answer to that one. We all want to be loved and respected but when toxic people come into our lives we end up being victims and we become co-dependents and we try to help these people and we end up losing ourselves in the relationship. If you cut him loose don't look at it as you leaving him, look at it as you getting back to you. Be strong!!!
Author HopefulOne Posted December 9, 2006 Author Posted December 9, 2006 No problem. Take all the time you need to decide whether to send it. If you do, go total NC after that like IpAncA said. He'll probably try to argue with you and blame things on you, but don't get sucked into it. Well it's obviously all my fault... YEAH RIGHT.... I really want to send what you wrote..... but I feel funny I didn't write it...but it's exactly how I feel... He is so self-absorbed.... it's unreal to me... I think he really believes what going on inside of his head..... It's sick.... When say I speechless, I really do mean that.... I couldn't believe what he said in his text.... just unreal.... god I am so happy that I am not that type of person.....
crazy_grl Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Well it's obviously all my fault... YEAH RIGHT.... I really want to send what you wrote..... but I feel funny I didn't write it...but it's exactly how I feel... Understandable. Feel free to rewrite, use or not use any of it that you like. I give all those words to you. He is so self-absorbed.... it's unreal to me... I think he really believes what going on inside of his head..... It's sick.... When say I speechless, I really do mean that.... I couldn't believe what he said in his text.... just unreal.... god I am so happy that I am not that type of person..... Yeah, he probably does believe those things. He's got issues for sure. You should be proud that you stood your ground and didn't grovel and appologize to that nut ball. Some women would have.
Author HopefulOne Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 Understandable. Feel free to rewrite, use or not use any of it that you like. I give all those words to you. Yeah, he probably does believe those things. He's got issues for sure. You should be proud that you stood your ground and didn't grovel and appologize to that nut ball. Some women would have. Okay, it's gotten even more ridiculous... His next text message to me ---" Wasn't leaving you hanging.. Can't believe you don't get that I am mad.. Work is crazy.. Will talk later... " I texted back saying I don't deserve to ignored and treated like nothing... I don't deserve that... He says " didn't get that till this morning.. was out of range.. you suck... " LOL........... I suck...... hahahahhahahahahahah I text back... Why do I suck.... he say's Your nice nasty text... That sucked... Can't take it anymore..... It's so just whatever.......... Me, I am making myself a nice dinner..... and gonna relax and watch some football ...........
IpAncA Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Oooooo...so he's ready to talk now. This should be interesting.
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Oooooo...so he's ready to talk now. This should be interesting. If he was ready to talk he would have called.... That text was yesterday... Now I am the nasty one... Oh please... is he crazy.. He didn't leave me hanging, I should understand why he is mad...???? Just completely ridiculous.... I texted him a little while from his text earlier saying why I sucked..... and he said what it took you five hours to come up with that.... LOL I can't take it anymore...
IpAncA Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Yeah I wouldn't be able to either. I'm shocked you lasted this long. So is this pretalking his doing?
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Yeah I wouldn't be able to either. I'm shocked you lasted this long. So is this pretalking his doing? Yeah.... Guess I should be understanding since apparently his pissed off for the last four weeks and now his phone is out of area alot and I should understsand.... PLEASE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Get a grip you selfish bastard......
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Lol!! We'll don't let him get away with it. Okay, I got another text... " there is a club you can join.. You are in line behind me. Of course you have no idea how all this all started. Your just the victim of mean old me, huh? " :confused: :confused:
Mary3 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 You have a total nutcase on your hands. His texts make no sense and neither does he. Sounds like he is slipping into total insanity. To respond to ANYTHING he texts as of tonite would be ludicrious !
justagirliegirl Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I might be tempted to text him back with "you suck" or "you don't seem to realize how mad I am" and then disappear for a few weeks.
IpAncA Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Okay, I got another text... " there is a club you can join.. You are in line behind me. Of course you have no idea how all this all started. Your just the victim of mean old me, huh? " :confused: :confused: Lol!!! Now thats just to funny. Talk about insulting ones intelligence. So what happend?
crazy_grl Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I texted back saying I don't deserve to ignored and treated like nothing... I don't deserve that... He says " didn't get that till this morning.. was out of range.. you suck... " What a wonderful way to respond to address your feelings, to insult you. I've met guys like this before. The reason he sees this as being nasty is because when you say that he didn't treat you right/hurt your feelings, he sees it as an attack on him. You'll never get your needs met with a guy like this, because it's all about him. Okay, I got another text... " there is a club you can join.. You are in line behind me. Of course you have no idea how all this all started. Your just the victim of mean old me, huh? " Now he's trying to make you out to be crazy and he's just innocent. Classic. Stop responding to him. He's trying to minimalize what he did so he can suck you back in for more mistreatment later... all of which will be your fault because you're crazy are are nasty to him...
Mary3 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 He's a total Pr*** and will NEVER be satisfied with anything you do and will minimize his own actions and play Narcisstic Boy games everytime . He CANNOT change and is now playing " I think your f'in crazy games with you " now. Tell him F* off in simple text form
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 You have a total nutcase on your hands. His texts make no sense and neither does he. Sounds like he is slipping into total insanity. To respond to ANYTHING he texts as of tonite would be ludicrious ! I agree with you, He doesn't make any sense... That last text I was like are you kidding me ???? I couldn't even believe my eyes... I did text back right after that one and I simply said... " What should I think when you ignore me and won't talk to me, it's been a month. There are two people involved, you and me and we both matter". and he texted back like an hour later with "I Know"......... :mad: :mad: :mad:
crazy_grl Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 HopefulOne, why are you still contacting him after this long? What do you get out of it? Are you hoping he'll actually appologize, admit he's nuts, and have some consideration for your feelings? Are you trying to hold onto him, hoping he'll get better, because you don't want to accept that you've wasted your time on a guy who turned out to be a loser? Are you enjoying the drama? I ask because there's no reason to keep answering his ridiculous texts. It just encourages him to send more. You're never going to get him to admit that he's a nut job and appologize. He's not going to suddenly get better. All this is doing is taking up your time and energy which could be spent elsewhere. You could be out meeting new guys who aren't so messed up instead of getting frustrated by this nutso. Tell this guy you're done with him. Block his email. Delete his texts without reading them and go look for a guy who's worth your time.
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 HopefulOne, why are you still contacting him after this long? What do you get out of it? Are you hoping he'll actually appologize, admit he's nuts, and have some consideration for your feelings? Are you trying to hold onto him, hoping he'll get better, because you don't want to accept that you've wasted your time on a guy who turned out to be a loser? Are you enjoying the drama? I ask because there's no reason to keep answering his ridiculous texts. It just encourages him to send more. You're never going to get him to admit that he's a nut job and appologize. He's not going to suddenly get better. All this is doing is taking up your time and energy which could be spent elsewhere. You could be out meeting new guys who aren't so messed up instead of getting frustrated by this nutso. Tell this guy you're done with him. Block his email. Delete his texts without reading them and go look for a guy who's worth your time. No, I am not trying to hold onto him... I am in shock to be honest... and no I do not enjoy the drama, it hurts... I want him to know that I do not derserve to be treated in such a manner... and no I don't think he is going to apologize or anything else.. I think what he said last night in his text sums it all up.... he's a nut job.... he has no regard me or my feelings and doesn't really care... He only cares about him...
crazy_grl Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 No, I am not trying to hold onto him... I am in shock to be honest... and no I do not enjoy the drama, it hurts... I want him to know that I do not derserve to be treated in such a manner... and no I don't think he is going to apologize or anything else.. I think what he said last night in his text sums it all up.... he's a nut job.... he has no regard me or my feelings and doesn't really care... He only cares about him... I agree. He's a nut and an *ss. But that still leaves the question of why you're still responding to him. The only answer I saw in your response that addresses it is, "I want him to know that I do not derserve to be treated in such a manner." Does it matter that he knows? If it does, then show him you don't deserve it by not letting him drag you into his little game anymore. Show him you won't stand for his nonsense by being done with him and not responding to the absurd texts. I don't want you to feel like you have to justify yourself to me or anybody else. I'm only asking you these questions because you need to know the answers for yourself. If you figure out why you're still letting him get to you and still answering his texts, then you can figure out how to just let go.
Author HopefulOne Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 I agree. He's a nut and an *ss. But that still leaves the question of why you're still responding to him. The only answer I saw in your response that addresses it is, "I want him to know that I do not derserve to be treated in such a manner." Does it matter that he knows? If it does, then show him you don't deserve it by not letting him drag you into his little game anymore. Show him you won't stand for his nonsense by being done with him and not responding to the absurd texts. I don't want you to feel like you have to justify yourself to me or anybody else. I'm only asking you these questions because you need to know the answers for yourself. If you figure out why you're still letting him get to you and still answering his texts, then you can figure out how to just let go. Thank you for all of your support and advice... I like the fact that you speak your mind and tell it like it is...
crazy_grl Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Thank you for all of your support and advice... I like the fact that you speak your mind and tell it like it is... No problem. I hope I've helped. Good luck with the nut ball.
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