Author HopefulOne Posted December 7, 2006 Author Share Posted December 7, 2006 Yep I agree too. I'm suprised he was ready to reply. I don't think he was ready to reply... responding with what and then not responding to my question is still ignoring me... he probably responded with what because maybe he thought I found something out I shouldn't know... who the heck knows... I certainly don't know him the way I thought I did... Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 7, 2006 Author Share Posted December 7, 2006 So, I composed this email... I would like to know your honest opinions on this... I just think I need to say it.... I need to say I AM DONE... So here it is: Well, it would appear you don't even want to answer... I am not sure why you can't treat me like I am another human being with feelings... It didn't have to be like this.... You could have just told me... Wouldn't that have been easier but you seem to want to hurt me... Just leave me hanging... I don't deserve to be treated lilke I am nothing, I may not be anything to you, that I realize that now ( I probably should have realized that a long time ago) but I am still a human being like I said... and my feelings are real... You could have had enough decency to tell me that you didn't' want to be in this relationship anymore, instead you choose to just ignore me, let me linger and wonder, leaving me in limbo... No one should have to do that.. It doesn't feel very good, it hurts... You have made point --- LOUD AND CLEAR! There was no reason for things to end like this.. but hey it's how you want it... so be it... I can't even wonder anymore or think about it, I am done.. I don't deserve to be treated like this... No one does... Someone who cares about you and respects you doesn't treat you like this......... So, whatta you think? I haven't sent it yet.. Link to post Share on other sites
Wantingtogetitright Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 I wouldn't even bother with all the other stuff, it just shows him he got to you etc etc. I would simply take these bits from your e mail and add the extra. You have made point --- LOUD AND CLEAR! but hey it's how you want it... so be it... - plus it's also now what I want as now I know what you are truly like and you are not the sort of person I want in my life. I thank you for the good times that we had and I also thank you for the valuable lessons I have learned. Link to post Share on other sites
Waldin Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 That is totally unacceptable. You deserve way more respect than that, regardless of the situation... I agree.. have respect so that they respect you.. have a nice conversation... Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 I agree.. have respect so that they respect you.. have a nice conversation... /quote] I have respect for myself and for him as well... you can't have a nice conversation with someone who is ignoring you and won't speak to you... That makes it kinda difficult... I have tried, he just wants to ignore the situation... I think that is the gist of what you were saying ?? Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Send it if you like but it does show that you've been thinking about it and that he did get to you. What about just sending something simple and to the point. You don't have to go into full blown detail. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 So, I composed this email... I would like to know your honest opinions on this... I just think I need to say it.... I need to say I AM DONE... So here it is: Well, it would appear you don't even want to answer... I am not sure why you can't treat me like I am another human being with feelings... It didn't have to be like this.... You could have just told me... Wouldn't that have been easier but you seem to want to hurt me... Just leave me hanging... I don't deserve to be treated lilke I am nothing, I may not be anything to you, that I realize that now ( I probably should have realized that a long time ago) but I am still a human being like I said... and my feelings are real... You could have had enough decency to tell me that you didn't' want to be in this relationship anymore, instead you choose to just ignore me, let me linger and wonder, leaving me in limbo... No one should have to do that.. It doesn't feel very good, it hurts... You have made point --- LOUD AND CLEAR! There was no reason for things to end like this.. but hey it's how you want it... so be it... I can't even wonder anymore or think about it, I am done.. I don't deserve to be treated like this... No one does... Someone who cares about you and respects you doesn't treat you like this......... So, whatta you think? I haven't sent it yet.. NO NO NO ! Not like that : He does NOT respect you At ALL As a matter of fact he thinks you are just whining and helpless and he could give a RATS A** about you !@ Let me correct your letter : " Listen Fool , I am done with you. I do respect myself alot and have no more time for waiting for your 13 year old mentality to GROW UP ! I have lost all respect for you now and am going to end this NOW for myself because you were NEVER worth it in the first place. Hope the next girl can deal with your immature crap." ( you notice how there is no whining or begging for respect in that ? ) Dont EVER beg the loser for closure. self respect, phone calls, return texts . N O T H I N G ! Be done with this and POST HERE every HOUR if you have to . DO NOT TEXT ANYMORE after that . Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 Send it if you like but it does show that you've been thinking about it and that he did get to you. What about just sending something simple and to the point. You don't have to go into full blown detail. Why do I have to act like it doesn't hurt and I am not who I am because it gives some power over me, it that gives him his jollies, then so be it.. If that somehow make him feel superior to me, well not much I can do about that... but I can be myself... I can be a real person... I do hurt... I don't care if he knows it... It doesn't change how I feel right now... The damage is done... and I realize everyone is into this well don't give them power over you... He doesn't have power over me... yes this hurts and it hurts like hell.... and yes I would have liked to have felt that he had some respect for me and my feelings but he doesn't... and maybe he doesn't deserve to know he hurt me...but it's the way I feel.. Call me crazy.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Why do I have to act like it doesn't hurt and I am not who I am because it gives some power over me, it that gives him his jollies, then so be it.. If that somehow make him feel superior to me, well not much I can do about that... but I can be myself... I can be a real person... I do hurt... I don't care if he knows it... It doesn't change how I feel right now... The damage is done... and I realize everyone is into this well don't give them power over you... He doesn't have power over me... yes this hurts and it hurts like hell.... and yes I would have liked to have felt that he had some respect for me and my feelings but he doesn't... and maybe he doesn't deserve to know he hurt me...but it's the way I feel.. Call me crazy.... Read my post one up above hurtfulone He does not CARE that you are hurting. You can cry out all you want but its better to cry out to US then to him because we DO care about you. He could give a s*** 3 weeks ! Girl , of COURSE it hurts ! The bas**** does not care nor does he DESERVE To know and nor does he need any input because he is talking to other girls now. You are history to him. Take everything he gave you put it in a box, dump some lye onto all the stuff so it burns it , and then mail it to him. Please use the text I sent you WORD for WORD. If you must tell him that he hurt you really bad , HE ALREADY KNOWS ! The dumper is happily not around you and has moved on with his life. You can tell us your pain here because we CARE ! He does not and deserves nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Why do I have to act like it doesn't hurt and I am not who I am because it gives some power over me, it that gives him his jollies, then so be it.. If that somehow make him feel superior to me, well not much I can do about that... but I can be myself... I can be a real person... I do hurt... I don't care if he knows it... It doesn't change how I feel right now... The damage is done... and I realize everyone is into this well don't give them power over you... He doesn't have power over me... yes this hurts and it hurts like hell.... and yes I would have liked to have felt that he had some respect for me and my feelings but he doesn't... and maybe he doesn't deserve to know he hurt me...but it's the way I feel.. Call me crazy.... Alright but only because you wanted me to...your crazy. Your not acting. You don't want to come off as the weak one. Come off as mature. Before you decide to send the letter. Wait until tomorrow and then come back to it. You might change your mind on some things you said. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 Read my post one up above hurtfulone He does not CARE that you are hurting. You can cry out all you want but its better to cry out to US then to him because we DO care about you. He could give a s*** 3 weeks ! Girl , of COURSE it hurts ! The bas**** does not care nor does he DESERVE To know and nor does he need any input because he is talking to other girls now. You are history to him. Take everything he gave you put it in a box, dump some lye onto all the stuff so it burns it , and then mail it to him. Please use the text I sent you WORD for WORD. If you must tell him that he hurt you really bad , HE ALREADY KNOWS ! The dumper is happily not around you and has moved on with his life. You can tell us your pain here because we CARE ! He does not and deserves nothing. Whew, I needed that kick that kick in the butt.... Thank you for caring... I don't know what I would do without you guys... You have been so much help to me.... and I thank for being there... While we may not always agree on things at least I know you will give me your honest opinion... and that's what counts... SO THANKS... and no I didn't send it... and I turned my phone off and put it in my car... Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 Alright but only because you wanted me to...your crazy. Your not acting. You don't want to come off as the weak one. Come off as mature. Before you decide to send the letter. Wait until tomorrow and then come back to it. You might change your mind on some things you said. Yeah, I asked for it... I don't see feeling something as being weak... I feel that I am the mature and normally I act that way, I do have my moments of frustration.... god knows.... I haven't sent it... I guess what I learned in life from when my father died ( he committed sucicide)... I learned to deal with you what you feel... You can't just shove it aside... that doesn't work.... it will come back to haunt you .... You must live in the here and now..I learned a lot from his death....I learned that you have to be willing to live life and learn... yes, it's tough sometimes and we all hurt..... but life does go on... and it can get better... Link to post Share on other sites
Wantingtogetitright Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 at the end of the day it is all about self respect. stay strong and realise that he is not worth your tears. Get yourself together, recognise your self worth and then and only then will you be in a position to consider a relationship with anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 at the end of the day it is all about self respect. stay strong and realise that he is not worth your tears. Get yourself together, recognise your self worth and then and only then will you be in a position to consider a relationship with anyone. Amen........You know I haven't really been able to have a good cry... but I am tonight... maybe it's what I need.... I need to feel it... in order to heal... I think sometimes I knew he was like this all along.... but I can't stay angry at myself... it happens... sometimes the heart leads the mind... Thanks so much..... Your words of encouragement help me, more than you know.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 EEEsssshhhh........... This is what he said in his text to me late tonight.... "Your question why I didn't tell you is not answerable because it implies I had intent. It doesn't address the fact I'm pissed." I can't even say anything.... It's so ridiculous at this point... what do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
panzer6 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Do yourself a favor and drop this idiot once and for all. This guy is so detached from reality he makes Michael Jackson look sane. You have to admit his text message is absolutely ridiculous. He is so self-absorbed he doesn't even see the consequences of his actions toward you. This guy isn't worth any of your time at all. He acts as if everything revolves around him, hmmm... NARCISSIST!!!!! HE OBVIOUSLY SUFFERS FROM A PERSONALITY DISORDER!!! RUN LIKE HELL LADY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 EEEsssshhhh........... This is what he said in his text to me late tonight.... "Your question why I didn't tell you is not answerable because it implies I had intent. It doesn't address the fact I'm pissed." I can't even say anything.... It's so ridiculous at this point... what do you think? I would text back : " Listen you rediculous F*** I don't care if you are pissed you whining brat , leave me *tf * alone ! And kiss my arse you selfish pr***" Thats what I would text Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Amen........You know I haven't really been able to have a good cry... but I am tonight... maybe it's what I need.... I need to feel it... in order to heal... I think sometimes I knew he was like this all along.... but I can't stay angry at myself... it happens... sometimes the heart leads the mind... Thanks so much..... Your words of encouragement help me, more than you know.... Yeah, he always was ....you were just too in love at the time to see it ... Now the blinders are coming off and you see him for what he really was : A selfish insecure whiney baby bi***" ! Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 EEEsssshhhh........... This is what he said in his text to me late tonight.... "Your question why I didn't tell you is not answerable because it implies I had intent. It doesn't address the fact I'm pissed." I can't even say anything.... It's so ridiculous at this point... what do you think? What do I think? I think he's an idiot. He has lost the ability to think things rationally. That is if he was able to do that before. I can't believe he is still pissed off. Gezz..get over it already dude. Do yourself a favor and drop this idiot once and for all. This guy is so detached from reality he makes Michael Jackson look sane. You have to admit his text message is absolutely ridiculous. He is so self-absorbed he doesn't even see the consequences of his actions toward you. This guy isn't worth any of your time at all. He acts as if everything revolves around him, hmmm... NARCISSIST!!!!! HE OBVIOUSLY SUFFERS FROM A PERSONALITY DISORDER!!! RUN LIKE HELL LADY!!! Yeah that's not good if were making Jackson look good. Listen to Panzar6 here. I agree with him too. The sooner you do it, the better off you'll be and the quicker you can start healing from his self-centered, narcissistic a$$. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 It's so ridiculous, I can't even pathom it... I am dumbfounded by that.. I am still speechless... Who the hell cares if it was done with or without intent.. I am just speechless... Link to post Share on other sites
panzer6 Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 This guy has absolutely no regard for your feelings or emotional wellbeing. If he did he would at least attempt to talk to you as an equal, which is what you are!! Instead he treats you with no respect for your feelings. LOSE HIM NOW!!! Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 You know what. Somethings wrong with him. Just has to be in order to pull this crap with someone. I'm just so glad that you didn't post this in the married section. Now that would be even worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 This guy has absolutely no regard for your feelings or emotional wellbeing. If he did he would at least attempt to talk to you as an equal, which is what you are!! Instead he treats you with no respect for your feelings. LOSE HIM NOW!!! Yes, I most certainly agree with you... I still am speechless... Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted December 8, 2006 Author Share Posted December 8, 2006 You know what. Somethings wrong with him. Just has to be in order to pull this crap with someone. I'm just so glad that you didn't post this in the married section. Now that would be even worse. Oh, you mean if I was married to him.... HOLY CRAP.... now that would be seriously messed up... heck it's already messed up... I guess it took a whole to come up with that he was going to respond with... He can't even see what he is doing and if your still angry a month later over what happened ( oh wait, isn't he the one who said F You.. Oh yeah that's right and he's pissed).. .PLEASE.... Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 8, 2006 Share Posted December 8, 2006 Oh, you mean if I was married to him.... HOLY CRAP.... now that would be seriously messed up... heck it's already messed up... I guess it took a whole to come up with that he was going to respond with... He can't even see what he is doing and if your still angry a month later over what happened ( oh wait, isn't he the one who said F You.. Oh yeah that's right and he's pissed).. .PLEASE.... Yeah thats what I said too. Now there is something to be thankful for. Well he thinks he's in the right and your in the wrong so as long as he sees that, nothing will change. Link to post Share on other sites
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