Author HopefulOne Posted January 7, 2007 Author Share Posted January 7, 2007 There's more to this crazy stuff? There is just to much baggage, crazy, and drama mixed in this with man. So I take it he's talking now? Oh my .... yes there is more... and yes he has been talking to me since the middle of December, when he went to the doctor. He told me when I first started dating him that he had already talked to an attorney about getting a divorce etc. and that they had been seperated for many years ( at that point his daughter was getting ready to turn 18 when we first started dating) I know that he was telling the truth at that point because we have many mutual friends. Now, come to find out from one of his ex friends he apparently moved back into the house at some point when he was still here.... Nothing really changed between us, and I still saw him as much etc. I do remember asking him why he cancelled his home phone for his place and he said that he didn't need it because he was rarley home and always used his cell.. Seemed like a good reason as I know many people who have done that. Now on holidays he was normally with his daughter, I understand that. Strange thing is like I said, I have never met her and after three years that seems ridiculous and I have brought this up and he says you will after I get everything squared away. I haven't met his parents either, although he talks about them all the time ( he is not that close to them or so he says).. So, about after a year ( when things started getting a little tougher between as I think I started to ask more questions and want answers). I would say "How is the divorce going, he would say it's getting I just don't have a lot of time right now" now granted he is a workaholic but if want to do something you get it done in my book. That's about when he stopped really talking about his entire family unless I asked. Personally I don't think he is getting divorced nor do I think he wants to... If he hasn't done it yet and look his daughter isn't young she is 21. He always said he does what he does ( he pays everything for the house and his daughter because he has some guilt that he wasn't around as much as he should be but still continues to pay for everything and I mean everything. There is more but honestly I feel like an idiot. As I said we have been talking and I have seen him twice. He says he is just having issues with his medical stuff... Recently I saw him.. I found a lot of stuff that showed he was lying. I asked him about some of it and he made it seem like he did it for the good of me. I have to tell you though, they are blatant stupid lies and shows that he has another life if you ask me. He told me one night that he hung up on that he threw his phone and it broke, was barely holding itself together, this went on for about a week during Christmas, this was his reasoning that he couldn't call much and that it wouldn't hold a charge and he supposedly didn't stay that long when he came home and had to go on the road but he wouldn't return my calls, he would only text me claiming he couldn't keep a charge and texting didn't use as much battery. One night I said well let me know where you are staying and I will call you, nothing.. So, he says he is getting back and wants me to meet him at place, it's in another state. I notice when I get there that the phone is fine and seems in perfect condition. I ask and say your phone looks fine, he says OH I just got it fixed today.... Yeah right... It's always like that, I have no battery, my phone broke, I got no reception.. I was busy... Honestly, I want to throw up... We fought the whole time and he said he doesn't like people looking through his stuff ( fair enough) but he keeps his phone glued to his side most times.... BLAH BLAH BLAH... Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 7, 2007 Share Posted January 7, 2007 Now this may sounds a little odd here but are you sure he's still not with his wife or someone else? I know you said you have proof of it but for someone whos getting a divorce, he's not moving fast enough. He doesn't even want to talk about it. Just too odd that he has his phone glued to his side, you've never met his daughter or his family. Do they even know about you? IMO you should dump him and never look back because this is just to messed up and it's not even funny. There are so many lies that I wonder how you tell if he's not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted January 7, 2007 Author Share Posted January 7, 2007 Now this may sounds a little odd here but are you sure he's still not with his wife or someone else? I know you said you have proof of it but for someone whos getting a divorce, he's not moving fast enough. He doesn't even want to talk about it. Just too odd that he has his phone glued to his side, you've never met his daughter or his family. Do they even know about you? IMO you should dump him and never look back because this is just to messed up and it's not even funny. There are so many lies that I wonder how you tell if he's not. You are right, I have no idea anymore, I don't know what the truth is and what is a lie.... It's not healthy. He now says I am being to much of snoop and asking too many questions but I think I should. He even went as far ( when I was there ) as putting his carryall for work situated in a certain spot with his zippers a certain to see if I went in there... His day planner and stuff are in there... and I told him that pissed me off. OY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted January 7, 2007 Share Posted January 7, 2007 You are right, I have no idea anymore, I don't know what the truth is and what is a lie.... It's not healthy. He now says I am being to much of snoop and asking too many questions but I think I should. He even went as far ( when I was there ) as putting his carryall for work situated in a certain spot with his zippers a certain to see if I went in there... His day planner and stuff are in there... and I told him that pissed me off. OY!!! He's hiding something. He doesn't want you going thru his stuff? Can you really see a future with this man? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HopefulOne Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 He's hiding something. He doesn't want you going thru his stuff? Can you really see a future with this man? Yes, I believe he is hiding something... and at this point I am not sure it matters what it is... It' just one thing after another... If all I know he is living two lives... seems unlikely but hey, if he's that good at the lies and manipulation,maybe he should go into acting... I am so very sad and so very upset... I feel like a fool... why do this to someone... I have given him many outs, why not just take them... He acts like such a moral person... He judges other men on how they treat women... it's almost ridiculous... Link to post Share on other sites
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