HopefulOne Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 If your and your SO were talking then got into an arguement and he ended it with F***K YOU and hung up? What do you say to that? I can give more info on it but I just wanted to know what are the thoughts on this?
curly girly Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 That is totally unacceptable. You deserve way more respect than that, regardless of the situation...
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Well I would say that if someone said that, their Pi$$ed and need time to cool off. Then that person should say their sorry for talking to you like that because that is unacceptable and they shouldn't talk to you like that. However I do need more info.....I have a feeling there is more to it then your saying.
laRubiaBonita Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 i agree...more info is needed, like the context of the conversation. BTW~ my X-so said that to me once, near the end of our relationship....... over germs!
Fun2BMe Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 An ex not too long ago emailed me F-U after we had been fighting. Although I was into him that made me fall right out of love and I never spoke or communicated with him again to this day. It was just what I needed looking back to get me to get over him in a flash. It's on my list of dealbreakers.
Author HopefulOne Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Well I would say that if someone said that, their Pi$$ed and need time to cool off. Then that person should say their sorry for talking to you like that because that is unacceptable and they shouldn't talk to you like that. However I do need more info.....I have a feeling there is more to it then your saying. Basically, I was on my way home from being out with my friends that I go out with on Friday nights, he called when I was leaving there and I talked to him for like 15 minutes, it takes me 30 minutes to get home.. He needed to get up early and I said I would text him when I got home so he knew I was okay... I got pulled over when I was about 5 minutes from home for speeding and got the whole sobriety test etc. ( I was fine - I passed so he kept texting me while I am doing all of this, talking to the police officers etc. I text him at one point and tell him what happened and that I was okay and I passed. As I was still sitting there he keeps calling and texting but I didn't want to answer the phone as not to piss off the officer.. So I said I am okay, get some sleep. He texted back.... Hmmm interesting longest stop ever... then oh still can't answer the phone... so when I pull away I call and he doesn't answer, then he calls me right back.... he says what happened and ask me if I got ticket, I told him and said no I didn't and he said "oh, well congrats to you in a very sarcastic tone... Then I asked why he was texting those things and he said you wouldn't answer and it was the longest stop ever... I said well I am sorry I didn't want to piss off the police officers. Then he said "did you stop off somewhere? I said no, he said are you sure? once again I said no..... By this point I was pissed, didn't ask if I was okay whatever... So, I said back --- thanks for being so concerned about my well being.... and he said I called you 4 times F***K YOU and hung up. So there it is... Haven't heard from him since. I tried to talk to him once and he texted me I don't want to talk to you... Insights???????????????
laRubiaBonita Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Basically, I was on my way home from being out with my friends that I go out with on Friday nights, he called when I was leaving there and I talked to him for like 15 minutes, it takes me 30 minutes to get home.. He needed to get up early and I said I would text him when I got home so he knew I was okay... I got pulled over when I was about 5 minutes from home for speeding and got the whole sobriety test etc. ( I was fine - I passed so he kept texting me while I am doing all of this, talking to the police officers etc. I text him at one point and tell him what happened and that I was okay and I passed. As I was still sitting there he keeps calling and texting but I didn't want to answer the phone as not to piss off the officer.. So I said I am okay, get some sleep. He texted back.... Hmmm interesting longest stop ever... then oh still can't answer the phone... so when I pull away I call and he doesn't answer, then he calls me right back.... he says what happened and ask me if I got ticket, I told him and said no I didn't and he said "oh, well congrats to you in a very sarcastic tone... Then I asked why he was texting those things and he said you wouldn't answer and it was the longest stop ever... I said well I am sorry I didn't want to piss off the police officers. Then he said "did you stop off somewhere? I said no, he said are you sure? once again I said no..... By this point I was pissed, didn't ask if I was okay whatever... So, I said back --- thanks for being so concerned about my well being.... and he said I called you 4 times F***K YOU and hung up. So there it is... Haven't heard from him since. I tried to talk to him once and he texted me I don't want to talk to you... Insights??????????????? gawd.... he is sooo jealous! is he always like that?
IpAncA Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Wow whats up his butt? Someone has some trusting issues. Yeah no kidding. Was he always like this or did you do something to make him not trust you?
Author HopefulOne Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Wow whats up his butt? Someone has some trusting issues. Yeah no kidding. Was he always like this or did you do something to make him not trust you? No he has kinda always been like this... trust me I don't do anything for him to act like this... but never this bad... it's awful... maybe his he has trust issues because it's what he does???? If you read my prior post on things, it might give you better insight... I am baffled and honestly a little angry...
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 He sounds like a moody A-hole! Don't contact him anymore, let him stew in it. He says he doesn't want to talk to you, so don't talk to him! No IM's, calls, emails, nothing. He needs to appologize to you, and if he doesn't then you need to sit and think about him and the relationship...DO you want a guy who is gonna crap on you for the stupidest thing??? Uhmm hello, he knew you were pulled over, so if anything, where is his worry and concern? Instead he thought the worst and got pissy with you! If he had stopped and thought about it for a minute, then maybe his anger could have been controlled.
Author HopefulOne Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 Yes, I do think he owes me an apology but I am sure he thinks I owe him one. Your are correct, if he is gonna stay pissy and mad for weeks and weeks over that, he has some serious issues. I am sure that he would say to me like he always does "you make me want to hate me". I think when he does, what he did, is jealousy but he would tell you he isn't a jealous person.....
IpAncA Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 He needs to apologize not you. If he doesn't want to talk to you then don't talk to him. How childish and pathetic. He needs to think before he speaks and not think the worst of everything that you do. He also needs to trust you and stop thinking that your doing something other than what you are saying.
laRubiaBonita Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 HOPEFUL~ tell him to "F*ck Off!" if this is how he treats his Girlfriend, imagine how he would treat you if you were married! and if you cannot see yourself with him longterm....get rid of him, he is a downer!
allina Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I think once f-yous start flying in a relationship, it's a turning point and there's no going back. I know couples that say it to eachother while fighting and don't seem to think it's a huge deal but to me it would be. I think it shows a huge lack of respect and self control, I won't deal with it.
Author HopefulOne Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 He needs to apologize not you. If he doesn't want to talk to you then don't talk to him. How childish and pathetic. He needs to think before he speaks and not think the worst of everything that you do. He also needs to trust you and stop thinking that your doing something other than what you are saying. I agree.....I have never given him a reason to not trust me... Maybe he is projecting his actions onto me???
Author HopefulOne Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 HOPEFUL~ tell him to "F*ck Off!" if this is how he treats his Girlfriend, imagine how he would treat you if you were married! and if you cannot see yourself with him longterm....get rid of him, he is a downer! That's a really good question....and I have been dating for what almost three years...
Author HopefulOne Posted November 24, 2006 Author Posted November 24, 2006 I think once f-yous start flying in a relationship, it's a turning point and there's no going back. I know couples that say it to eachother while fighting and don't seem to think it's a huge deal but to me it would be. I think it shows a huge lack of respect and self control, I won't deal with it. Yes, he hasn't done that before, although he does seem to get angry, frustrated etc very easy and just hang up me at times... Which I have told him is unacceptable and I don't deserve that, he will apologize a couple days down the road when he decides to call or he will just text it but he will always say I am sorry but I think you provoked me etc.. That's not a real apology when you blame the other person for your actions...........
cutegirl Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Umm, **** you is not that bad, My bf tells me that a lot. I've been called much worse. People really get offended cause of that?
laRubiaBonita Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Umm, **** you is not that bad, My bf tells me that a lot. I've been called much worse. People really get offended cause of that? uuugghhh.... yeah! basically if you like me, you do not say that. i never ever say that to people i like, even the people i only remotely like! i bet the guys that said that to you, CUTEGIRL, also have said the same to their mothers.
MassiveAtom Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I agree.....I have never given him a reason to not trust me... Maybe he is projecting his actions onto me??? Some would say that you are responsible for how he feels. Others say you're not. I think he was creating the whole thing based on issues HE has to deal with in order to be in a close intimate personal relationship. If in fact YOU are being honest, then it's cler that his feelings were caused not by you, but by him. You can choose to help him through it but it has great potential to be very painful for you. After a while, if you're not superhuman, it can really wear you down, kill whatever love is left, and end the relationship. Jealousy is of one of two sources, fear or anger... sounds like he was scared of losing you to another. That fear can really stir up a lot of old baggage and sometimes create problems in a relationship. It can even make people say F-U! If you can stomach it, hang on for his apology. Don't ask, demand or otherwise hint that you want one. It must come from him alone. He's got to realize his mistake on his own. Only then will it be honest, and true. IMHO. And only then will it be an apology of any worth. maybe dif'rent than before... MA
allina Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Umm, **** you is not that bad, My bf tells me that a lot. I've been called much worse. People really get offended cause of that? If you're being serious that makes me really sad. I have never been told f*ck you in a relationship and have never said it. Why do you have such low standards when it comes to how you are treated?
Pyro Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Yes, he hasn't done that before, although he does seem to get angry, frustrated etc very easy and just hang up me at times... Which I have told him is unacceptable and I don't deserve that, he will apologize a couple days down the road when he decides to call or he will just text it but he will always say I am sorry but I think you provoked me etc.. That's not a real apology when you blame the other person for your actions........... Agreed. He is trying to justify his outbursts on you. Totally unacceptable. This guy needs to grow up or you need to ditch him.
IpAncA Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 Umm, **** you is not that bad, My bf tells me that a lot. I've been called much worse. People really get offended cause of that? O yes it is. I also have never been told that nor have I said it. Makes me wonder what else he's been telling you . No one should be told that. Even if it's just a joke.
cutegirl Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 If you're being serious that makes me really sad. I have never been told f*ck you in a relationship and have never said it. Why do you have such low standards when it comes to how you are treated? I am actually serious. Maybe I'm dating someone with "lower-class manners" (ghetto'ish and not very refined). I have to admit I've said it quite often to him, and have had him say it back to me as well. I don't know, I guess that's just how we talk. We both cuss a lot. Every other word is F this or F that (from both of our mouths lately) so being told "F You" just makes no impact on me.
allina Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I am actually serious. Maybe I'm dating someone with "lower-class manners" (ghetto'ish and not very refined). I have to admit I've said it quite often to him, and have had him say it back to me as well. I don't know, I guess that's just how we talk. We both cuss a lot. Every other word is F this or F that (from both of our mouths lately) so being told "F You" just makes no impact on me. Hmm, I'm not against cussing, as in "ouch! my f*cking foot!" but not cussing at people. But if you're okay and don't feel disrespected then whatever works for you.
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