ShadowU12345 Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 This is the third time i've wen't out with this girl I love. But, I'm kind of iffy about if she wants me or am I just a toy. We have been going out for about a week now and I was hoping that we will make it this time. Well, they always say,"Third times a charm". But, I really don't know. The first few days were okay and all of a sudden she just went kinda cold, almost as if she has something to do better than talking to me. I ask her what shes doing, and she says that shes been sitting around watching movies, but when we do talk, its pretty much complete silence. "Is watching movies more enjoyable than talking to me?" I really hope not. What should I do? Please put input or opinions for my situation.. P.S. Desperate need of advice!
nancyleeh Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 Three dates is still testing ground and if she's gone cold on you after three dates maybe you should do a wait and see and if she contacts you then you know she at least wants to chat and then you can go from there. nancyleeh
Walk Posted November 24, 2006 Posted November 24, 2006 I might be wrong in this.. but sounds to me like you're being too clingy, too desperate. Back off from her. Like WAY back. After three dates you "love" her? At that point you can't even pretend to know her personality or the thoughts in her head. I think you may be in love with the idea of who she is, but that idea is created in your head. Or you're confusing lust with love. I think that's pretty common place. My suggestion.. Have confidence in yourself. If you know you're a great person and someone who has value, then act that way. If she couldn't care less to talk to you because some movie is more important, then end the call the moment you sense that. If she doesn't seem to want to see you, then just say ok and move on with your life. She's not the only girl in the world. And trust me, if you treat her like she is after she's been stone cold to you, then you're going to be in for a world of hurt. Have confidence in what you bring to the table. A great guy with a fun personality. If she doesn't want you, then there's 3 billion other women in the world who will want you. Think that way, and act accordingly. Confidence is incredibly attractive. Desperate and clingy is a huge turnoff and will cause a girl to instantly lose any attraction they may have had.
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