Guest Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Hi there Loveshack! Well, last winter I was involved with a man who was in a LTR. We had met through work and the affair happened long distance. We would meet at work conventions. The whole thing was really confusing and I was really happy to find Loveshack and The Other Man/Woman forum because otherwise, all I could seem to find on the internet were 'save the marriage' websites targeting married couples where one of the partners had had an affaire (where OW were made to look like dangerous machievelic vixens.) I mean, I've been here a few times and I know this forum is no picknick, and that debates get very heated at times. Still, reading your stories helped me and I had my own kind of alternate happy ending. I told him I wanted to end the affair, got my point across (which was really hard because he is an expert at seduction). I was very proud of how we handled the "break-up", and we managed to stay friends afterwards. We work for the same institution and we both love our jobs, so we always have a lot to talk about. I can honestly say that I have moved on. He sometimes tries a few of his old seductive shananigans and I just have a great time shooting him down. Anyways, here is my question. He is going to be in my city next weekend, at the airport, for a few hours. He has joked around that it would be nice if I could make it out to the airport to meet him. I really feel like going as I really enjoy the conversations we have together. But what do you guys think? Should I go?
oyster Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 If you go that sends 2 signals 1- You are really playing hard to get 2- Sex will be very intense for both of you You decide if you want a fling, then keep it physical NSA. If you want a relationship, DO NOT SHOW UP.
Chapter2 Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Great advice! You decide if you want a fling, then keep it physical NSA. If you want a relationship, DO NOT SHOW UP.
Guest Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 If you go that sends 2 signals 1- You are really playing hard to get 2- Sex will be very intense for both of you You decide if you want a fling, then keep it physical NSA. If you want a relationship, DO NOT SHOW UP. Thanks for your replies, Well it's not like we would actually be having sex, unless we get really original, as we would be meeting at the airport for a few hours, as he is stopping in my city (A) for a few hours while in transit from city B to city C. The only thing I wish to pursue with this man is a friendship. I enjoy this man's company and conversation. I do admit that I get a thrill from having the upper hand right now in that I truly do not want to reinstigate the affair. The contacts we have had since the end of the affair were via e-mail and phone. He enjoys seduction and will keep trying to seduce me. I am flattered and entertained by his attentions. I enjoy shooting him down. It's kind of become a game between us. Any other thoughts?
whichwayisup Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Nope, don't do it. I really don't believe you can keep this casual and light. You are going to get hurt and once you have sex with him, things could easily change. Plus, if you won't be keeping your eye out for someone else who could be right for you and single. Do you want to be part of his cheating ways? What if his wife finds out. Think long term here, not just in the moment.
kymberann Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 Why chance it? Ask yourself what would you really be getting out of the situation? What if he got tired of you having the "upperhand" and then didn't want to have anything to do with you? At that point you might become desperate, and do what you could to "get him back". Don't do it, games aren't fun in the long run.
Joelle Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 If you go that sends 2 signals 1- You are really playing hard to get 2- Sex will be very intense for both of you You decide if you want a fling, then keep it physical NSA. If you want a relationship, DO NOT SHOW UP. I agree with this.
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