Mydish1 Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 So i've been send messages back and forth with this girl for about a week through a site similar to myspace. Im taking things slow as im involved with school/work. Then the last message i sent i gave her my email; implying that im open to advances/her contact. and then she drops me her online screen name. Ok a few days ago i hit her up and chatted with her, again with no pressure just getting to know each other. then yesterday i hit her up again and invited her to this outing wiht some friends later in the week, she said she'll let me know her decision, so i dropped my cell #. Then she dropped her cell #. I know she's not going to come or call, no harsh feelings, im not going to cringe or feel bad about it, i know girls dont like to engage in social settings with people they dont know...especially since she hasnt met me in person. bah, anyway possibly on the weekend or weekday i was thinking of asking her for coffee. I'm going slow enough as it is already. But i dont know if she's interested in getting to know me 1on1 or would rather have me as an acquantance/friend status where it's hanging out on a group basis. However I do know when we used to be messaging each other on the website, she checked her profile daily and immediately responded to my messages. Since transitioning to chatting online, she stopped checking her profile/the site. I guess im not used to this since my ex. Because i would be used to the ex contacting me all the time or taking a high interest in me and what i do. you can call me a little skeptical about the online girl
engravefeelthevoid Posted November 26, 2006 Posted November 26, 2006 usually online relationships don't succeed, by that i mean because of many many variables including that she doesnt know you, what if u were a stalker?a killer?a rapist?a hitman???she doesnt know... can u prove it without seeing her in person? NO..........thats why its hard.. on the other hand..its not impossible..see when u meet an online girl and u wanna develop a relationship with her...u gotta do it fast...third time u chat her up ask her out.....while doing so act as if u dont care...so that she could have a desire to please you and make u care... in ur case i suggest u take the chance and ask her out..push hard on her..she wants to go out with you but shes a little reluctant...u gotta make her feel like its ok to go out...be honest too..tell her "i just wanna know u in person and if we go out it won't mean ur my gf or anything..its just a small meeting to know eachother more" keep telling her it'll be fun and all that talk....try a cafe or the extreme a themepark gdlk tell me how it goes
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