I think that he ALWAYS has to have the last word.. Or is it me?

[Lostgurl]

Now i Know that all you wonderful people have given me advice about this man before.... But needless to say... I am back again and i don't blame any of you if you don't respond because i have been told over and over to leave him.

 

This guy consumes me, i am getting to the point where my eyes are finally starting to open. My rose coloured glasses are starting to lose their hue....

 

I know he's probably the biggest TML fan in the world... But still. He tells me that i am the world to him.. If i am in distress, and upset, then shouldn't that come first? Before hockey? Not "Can't it wait until after the game baby?" and after i say that no baby, i need you to help me now. (there was a stress on time about it) and all he replyed with is "F**k i just don't know! i'll sign in after the game is on......

 

Ugh, we went over EVERYTHING again tonight and what i can see is it seems like he HAS to be right... I said i was sorry for being stressed and "getting my panties in a bind" but he still stressed on my doubt for him... like he always does. BUT i wasn't doubting him. I basically said that "I am more concerned for our relationship at this point than you" in an email after we signed off.... Then he was very upset that i was doubting him........... But honestly i wasn't.. It came out wrong, and he wouldn't accept that.

 

Then when i finally came up with a solution.. I said that maybe we need to be a little more clear on how we say things, b/c things are easily mixed up whne IM is the only form of communication.

 

He said i was right to a point and that he had to go shower..... that he would try to accomidate me in the future, as long as i didn't doubt him.... !

 

i WAS UPSET BY THAT COMMENT.But instead i told him how i loved him etc. and wished him sweet dreams.. all he gave me was a good night good lady? This is what leads me to think that all he needs is the last word.

 

My question is, am i wrong? Or is he just too stubborn to see that i wan't doubting him? Or am i just to stubborn? I HATE to question myself... But with him it seems i ALWAYS am...

 

I'm sorry this has gotten soo long and detailed,but if you made it this far... i'd sure like some input. I feel sooooo sh***y right now.

 

Thank u guys, i've really come to love LS

 

The lost one

[ShadowU12345]

First of all, if you are dating over the Internet, its just a lost cause. It does seem that he is controlling this relationship, but if all you worry about is who gets the last word, like it sounds, try sitting down one day and talk about everything, whatever comes to mind just say it. But, take turns talking and let the other one know when you are done talking so that they can start and go back and forth. This method seems like it would work.

 

P.S. Reply back, I would like to see how this method works.

Hope everything goes well!

[Lostgurl]

First of all, if you are dating over the Internet, its just a lost cause. It does seem that he is controlling this relationship, but if all you worry about is who gets the last word, like it sounds, try sitting down one day and talk about everything, whatever comes to mind just say it. But, take turns talking and let the other one know when you are done talking so that they can start and go back and forth. This method seems like it would work.

 

 

P.S. Reply back, I would like to see how this method works.

Hope everything goes well!

 

Hi ShadowU,

 

Thanks for your input. Yes, i agree he is the Dominant one in our relationship for sure! It doesn't bother me all that much though. Actually to tell you the truth, it bothers my family a whole hell of a lot more than it does me!

 

It has only been an LDR Relationship for almost 2 months, and we were together for 2.5 years now, and i'm planning on moving there in 5 monthes.

 

I know he's stubborn enough to want the last word all the time, but i seem to end up swallowing my pride and trying things to stop the arguing, which made me VERY upset doing so lastnight because i didn't do anything wrong!

 

I don't know, things sure aren't looking very good for us anymore. I know that he loves me and wants this relationship as much as i do. But i don't know if i can handle his stubborness, because i am stubborn too