How often do you chat with your SO during the day?

[johan]

...he's just this boring b*tchy blob of a guy.

 

I'm sorry to say this, but underneath it all, that's all any of us are. Except the bitchy part. Grouchy, maybe. This is the reason for the divorce rate.

 

Speaking for myself, spending time on the phone is such a drag. I like being together. Chatting on the phone is just not how I like to spend my time. When I have someone though, I don't mind checking in during the day. Mostly just to say hi. Kind of equivalent to pausing for a kiss or something during the day. Just to connect for a minute.

[lovestruck234]

I'm sorry to say this, but underneath it all, that's all any of us are. Except the bitchy part. Grouchy, maybe. This is the reason for the divorce rate.

 

Speaking for myself, spending time on the phone is such a drag. I like being together. Chatting on the phone is just not how I like to spend my time. When I have someone though, I don't mind checking in during the day. Mostly just to say hi. Kind of equivalent to pausing for a kiss or something during the day. Just to connect for a minute.

 

I disagree, Johan. I don't believe that's all that we are, underneath. No way. I do NOT see myself as boring, no way. Nor grouchy. I think you are a little off mark there....I hate spending my time doing nothing. I hate spending my time being unhappy or grouchy. I would rather spend my time doing something and being happy....I just don't see where you would grab an accusation like that from.

 

Like I have said, I LOVE seeing someone in person, and much more prefer it, but if I am an hour and a half away from that person, thinking of them...you know. But yeah, exactly. It doesn't take much out of someone's day to let them know that you're there.

[burning 4 revenge]

i haven't talked to touche in like three days now

[johan]

I disagree, Johan. I don't believe that's all that we are, underneath. No way. I do NOT see myself as boring, no way. Nor grouchy.

 

I was talking about men. Not women.

[lovestruck234]

I was talking about men. Not women.

 

Oh sorry...my bad.

 

Well, to an extent, I agree with that. I know some guys that are just as up for a good time as I am, all the time. They don't mope around working on their motorbike every weekend, and being too cheap to take their gf for a drive cos of the cost of fuel at 17 - 18 yrs old...

 

Most of them WANT to go camping, WANT to go surfing, WANT to go driving, WANT to leave the house on a weekend, WANT to do other things rather than the same old same old ALL THE TIME.

[burning 4 revenge]

Most of them WANT to go camping, WANT to go surfing, WANT to go driving, WANT to leave the house on a weekend, WANT to do other things rather than the same old same old ALL THE TIME.

I got exhausted just reading that

 

I WANT to go netsurfing... does that count?

[lovestruck234]

I got exhausted just reading that

 

I WANT to go netsurfing... does that count?

 

...lol, but you know what I mean...

 

When you're an 18 yr old girl....you don't exactly want to sit around doing nothing of a weekend....and I believe the same really should apply to an 18 yr old boy...

 

You only live once dammit! And 10 - 15 yrs down the track, we possible won't have the opportunity to go out spontaneously do things like this. You may be tied down with a family...live it up while you can, I say!

[Art_Critic]

We talk 2-3 times during the day and send each other quite a few hot steamy sex emails during the day till the day is over..

If one of use is really busy we just tell the other and pick up the emails when work slows down..

[IpAncA]

Well if he doesn't want to talk on the phone then their's nothing you can do about it to make him. BUT he should want to talk to you even if it's just to say hi.

[magichands]

Oh sorry...my bad.

Australia is practically an extension of America. I don't think it really has much of a linguistic identity.

[Mr. Lucky]

He's not into the whole talking on the phone. He'd rather do that in person.

Which makes him, IMHO, like most men. Women are just more, well, verbal. I'm always amazed when my wife can call someone who's house we just left to ask them something and end up talking to them for 45 minutes. I'd be outta things to say after 45 seconds. Don't know if it's nature or nurture but many men (me included) simply don't communicate that way.

 

Mr. Lucky

[dgiirl]

Which makes him, IMHO, like most men. Women are just more, well, verbal. I'm always amazed when my wife can call someone who's house we just left to ask them something and end up talking to them for 45 minutes. I'd be outta things to say after 45 seconds. Don't know if it's nature or nurture but many men (me included) simply don't communicate that way.

 

Mr. Lucky

 

We're not talking about a 45 min daily phone conversation. We're talking about a 2 second hey i was thinking of you and i miss you call. There has to be a little bit of a give and take here. It might not come natural to you to do that, but if you knew it made your wife feel really special and happy and loved, would you do it for _her_?

 

There's nothing wrong with asking exactly for the things that make you feel special, and people should be willing to do things that may not come natural to them to make the other person feel loved. When we stop doing these things, then you start taking the other for granted. Be specific and clear in what you want and dont be too proud to admit that it's for YOU. We get ourselves into trouble when we want someone to do something for us, but we dont want to impose, so we hint around the bush trying to convince them to do what we wish without us having to feel like we asked for it. Forget that. Ask for what you want and then appreciate it when you get it. Dont feel guilty because you had to ask for it. It negates the person's sacrifice to do it for us and we're never satisfied.

[My Fair Katie]

Hmm, when he worked outside of the home I'd talk to him when he got back from work. I was finishing up in college when we met, he was in the "real world" (not the tv show). We were both too busy during the day.

 

After I graduated we might throw back a few emails, mainly crap that says, "I'm going to kill my family in 3 seconds, let's elope."

 

After the wedding stress it went back down to not talking during working hours. I hate when cube mates would carry on long personal conversations as I sat there trying to work and drown them out with my headphones. Occassionally we would email eachother links to comic strips (I'd email him Pearls Before Swine and he'd email me random internet 'strips).

 

When my husband took a new job that allowed him to work from home we'd set up weekly lunch dates, that was nice.

 

Now we both work part of the time from home. Our interaction usually goes like this:

 

Katie: (standing in the foyer shouting up the upstairs landing) HEY, GOT A SECOND?

Katie's Hubs coming to the hall: Whatcha want?

Katie: I need some toilet paper for down here.

Katie's Hubs: Hold on a sec.

Katie waits.

Katie's Hubs: BOMBS AWAY.

Katie catches the toilet paper: Thanks hun.

Katie's Hubs: No problem, see ya at lunch.

 

Quality, not quantity. Always.

[dgiirl]

Quality, not quantity. Always.

 

lol what your home's not networked and you dont have im's?? That's how my exh and i use to communicate

[My Fair Katie]

lol what your home's not networked and you dont have im's?? That's how my exh and i use to communicate

 

LOL. We are networked, my husband however has about 30 thousand computers in his office and often mutes the sound. If I waited for him to see my IM of "Send me down some TP" I'd float away in a pool of my own... well, yeah.