Copers... what are you Thankful for?

[Teacher's Pet]

Thursday is Thanksgiving.

 

The day we gather with our families and loved ones and give thanks for all we have in our lives.

 

For those of us "Copers" here, I'm sure we feel less than 100% "thankful" about things in our lives at the moment, but it's good to reflect on what we DO have, rather than what we feel we don't have.

 

Every day is a blessing, no matter how much or how little you think you have.

 

 

I am thankful for.....

 

.....my job going well the last couple of months, with the possibility of promotion in the near future.

 

.....my mother's health improving, she's had it rough the last couple of years.

 

.....my new-found friends, without whom, I really don't want to think where I'd be without them.

 

.....reconnecting a little more with my father and my younger brother.

 

.....my own improved health, slowly getting in shape and feeling better about myself.

 

.....(yes, I'll say it) my ex, even though it was a horrible, painful breakup which I'm still not 100% over, for opening me up to new experiences, and giving me a little more of an "education" (no joke intended) about life and relationships.

 

.....finding this site. You guys have really turned things around for me.

 

Ok, before I bust out crying..... someone else go?

 

-tp

so full of love (and right now, mashed potatoes)

[amaysngrace]

I'm thankful that my blessings far outweigh my sorrows.

[AriaIncognito]

It's definitely hard to look at life and recognize the things to be thankful, though they far outweigh the bad...(in no particular order)

 

- I'm thankful that i have a job that pays me enough to not be too worried about how i'm going to make ends meet

- I'm thankful for all my family and friends, past and present

- I'm thankful that while my grandfather passed away this year, he's now with my grandmother and able to be with her again on thanksgiving

- I'm thankful for my cat, Jewelie, who provides me with love even when i feel unlovable

- I'm thankful that I have places to turn, when i'm down, to just vent, and not feel like I will have judgement passed upon me

- I'm thankful for the love I have had in my life, and hopeful that one day, I'll have it again (and hoping that I can figure out whats going on between me and my current ex whatever he is)

- I'm thankful that in general, my health is good (aside from the sinus infection I have currently)

[johan]

I'm thankful for all the usual things. I don't see any reason to provide the standard list.

 

That doesn't mean I'm satisfied with my life. The dissatisfactions are what claim most of my mental energy. That's how I am.

 

I'd be an idiot not to count my blessings, but this particular holiday doesn't trigger that more than any other day of the year. In fact, if I take anything for granted, it's the overblown holidays. The rest of the year actually means a lot more to me. Particularly when I have no woman with whom I can plan to do special things with during our time off.

 

I could have a lot more to be thankful for. And maybe having more of what I really want in life would give me the freedom to focus more on the things I was expected to list in this thread. That's also how I am.

[KittenMoon]

Besides friends, family, a job, a cat, and all that jazz...

 

I am thankful that less than an hour ago I made the decision to change my driving plans tomorrow and instead do a drive I've never driven myself, all alone.

 

Why I am thankful for this is not too far back, even a drive I was familiar with, that I wasn't even driving the car for, often sent me into major pre-travel anxiety.

 

And I just made a rational, clear headed, last minute decision to do something that would have previously sent me into a panic attack.

 

I guess if you are not me you can't know how important this is, this difference in myself, but I'm thankful for it. (I suppose I should be thanking the makers of Celexa which undoubtably plays a part in this....)

[Guest]

I'm thankful for friends who get me through the day - the ones who never left me, were never cruel during the worst days, who remind me of the person I'd like to but can't always be. I'm grateful that this experience has brought us closer than I thought we could be.

 

I'm thankful that the breakup has shown me who I can't trust when I'm vulnerable - you know, those toxic friends who do nothing but make things worse. They wallow in misery with you when they're down, and then kick you when when you're still down and things are going great for them.

 

I'm thankful for my job. I still can't quite wrap my head around the fact that this is my first full-time job, how exciting it is to be starting out, and how lucky I am to work with good co-workers and a good boss.

 

I'm thankful for the pain, which woke me up and made me realise that I have to start thinking about where I want to go instead of going where life sweeps me. Instead of waiting for things to happen.

 

I'm thankful for the fact that I'm alive, I have a roof over my head, that I have the luxury of thinking about these problems instead of where my next meal is coming from.

 

I'm thankful for hope, for the future.

[dr strangelove]

I been staring at this post, thinking I really dont have anything to be thankful for....

 

Sometimes I want to post on here about whats going on with me re romance situation but its not like blowing out the candles and making a wish it doesnt help it come true.

 

Enjoy your holiday

[LakesideDream]

Frankly, survival that first horrid year. The last five have been much easier.

 

Happy Holidays everyone.

[Art_Critic]

I'm thankful for my health and for having a good year sales wise for my company..

 

I'm thankful that I have a GF that "gets" me and someone that keeps me warm at night..Someone to share secrets with..and someone to share the future with.. finally

 

I will be spending Thanksgiving out of town with my family in SC( no GF as she will be with her family ).. So I'll be thankful if we have no family " incidents " and we don't kill one another..

Since my Step Mom passed away my family has been a train wreck and we are still working on coming back together..

 

I am thankful that I like who I am.. and who I aspire to be

[Kamille]

I been staring at this post, thinking I really dont have anything to be thankful for....

 

Sometimes I want to post on here about whats going on with me re romance situation but its not like blowing out the candles and making a wish it doesnt help it come true.

 

Enjoy your holiday

 

Hey Dr. Strangelove, we're here to listen, rather read, no matter what it is that's on your mind.

 

things i'm thankful for:

1. the kick i get out of being alive.

2. loving my job (which allows me to procrastinate and spend so much time here...)

3. everything I have learned. from friends, family and ex-loves.

4. my existentialist dad.

5. my romantic, sensitive, mom.

6. my practical sister.

7. my girlie girl friends

8. my let's have a revolution and change the world friends (some of whom also convert as girlie girls).

9. memories of my grandfather

10. being who i am.

11. my health

12. books, music, art.

[dr strangelove]

Nah never mind

 

The reality is and you mentioned it most people are on here to kill time. Sorry im not positive about anything at all.

 

I can offer advice and common sense and even offer suggestions to get your ex back as I actually did get exes back.. not this time around though but before I have, all those small victories are pointless at this point.

[melodymatters]

Besides friends, family, a job, a cat, and all that jazz...

 

I am thankful that less than an hour ago I made the decision to change my driving plans tomorrow and instead do a drive I've never driven myself, all alone.

 

Why I am thankful for this is not too far back, even a drive I was familiar with, that I wasn't even driving the car for, often sent me into major pre-travel anxiety.

 

And I just made a rational, clear headed, last minute decision to do something that would have previously sent me into a panic attack.

 

I guess if you are not me you can't know how important this is, this difference in myself, but I'm thankful for it. (I suppose I should be thanking the makers of Celexa which undoubtably plays a part in this....)

 

I used to have a driving phobia too ! It still is not the most comfortable thing for me to do ( at least driving to new places, that is)

 

I overcame it the same way : after never having driven more than 20 miles away, I just decided to drive from upstate Ny to florida, and made it !!!

 

So I guess I'm thankful i'm that : I'm mostly over my driving thing, that my 13 yr old is alive and well, that my neighbors invited me over for thanksgiving, that I will be moving soon to a bigger town, and that I'm not a quadriplegic ( my biggest fear)

 

Hopefully next year I'll have bigger list !

 

 

...oh and thanks to all of you at LS for keeping me company for the last 4 months !

[Kamille]

Nah never mind

 

The reality is and you mentioned it most people are on here to kill time. Sorry im not positive about anything at all.

 

I can offer advice and common sense and even offer suggestions to get your ex back as I actually did get exes back.. not this time around though but before I have, all those small victories are pointless at this point.

 

I wish it was time i was killing and not time i was spending sharing thoughts and ideas about life and love instead of working on my comprehensive exams. (The good news is, I now get paid to do exams... Another thing I'm thankful for...). I get a lot from my mild addiction to LS. The addiction stems from the support I get and the support I give.

 

But Strangelove, hope you feel better sometime soon. And again, don't hesitate to share your thoughts if ever you feel like it!

[dr strangelove]

Ya I used to have this phobia about being stabbed until one day I was robbed and got stabbed in the leg and had a nice young man take a knife to my head.

 

Gee christ I didnt cant even say "hey I got robbed and had the **** beat out of me and all I got was this tshirt".. I got a scar though and blood stains on the wall..hmm

[dr strangelove]

Well Kamille if you look above I just shared a thought. And actually I dont think they make a tshirt for that type of thing

 

Tshirts I would like to see

 

1) Car jacked :-(

2) Straight and proud

[Ssheena]

Pecan Pie!

Girlfriends that are active and play tennis and ski with me

My wonderful kids and cats and even the smelly dogs.

Living somewhere where it is sunny most of the time and I can see mountains.

LS

and mashed potatoes too!

 

Have a great holiday or Thursday to those of you to whom it is just another day.

[cole]

Thanks for reminding me that break-ups happen for a reason!

 

1. I can feel however I choose to feel, whenever I choose to feel it, and there's no one to tell me it's wrong or a problem I need to fix. YES!

2. Waking up early on the weekends and taking myself on hikes - it's hard to get anywhere when someone's sleeping until 2PM every weekend.

3. No one calls me to tell me they are going out, but I can't join them, I'd better find something else to do. Friends call me because they want to do something with ME.

4. People ask me what I've been up to, or what I enjoy, not what I should be doing/what goals I should have or what I should enjoy.

5. I can sleep on whichever side of the bed I want ... or the middle!

6. I love the activities I propose, and no one shoots 'em down or tells me that we can't do it for whatever reason.

7. I may have a zit/lost weight/gained weight/have a mark on my shirt - WHATEVER - but no one points it out when I walk through the door.

8. I no longer have to hear my two (three) least favorite words - "always" and "never" with a "you" as an intro.

9. There may be some toothpaste in the sink, and that's okay, NOT a major concern that shows that I'm not proving my worth.

10. I haven't heard a single whine out of anyone in months. I'm whine-free (though not wine free ... fortunately)!

11. The grating sounds of constant complaining, blaming, and burping are gone too!

12. There are no more brick walls blocking my path and deflecting my words. I am no longer trapped, tired, and bored.

13. If I want to change up my daily/weekly routine I can - spontanaeity is appreciated and ideas are pursued.

14. Goals are for actively working towards. No one is entitled or should expect to get what they most want by talking about the same few things for years on end, and, if that fails to work, no one should expect anyone else to take on said goals to prove their worth to the lazy daydreamer. I am seeing my dreams take shape in my life right now, and they are FOR ME, and I can move at the pace I want, taking pride in my abilities, knowing that I will do it, and it's okay if I make a mistake or two along the way.

15. My feelings aren't accusations, my love isn't a threat, my words have meaning that have less to do with being "too smart" and more to do with enjoying a good conversation, and my behavior is no longer "observed" for signs that I am good enough. I am the prize.

16. I'm closer to my family and friends than I have been in some time.

17. I really am so much HAPPIER about ... so many things.

Whew! My ex contacted me a couple hours ago and being thankful for what I have now feels awesome! Thank you all, I get so much from reading what you all have to say, and not just at this moment ... I know there are so many understanding souls out there who will gain so much from what feels now like a complete loss.

I like to think it is most likely the best "failure" we'll ever have. YAY.

[Guest]

Aw Cole you really inspired me

 

And everyone else too - LOL @ Dr Strangelove. Car jacking t shirt LOL! I'd wear it.

 

I guess despite the massive turmoil and freaking out that I am doing before this Thanksgiving preparing to see the family (long awful story), I am thankful that at long last I have finally realized they were wrong about me, and if they say anything to that extent again I will finally give them a mouthful. I used to blame myself completely for their abuse, but I am thankful for the realization that I am not the disgusting piece of filth they said I was. After so many years of believing it, and for my mom, who is helping me financially.

[CosmoBella]

This year hasn't been the best but regardless I am thankful for

 

=>My loving family that they've had good health this year

=>An amazing job that I enjoy

=>For finding LS and helping me heal

=>Making greater possibilities in my life

:-)