sumrluv2prty Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 I am a divorced 25 year old female with 2 children under 5. I have been in a 5 month relationship with a 21 year old male that has never had children, or a long term serious relationship. At the beginning everything was fine and we got along great...recently we decided to move in with each other...Things are not going well! We fight about everything! (Never in front of the children, we always make sure they are not home when we fight) I am not happy and I have told him that. I tried to leave him this weekend, but he cried so hard that I felt bad...He has nothing without me...I make twice the money he does and I bought him a car. I take care of him in every way...i.e. meals, laundry, bills etc.... I want out and I don't know what else to say to him! Every time I tell him that I can't do it anymore and that I want to end it...he cries that he is nothing and his life is nothing with out me...he can't live with out me! Well of course not! I have turned into his mother! I am at a loss of words with him, I don't know what more I can say to him...I want him to leave since I am the one on the lease and responsible for all of it. How do I make him pack his things and get out with out being a total "bitch" about it?
Pyro Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 I am a divorced 25 year old female with 2 children under 5. I have been in a 5 month relationship with a 21 year old male that has never had children, or a long term serious relationship. At the beginning everything was fine and we got along great...recently we decided to move in with each other...Things are not going well! We fight about everything! (Never in front of the children, we always make sure they are not home when we fight) I am not happy and I have told him that. I tried to leave him this weekend, but he cried so hard that I felt bad...He has nothing without me...I make twice the money he does and I bought him a car. I take care of him in every way...i.e. meals, laundry, bills etc.... I want out and I don't know what else to say to him! Every time I tell him that I can't do it anymore and that I want to end it...he cries that he is nothing and his life is nothing with out me...he can't live with out me! Well of course not! I have turned into his mother! I am at a loss of words with him, I don't know what more I can say to him...I want him to leave since I am the one on the lease and responsible for all of it. How do I make him pack his things and get out with out being a total "bitch" about it? Unfortunately you are going to have to get tough with him. If you don't, he will keep crying because he knows that you will take him back. This guy is just dragging you down, and will eventually drag your kids down as well. You have responsibilities. You have two young ones and it sounds like he is not helping you out at all.
Trialbyfire Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Decide on a date you want him out, make sure your kids are with someone responsible, ensure that you have two big male friends/relatives with you to help transition him out the door. I'm sorry to say this but he sounds like a sponge relying on a very capable woman.
dropdeadlegs Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Every time I tell him that I can't do it anymore and that I want to end it...he cries that he is nothing and his life is nothing with out me...he can't live with out me! Well of course not! I have turned into his mother!...How do I make him pack his things and get out with out being a total "bitch" about it? Most 21 year old males are looking for someone who will take over where Mommy left off without "bitching" and with the added plus of SEX! You're a Mom already and don't need a significantly older "child." Your post makes that clear. I'm a Mom too, and I have a 21 year old male child. I'm sure he thinks I'm a total bitch, but I have no problem taking a very "bitchy" attitude with him when he isn't acting like a grown man, which he basically is. He doesn't live with me anymore (thank God) but acts like a baby in many ways with his live-in girlfriend and their recently arrived child (1 week old.) You have enough on your plate with two children. Let him cry to his actual Momma. Kick him to the curb with no regrets and learn a valuable lesson. Girls mature faster than boys. All the textbooks say so, they just don't mention how long maturity actually takes. Good luck!
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