theadventure50120 Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 I’m feeling like **** and completely confused at the minute. I really like this new girl I have been seeing , I never think of the ex when I’m with her , but when I’m alone I do think of the ex. This girl is possibly the only girl at the minute to match my ex , they are simliar apart from there ages and the attitude problem my ex had. I tend to miss the ex at nights as that's when we did most of the things so that's normal and i miss getting out of this place and spending time alone , she had a car... (I have been broken up with her for 2month now , some of you won't know what's happened so your going to be a little confused starting to read this) I’m now 2weeks NC; I unblocked the ex from msn. She has deleted her myspace, for whatever reason I don’t know. Someone phoned me the other night at 10.30pm with a withheld number, didn’t know it was ringing so didn’t pick it up. I don’t know what I’m feeling; could it just be a lack of female company? I also don’t want to do a rebound, infact I don’t even know what it feels like. Because I imagine people will think of the ex’s when with someone else, but what does it go off? I made a topic last night about rebounds and healing , it got deleted because i had some links to other sites , sorry. While reading the rebound one it made me think of my last relationship. I got a invite off the ex to join a site , i looked at her profile and she has under relationship status "been through alot , taking a break from them" , what the hell does that mean? She talks like i did something bad , possibley talking about her 4 and a half year one before me which she was broken up with him for a year , and me thinking was i a rebound maybe? (She had someone 2months before me i forgot , but that lasted 2weeks, ours lasted about 5month and then it just changed) I also got a myspace message off the ex a week into NC after i phoned her about her things saying "just to let you know i'm on medication for depression , i'll come and get my things when i feel up to it." Ok , why would she tell me this? Why not have got them earlier , or later when she is better , why does she feel the need to message me now when she is feeling like this? Is it some sort of sympathy thing? I didn't answer it anyway as i had nothing to answer to. Also my ex's name on msn is {{i will fake a smile for you<3}} i have past caring what her names say but this was quite funny. She had as her sub name "meh" when i unblocked her...within about 30mins it changed to "gone for tea yummy , not as yummy as steve though :giggle:" This Steve guy lives 400miles away and never met so it doesn't bother me , but when this new girl came to my house i changed my name to "(my name) & (her name)" and she went offline. Came back later though. I thought i would play to as immature as it is , but my person i actually met. I'll not bore you any longer with that stuff though , but my mum reminded me that night..actually stuck up for my ex for once. I once said i would feel gutted if she found someone else (she hasn't so it's ok) but when i changed my name on msn she knew i had someone here with me , maybe she felt the same way? Anyway reason for the topic is , why am i feeling the way i do about this new girl , i'm certain she likes me so that's no problem but i'm holding off for some reason.
BannaBee57 Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 If you are still thinking a lot about the ex that I would say it is definitely a rebound. I've heard different opinions on this now. Some people would say it's good to get out and date...just let the person you are interested in know that you want to take things pretty slow as you are still kind of getting over someone. Some people would say that if you are still thinking about the ex a lot (and concerned about what she's up to) then you are not ready to date and it's not fair to these other people. However, I have talked to a few people who say that their "rebound" relationship became the love of their life and they couldn't be happier. I guess what you do is up to you. Maybe seeing someone knew will make you forget all about your ex. She sounds pretty messed up to me anyway. Here's hoping things get easier for you
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 21, 2006 Author Posted November 21, 2006 If you are still thinking a lot about the ex that I would say it is definitely a rebound. I've heard different opinions on this now. Some people would say it's good to get out and date...just let the person you are interested in know that you want to take things pretty slow as you are still kind of getting over someone. Some people would say that if you are still thinking about the ex a lot (and concerned about what she's up to) then you are not ready to date and it's not fair to these other people. However, I have talked to a few people who say that their "rebound" relationship became the love of their life and they couldn't be happier. I guess what you do is up to you. Maybe seeing someone knew will make you forget all about your ex. She sounds pretty messed up to me anyway. Here's hoping things get easier for you Thanks , i was pretty much expecting something like that but i needed another persons view. I wouldn't go into a rebound relationship to end up hurting them anyway. I don't want to go in and realize i can't do it, maybe that's the risk i got to take. I spoke to this girl for 6month anyway so she knows about me and my ex , we both had someone then but now we don't , i did like her while i was with the ex (i found her attractive that's all) but she doesn't know how i'm feeling , and i don't really want to tell her as it might make her run off. So i'll keep quiet and try to focus on her because as i said when i'm with her all my troubles go. and yes my ex is pretty messed up , she even admitted it when she broke up with me. She has depression and mentally issues which she blames her bf before me for. Which she can't seem to get over. Messed her up bad and she left him, he lives 20mile away anyway. So she is never going to see him again. She constantly brought him up with me also. It was like i was with her and her past all the time.
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 Well i came across my ex's myspace , she seems to have made a new one. I read it , didn't bother me atall. But she has hit it right on the head about what she is like. If you want to know then here you go and i have quoted them all so i can comment on them. I'mIgnorant, Obnoxious, Naïve, Insecure, Easily confused, Shy, Jealous, Over Protective.I take an Instant dislike to most people.I'm too stubborn to change my opinion.I get obsessed with things so easily.I listen to my heart, rather than my head.I'm very self-consious.I'm afraid of falling in love with the wrong person.Shy? That is why games won't work with her , as she is going to be playing them to and she won't come forward. Same as me really. My name means Princess =] I don't have any real friends.My own fault really.But I'm working on it. I won't add you to MSN unless I find you absolutely amazing! Which I doubt I will. I fall for people too easily.It hurts when you hit the ground. So I'm giving up hopeThat i will ever find my prince charming.Yes i do know I'm young...But i have no patience!She once said to me "friends are more important then a bf" hah , really? Where is her friends now lol. I love to read.Karin Slaughter is my favourite author.I also love Alex Kava.I love games too.I adore Final Fantasy.Expecially 7 [<3 Vincent]I like racing games too.I want my need for speed most wanted back! I hate that people who I like. Never feel the same [Hurt] I love piercings I have 15 at the momentl I have many more planned though.And some tattoos =] All i want in my lifeIs to be happy. If you don't like me...I don't care,There's a good chance i won't like you either. My two friends are all i need <3 I have her need for speed game , she knows where it is...COME AND GET IT! and the 2 friends she means , she has never met they live at the other side of England lol. I don't know what to do with her anymore , i mean i am indifferent now , doing NC it's worked for me. But it isn't going to bring her back is it. She is to stubborn , even if she does miss me there is no hope in hell she will admit it. I'll just deal with her when / if she comes and gets her things , i'm not reaching out for her. I have also texted that new girl , told her i liked her..she has gone to bed so i'm going to have to wait. I just wrote this to show you what girl i went out with really , and why i was so messed up after the relationship.
BannaBee57 Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 You say you are "indifferent to her now", but if this was true then you wouldn't even care what her Myspace says or how to react to things. The whole reason you are here asking questions about how you should proceed is because you aren't indifferent yet. Don't worry though, you'll be there someday. In the mean time I'd say try avoiding her Myspace...it isn't helping you to sit and wonder why she wrote things and analyzing her thoughts. Good luck with the new girl though. Maybe as things progress you won't even give a second thought to your ex!
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 no no , i mean indifferent as in i don't care if she comes back or not A couple of weeks ago i would have got upset just glancing eyes on her pics , doesn't bother me now. But i know she has no-one in her life apart from her family , no friends (in person) and she is a stubborn person. She went crazy last time she was like this (before she met me) , she could go the same way
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 That girl texted back , she likes me to Also my ex is off to London to meet some guy she has spoke to for 4year online , and apparently is madly in love with , she always mentioned him to me and asked if i would let her meet him About this new girl , i'll sort and talk to her the next time i see her..as i'm not sure what i want.
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 Well i talked to that girl on msn tonight , and yes we both like each other and i told her i would talk more in person then online as it's better. But i'm going to mention a word to her which is "slow" i'm not rushing anything anymore. But i think i'm so close to a relationship if i choose to have it. Wheter or not i don't know , i really want one but i just got over the last one. I'll see , maybe it will help me.
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 26, 2006 Author Posted November 26, 2006 I was with this girl till 1am last night. After i walked her home i sent a text saying "i would have kissed you if i wasn't drunk but i couldn't see your lips clearly , didn't want to kiss the wrong part of you lol" some sort of joke really and i wasn't drunk, she replied with "i wish you did kiss me , i wanted to kiss you but i didn't know if you wanted to" I am so comfortable now with her. Which is what i wanted. So yeah , i just need to ask her out and she is basically going to say yes. My ex has sort of done me a favour , she is back tomoro from London and i am now 19days NC. I feel so good at this minute. My dog has ran away again , 4times now. First time she has ran away at this time , it's 10pm. I don't think she is coming back this time It's her own fault. Bit random , but yeah lol. Think i will ask this girl out soon. Got alot out of her , about what she likes in a guy. So i know EXACTLY what she wants , she doesn't like clingy people. That's the problem i have made so often. But i have learnt alot in the past 2months. I won't be making the same mistakes again
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 Ok little update. I'm seeing this girl on Friday for a drink , then going to town on Saturday , and spend all day with her , we are coming back here after that. If Saturday goes well i'll ask her out that night. I keep it to 2 times a week , might go to more i don't know. Don't want to get to involved , not like last time. I might buy some drink for Saturday , i don't act stupid when been drinking just i'm relaxed which will help lol. I'm certain she is going to yes anyway. I can honestly say if i seen my ex now i could wish her happiness in the future and all that stuff , but i'm not going to. I don't like her Wish me luck
BannaBee57 Posted November 29, 2006 Posted November 29, 2006 I'm so glad this is working out for you Theadventure! Now if only I could move on like that.
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 29, 2006 Author Posted November 29, 2006 I'm so glad this is working out for you Theadventure! Now if only I could move on like that. Thanks , you will soon I had her already lined up , i knew i liked her but when me and my ex finished she was blocked and deleted from my msn contact list...wonder who did that She knew i liked her and didn't like me talking to any other girls...i was left with no girls to talk to and no friends....but guess what i got them all back My ex thinks she is cleverly then me , but really she isn't lol. She is the one left with no friends, she spent months trying to get them back from her last bf and said it was hard. It was easy for me , i just shifted the blame onto her Took me less then a week But i'm very happy now. Atlast!
Author theadventure50120 Posted December 3, 2006 Author Posted December 3, 2006 Ok night over. Didn't ask her out though , i had to do ONE thing before i did that which i did at the end of the night. I kissed her for the first time We basically act like a couple anyway only difference is i haven't asked her yet lol , which i will do no problem now We spent time together from 10.30am to 1am today , it was soooo long. We wanted to watch something at the pictures but it didn't start till 7pm! So we had to do something for 7hrs lol , which was loooong. I ate 2 McDonalds haha and we spent most of the time in a pub and shopped a bit. Which was cool. Then when we finished watching the film we had to wait an hour for the bus back home. It was like a test of patiences day lol. But yeah got back here at 11.30pm , watched a dvd...took her home , while i was thinking most of the time i HAVE to kiss her which was making me go nuts. But done it. Hehe while i was hugging her i whispered in her ear "i would kiss you but you just had your lip pierced" She said it didn't hurt that much so i did it. That is the first person i kissed in 2month , glad i finally done it. Feel much better now
hollywood24 Posted December 3, 2006 Posted December 3, 2006 grats! post need to be 10 characters.....:\
Author theadventure50120 Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Well i asked her..... She said yes She didn't think i was being serious lol , because i never am. But once she realized i wasn't messing around she said yes. Anyway thanks for your support
Author theadventure50120 Posted December 4, 2006 Author Posted December 4, 2006 Month NC , ex breaks NC again. I have a girlfriend now , think thats why? it's in my msn name. But she said "do you mind telling me why your mam called me "one sad bitch" ooopss..my mam must have got online and done it..don't know what its got to do with her though. But i'm going to ignore her again and i didn't answer her Maybe she will get the message. But i'm prepared for alot of abuse.
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