TheDiva Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 I should have started this thread earlier because I have to go pick up the kids now. HEY EVERYONE, WE HAVE A MM HERE THAT IS WILLING TO GIVE SOME ANSWERS. Let's all take advantage of him (in a good way).I'm off to get the kids, I hope everyone has a great evening, and if I'm not back until next week, hope you all have a great Thanksgiving. :lmao: I can't believe you said that! I hate that I have to get up and down and can't finish a post in one sitting. Oh well better late then never..... and I am getting excercise too
sinceyouasked Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 herenow I thought my wife no longer loved me, and was angry that she put other things ahead of me. It seemed like I continued to fall lower in her list of priorities. There were things that were wrong, and neither of us spoke of them. I loved my wife but was not willing to ask for her love. I wanted it freely given as it was earlier in our relationship. Another woman and I became friendly. She lived in a different state and so our relationship was carried on mostly through e-mail. Though we did meet on a few occasions. pricilla yes, one woman is enough
BenThereDunThat Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 He messed with the wrong woman! 5 weeks strong Way to go BTDT! That's kinda how I feel. Like, really. Did you really think that that crap was gonna fly? Apparently somewhere along the way I gave him the impression that I was an idiot. I guess maybe because the mere fact that I gave him more than the time of day (knowing he was married) would lead one to believe that I was an idiot!!!
yousaveme Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 herenow, i have no problem with you. We have been very civil to one another and have come to an understanding i think anyway. I have been struggling the last few days with some issues and i have wanted to post for advise and support. But have stopped myself because of previous bashing and attacks that was going on. I have gotten some really good advise and support, but i am also considering leaving.
NoIDidn't Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Okay ladies, let's keep our projections in check. Sinceyouasked is not our WH or MM. Welcome, since, hope you enjoy. Question: how did things turn out? are you still with your W?
noforgiveness Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 thanks for doing his sinceyouasked. Did you tell the OW you loved her? Did you really love her? Do you feel this was a huge mistake or did it wok well?
BenThereDunThat Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Thank you. I will try my best to be truthful and respectful. And BTDT, you are an inspiration to all who come here for help. Herenow - you have to update your profile to accept PM's... (well, ok, you don't HAVE to. I would LIKE for you to update your profile....) ;-)
frannie Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 herenow I thought my wife no longer loved me, and was angry that she put other things ahead of me. It seemed like I continued to fall lower in her list of priorities. There were things that were wrong, and neither of us spoke of them. I loved my wife but was not willing to ask for her love. I wanted it freely given as it was earlier in our relationship. Another woman and I became friendly. She lived in a different state and so our relationship was carried on mostly through e-mail. Though we did meet on a few occasions. pricilla yes, one woman is enough I haven't looked to see if another thread was started on this, I just wanted to reply here first: Thanks for braving speaking on the forum. And, this is exactly the situation as my MM described it when we met.
BenThereDunThat Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 What surprises me BTDT is that none of the OW have come down on you. I think you have been extremely honest in condemning your married man and probably making a lot of OW's think. You've been hitting your situation and MM hard and no one seems to mind but if the wife makes a comment on the life an OW must endure all hell breaks loose. Kindof funny. I guess they would like to pretend us wives do not exist. The whole seen but not heard thing. For some reason I didn't see this until today. I hope it's because the OW's realize I'm not coming down on them. I was there. I know what it's like to have your head and heart all messed up to the point you don't even know which way is up anymore. Not saying that that is the case in all their situations, either. I won't condemn or support someone who is in a relationship with a MM. Not my place to judge obviously. I will be a cheerleader for anyone trying to get out though. And in no way would I start a battle of words with a BW. My god, how could I? Look at what I did! I'll defend myself if someone attacks me personally. But that hasn't happened here. When it comes down to it, no one here can be harder on me than I have myself. I hope that all makes sense. We had a work party yesterday and my head still hurts.
BenThereDunThat Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I thought my wife no longer loved me, and was angry that she put other things ahead of me. It seemed like I continued to fall lower in her list of priorities. There were things that were wrong, and neither of us spoke of them. I loved my wife but was not willing to ask for her love. I wanted it freely given as it was earlier in our relationship. Another woman and I became friendly. She lived in a different state and so our relationship was carried on mostly through e-mail. Though we did meet on a few occasions. Again, it comes down to fear of confrontation. And the fact that you wanted it freely given? Life happens. Priorities change. If you can't tell your own WIFE that you were feeling unloved, what the hell is the point? It'd be great if all things in life were just FREELY given, but too bad, they're not. Sometimes you have to actively seek what it is you need. Not go lick your wounds with some other woman.
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