Lisa32 Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 So I've known this guy for about a year....and the whole time have had a huge crush on him. We finally starting hanging out...and getting along really really well. He even said "I'm scared...I know I'm going to fall in love with you." We totally were opening up to each other bigtime, and would talk for hours. His female friend even told me he talked about me for a long long time, but never felt worthy of me (he makes very little $), which is why it took so long for him and I to get together. Now he just graduated school, he's 30, he's bartending and is miserable at this new job. He's now looking for a job in the field he graduated in, and I know he's a bit depressed about it. Anyway, after only 2 weeks of actual dating...he just blew me off, which shocked the he-- out of me. We were really getting close and opening up. I finally confronted him after almost a week...and sent him a txt. I said "What happened to you? Are you ok, or do you just not want to hear from me." He responded with "Lisa it's not like that, I'm just under a lot of stress and I just want to get my bearings. I do want to get together. give me a few days and I'll give you a call." I just said "Thanks for the txt. I hope you're ok. Call me even if you just need to talk." That was last Wed. I haven't heard from him since. Is this a guy who's "just not that into me?" If that's the case, then why not just ignore my txt if he's trying to get rid of me...or why not just say "I'm not ready for a relationship." At least when a guy says that, you know he's saying "I'm just not ready for a relationship...with you." and I'd know for sure that he wasn't interested.
laRubiaBonita Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 maybe he does feel you are outta his league, and is nervous. i would send him one last text or email, or call and just reiterate the fact that you are interested in him, and you felt the same things from him....but you want to give him space and time to whatever he needs to get done, and when he is ready he can give You a call. then move on somewhat.
Author Lisa32 Posted November 21, 2006 Author Posted November 21, 2006 Thanks Rubia. You've been very helpful with this. I went on 2 different dates with 2 different guys this past weekend...so I'm trying to move on. The only thing is, it stinks when you're crazy about someone else. I have nothing in common with the other two, compared to my bartender. I'm scared to txt him again, because i don't want to come on too strong or chase him too much...but maybe I will eventually. That's why I'm confused, because if he's just not interested in me, I'd rather walk away than push him...and maybe salvage what's left of my ego.
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