insomnie Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 It's only been a day of NC for me but already I miss him badly. I can't sleep, I can't really work...I just want to talk to him, see him happy again. We are both 20, have been together 2.5 years. He broke up with me because he felt pressure to entertian me and keep me happy. He said I made him jump through hoops. To an extent he is right, I did, but only because I saw this coming. I knew he was unsure about wanting to be wth me. We'd hang out twice a week and it would always feel like he didn't want to be there. Anyway, I guess I want to know what the chances are of him contacting me. He mentioned wanting to be friends and see where that takes us, and also wanting to talk about what went wrong when he was "less busy". But, it's been a couple of days and I've heard nothing. How do you know when the other person has lost all desire to be with you, when it's really, REALLY over? I would not want to get back togehter right NOW and maybe not at all, but I would like to talk about things when we are both more calm and maybe see if we can be friends.
confused_too_much Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 If there was love they will come back if there wasnt love then just walk away and move on! No contact is great stuff... makes them think about you and you become stronger. When a person take another for granted I feel thats when stuff starts to go wrong. A break, or seperation from each other can do wonders to rekindle the fire. Bottom line is this... I know from 1st hand experience (I moved 5000 miles away) that no matter the distance you place between yourself and the one you love, no matter what you do, where you go who you sleep with if you loved that person you simply CANNOT escape your feelings. It took me a while to realise this with one of my ex's... You could have placed me in Antartica and I'd have found a way to get back to her. Just take a breather and have fun but dont wait around. It'll hurt for a bit but it gets easier. Just move on and have fun if he loves you he will be back but how long are you prepared to wait for him?
EllieBear Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 I am totally there with you on this one insomnie. For me it's been almost 2 months and no call or text from my ex. What gives? I have called and text him a few times and NO response!! Does this mean he's never going to call? Why isn't he calling?? I mean we dated for 9 months it's not like I can be forgotten that easily... Guys....why don't you call your ex? I know why but somehow I cant get it through my mind...the reason why he's not calling is b.c he doesn't want too and doesn't miss me..am I right??? But to answer your post...Go NC for a while and see what happends....Don't call him whatever you do! If he calls answer, but be short and end the call...Don't be the one to call...If he calls that means he still thinks of you, but doesn't mean he wants to get back together....just take it one day at a time and don't wait for him...just move on..after a few months contact him and see if you two can be friends. Good luck!
BannaBee57 Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 EllieBear, Sometimes they do contact you, but not to get back together. They contact you to "talk" and "be friends". Is that any better? Not if you want a reconciliation. It will just rip at your heart more. insomnie, If you're ready to be "just friends" then give him a little while to get back to you...like you said it's only been a day. My question is this, if you don't want him back now then why do you care about him losing his desire or if it's really over?
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