CaliGuy Posted December 1, 2006 Posted December 1, 2006 I don't know if any skinny guy out there has ever come across this but what recently happened to me is about the worst case I have seen. I recently met a girl online and we out and had a good time I thought and now she isn't returning my calls and I am positive it is because she feels I am to skinny for her. Why do I say this? Because after she quit returning my calls she changes her online profile where it says she only wants fit and athletic looking guys(she had slim and slender on there too before our date) and that she wants a guy that works out and take cares of himself. Ok there is nothing wrong with thinking that way, however the thing is I do work out, I am physically fit and I take very good care of myself physically! Just because I am a slim guy that has problems gaining weight doesn't make me nonathletic or out of shape, some of the greatest athletes out there are built just like myself. The last thing is that this chick is 5'0 tall and like 100 pounds. How big of a guy is she wanting?? she is tiny, it would look odd for her to be with someone to much bigger. She also made a comment during the date saying "you're really a slim guy aren't you?" I am sitting here like so what who cares?!?!? Is that all that matters to you? I can't help that!! Oh well that is my rant for the day. Maybe I am being paranoid or self-conscious but does anyone else find it a little wrong that someone is going to be that picky about someone? It just seems to be another case of being a skinny guy women just don't like them. It is really about as bad as being obese sometimes because there seems to be a stereotype out there that women should be with a big man. My question to you is WHY do you care? She she likes heavier guys. BIG DEAL?! Why would you waste your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you when you could be spending your time searching for the one who does. If your weight bothers you that much, start slamming the protein shakes and hit the gym. You can complain about it all you want but you can not change someone's personal preferences. Don't you have some personal preferences and haven't you eliminated someone who was interested in you because they did not meet your standards? It works both ways, bud. The sooner you stop caring about the ones who aren't interested in you the better off you'll be. Cheers.
bluescreenlife Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 the curse of the cross eyed man NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Guest Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 That's the problem with short/skinny guys is that a small girl is just right for us but unfortunately not the other way around, it's a bad catch-22 and yeah, it does suck balls. I guess go for ones same height or a little taller. They don't seem to mind. It's pretty weird actually, I'm sure this is a phenomenon that exists.. taller or bigger girls into smaller guys, and tiny girls not into smaller guys
jenniferlm Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 She seems pretty shallow. and her comment was rude. I mean, when you are both 70 it's not going to matter what kind of body someone had when they were 25. The only thing that will matter is that your partner is a good person who is honest and has integrity and morals. People are so very shallow. Makes me sick sometimes. Granted I'm sensitive about this subject because at my job I have to look good to make money and everyone around me seems shallow in one way or another...
Antheia Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 It's her personal preference. Just like you probably wouldn't want to date obese women.
IWalkAlone Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Where the hell are are the women who like prefer skinny guys? I've never read such a load of crap before. When I go out with male friends, it's always the more athletic/muscular guys that get attention from women & hook up with them. When I'm somewhere where I can evesdrop on women talking about guys, it's always someone who looks like Brad Pitt in Fight Club they think is hot, not Ed Norton in Fight Club. I think the women in this thread are like guys who claim that boob size doesn't matter, or claim to prefer small boobs. There are a few women who like skinny guys and guys who like small boobs, as well as men and women who sincerely don't care about these things. And yes, flat chested women and skinny guys do manage to get dates & get laid, but let's not kid ourselves what the preferences of most people are.
electric_sheep Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 You sound about my size. I am 6'0 140. My problem is being small boned especially in the forearm and leg area. The thing is no matter how much I lift and work out I'm not gonna make those areas of my body much bigger unless I just gain a lot of fat in that area, which is hard to do. Some people put an enormous amount of emphasis on appearance. There is really nothing you can do about it. Personally, I think it's really superficial. Sure, I like attractive women, but I'm creative enough and open minded enough that my idea of attractive encompasses a wide spectrum, and personality plays a huge part. Some people are just very picky (superficial ) though, and they have seemingly insane requirements for who they will date, like what there hair color hair is, or how long it is, etc... You should be happy you weeded this girl out. My God, imagine how much it would suck to date someone like her. As for weight gain... I was 6' and 139 lbs. at one point ! I was also a long distance runner, which accounted for it. Now I'm 6' and 150-155 lbs. I'm lean, but muscular at the same time. I'll tell you how I gained that 15 lbs. I cut back on the running, started lifting weights more, and ... here's the key ... I started eating ! A lot ! My guess is you're like me, and you came from a family that eats reasonable amounts of foods. You wouldn't believe the amount of food a lot of Americans eat. It's really quite astounding. Despite all the crap you hear on TV, weight gain/loss is pure science/physics ... it's all thermodynamics. You need to create a Calorie surplus, and the only way to do that is eat. Eat big time ! If you have a small stomach like me, that means you're going to have to eat several meals a day. Snack all the time, that's what I do. Consider, you're fairly muscular right now, so your resting metabolism is already cranked way up high. You're like a Calorie engine, and you need to feed that engine. I know how hard it can be, believe me. I paid a trip to GNC and bought some energy/muscle bars that have like 600 Calories a piece in them. That helps. Just keep eating and lifting weights ... I swear you'll bulk up eventually. Either that or just be happy with the way you are. I have to admit though, I get smiles and looks I didn't get back when I was so skinny. It's undeniable. People are just shallow that way. Everybody is to a certain degree. But, only the really shallow ones will make appearance the only important thing.
SmoochieFace Posted December 6, 2006 Posted December 6, 2006 Where the hell are are the women who like prefer skinny guys? I've never read such a load of crap before. When I go out with male friends, it's always the more athletic/muscular guys that get attention from women & hook up with them. When I'm somewhere where I can evesdrop on women talking about guys, it's always someone who looks like Brad Pitt in Fight Club they think is hot, not Ed Norton in Fight Club. I think the women in this thread are like guys who claim that boob size doesn't matter, or claim to prefer small boobs. There are a few women who like skinny guys and guys who like small boobs, as well as men and women who sincerely don't care about these things. And yes, flat chested women and skinny guys do manage to get dates & get laid, but let's not kid ourselves what the preferences of most people are. As a muscular 170-pounder at 5'5" I can say that your statement is truthful - at least in my case. Bulk up if you don't like the reality. Your friendly neighbourhood Gold's Gym would love to have you as a member.
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