franklyn02 Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I don't know if any skinny guy out there has ever come across this but what recently happened to me is about the worst case I have seen. I recently met a girl online and we out and had a good time I thought and now she isn't returning my calls and I am positive it is because she feels I am to skinny for her. Why do I say this? Because after she quit returning my calls she changes her online profile where it says she only wants fit and athletic looking guys(she had slim and slender on there too before our date) and that she wants a guy that works out and take cares of himself. Ok there is nothing wrong with thinking that way, however the thing is I do work out, I am physically fit and I take very good care of myself physically! Just because I am a slim guy that has problems gaining weight doesn't make me nonathletic or out of shape, some of the greatest athletes out there are built just like myself. The last thing is that this chick is 5'0 tall and like 100 pounds. How big of a guy is she wanting?? she is tiny, it would look odd for her to be with someone to much bigger. She also made a comment during the date saying "you're really a slim guy aren't you?" I am sitting here like so what who cares?!?!? Is that all that matters to you? I can't help that!! Oh well that is my rant for the day. Maybe I am being paranoid or self-conscious but does anyone else find it a little wrong that someone is going to be that picky about someone? It just seems to be another case of being a skinny guy women just don't like them. It is really about as bad as being obese sometimes because there seems to be a stereotype out there that women should be with a big man. Link to post Share on other sites
rina_r Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I am sorry to hear that. I know it is upsetting and shallow but some of us do have preferences. I personally never wanted to date overweight guys. Just forget about it and move on. There will be someone who will like you for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author franklyn02 Posted November 20, 2006 Author Share Posted November 20, 2006 I do understand that people have preferences, I have mine as well, I normally date petite women but I have no problem of dating other women if I like them and get along with them. The big problem I have with all of this is that she saw my pictures online before she met me. I have several full body pictures of myself on my profile it wouldn't take a genius to figure out that I am skinny. And like I said before its not like I'm not athletic, I played sports I work out regularly, I eat right, I am just skinny! I just don't understand its not like it was a terrible date, I actually thought it went really well until I tried calling her again and she wouldn't answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Dude, forget about her and what her preference is. My SO is very skinny and I love him to death. I'm petite myself and actually before him, I've always dated pretty muscular guys. Now I find myself looking at slimmer men to be more attractive to me. Anyways, who cares about this one chick! Don't let her make you feel insecure. Too each it's own! You've still got your profile up right? Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Look at it this way, it's her loss. You are physically healthy and you know how to take care of yourself. If she doesnt appreciate that, there's someone else who will. I wouldn't worry too much about it. I know a lot of women willing to date slim/athletic dudes...and it's much more common than some buff or overweight dude. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 I used to be skinny and hated it. In fact I was self conscious about it. And I know that I reflected this. I actually had a girl who was interested in me that I didn't need to think less of myself because I was skinny. Yes, after this I began weightlifting, and put on more than 20 pounds of muscle. Unfortunately in the past few years, I have quit weightlifting and put on 20 pounds of...well, not muscle. Not saying you do, but this is something to think about. Have you accepted yourself for whom you are? And I know that when I really began to lift weights...even though I was still "skinny," I felt much more confident...because I was "ripped." Then the heavier guys actually said, "Boy, you are so lucky you are skinny!" Yeah right! Now to the real issue...she has shown who she is IF this is the reason. I am guessing that it may be. So what? Move on, and be thankful that you know now rather than after you have invested more than your pride into her. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 HEY YOU !!! I LOVE skinny guys ! My ex had the best body (to me) and he was 6'2, and 155 lbs. I MUCH prefer a skinny guy to a medium build and especially over the " a few extra pounds" choice they put on online dating sights !!! So, you weren't attractive to her ? So what ? we all have our preferences. THIS good looking, slim, little blonde chick prefers you just the way your are !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Gosh, my first love was skinny. In fact when we made love his hip bones bruised the insides of my thighs. I still thought he was hot. It just depends on your preferences. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Gosh, my first love was skinny. In fact when we made love his hip bones bruised the insides of my thighs. I still thought he was hot. It just depends on your preferences. LMAO This ***** made me laugh out loud:lmao: ! That is something I go through but because my SO works out and can lift me we have lots of fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Ive been told I was skinny by girls b4 and it didnt always end badly so dont worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Some women like chubby dudes. I personally like skinny men so I can fatten them up. I'm famous for putting the lbs. on the men I date. It's the way I show love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author franklyn02 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 Well its nice to know there are some women out there that like the Skinny Guy! Now you all need to move here! It just seems like the ones I meet around here think they need a bigger man to protect them or whatever. I've lifted weights since I was 18 and while my physical appearance has changed very little my strength is greatly improved but most women can't see that unless they are with me for sometime and really get to know me in a physical way Anyway for the person who asked if I am happy with myself I would say that I am however when things like this happens it can't help but to knock you down a few notches. Its been a 7 year process but I'm still working on it. Weight Gainer, protein shakes, never skipping meals, different work-out routines, and honey buns, lol. I know I shouldn't complain but when a 5 foot nuthin 100 and nuthin girl pretty much tells you you are to skinny for her then its hard not to think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
bluescreenlife Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 It's just a matter of preference. I'm 5'11" and 145 and have gotten lots of compliments - some girls really like it. According to research girls like a V-shaped physique that tapers down from the shoulder, and some nice *ahem* glute muscles, plus good posture. If you work out you probably have all that... so I'm sure it's just this girl's opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
HeadlessZebra Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 It just seems to be another case of being a skinny guy women just don't like them. It is really about as bad as being obese sometimes because there seems to be a stereotype out there that women should be with a big man. Totally not true, I for one prefer slim/skinny/wiry men, and I know many of my girl friends do too. They are more graceful and look really good/elegant in suits. Link to post Share on other sites
Author franklyn02 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 It's just a matter of preference. I'm 5'11" and 145 and have gotten lots of compliments You sound about my size. I am 6'0 140. My problem is being small boned especially in the forearm and leg area. The thing is no matter how much I lift and work out I'm not gonna make those areas of my body much bigger unless I just gain a lot of fat in that area, which is hard to do. Link to post Share on other sites
HeadlessZebra Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 You sound about my size. I am 6'0 140. Stop lifting weights and drinking protein shakes, you are perfect, beautiful, come here, I'll eat you right up with a side of pie. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Stop lifting weights and drinking protein shakes, you are perfect, beautiful, come here, I'll eat you right up with a side of pie. lol!!! I think skinny guys are hot. There just so skinny and cute ... Link to post Share on other sites
VenusnUranus Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Hi there, sorry to hear that you are feelin down about your current apprearance, don't let this chick bring ya down. Alot of chicks dig on "skinny" guys, and alot don't even care. This chick sounds pretty shallow.... IMO you dodged the bullet here, be greatful that you only went out on one sate with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author franklyn02 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 Ok both of you need to move over here! lol. There needs to be more women like the two of you where I am! Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 You sound about my size. I am 6'0 140. My problem is being small boned especially in the forearm and leg area. The thing is no matter how much I lift and work out I'm not gonna make those areas of my body much bigger unless I just gain a lot of fat in that area, which is hard to do. I lifted weight alot and never gained much weight. The 20# or so that I did just seemed to disappear...somewhere. I was also six foot, and 145# when I met my wife at age 24. I have very small bones. But yes, muscles did show. But what mattered more is that I accepted myself. One of my wife's first comments was "You have great veins for an IV." Now I am still six foot, but 190#, and ineterestingly enough, the weight doesn't show as much as I expected it to, but boy oh boy, I would like to lose half of that weight! Now I cannot believe that I WANTED to gain weight! Enjoy yourself for who you are. Trust me...when you do, the women will. Link to post Share on other sites
persistant Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Yummm Tall skinny men.. Yum Yum Yum.. Move those bones over to me. I was once told by a guy that i was too skinny. He wouldn't think that now with my excess rear luggage rack. (Joys of clerical work.) Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Ok both of you need to move over here! lol. There needs to be more women like the two of you where I am! I was under the impression that girls liked skinny guys. I've always been attacted to them and I know a ton of others who are too. Who do you hang out with? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Girls do like skinny guys, Why dont you complain about the curse of being a short guy, or the curse of being a Sweaty guy, maybe the curse of being a guy with a high pitched voice, or the curse of the cross eyed man, how about just the oposite what if you had the curse of the Fat Bald Guy, Nah ur fine u dont relize it but thin is in girls love it Link to post Share on other sites
socialight Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 well, it never stopped the guy who did the humpty dance from getting busy! Link to post Share on other sites
aeren944 Posted December 1, 2006 Share Posted December 1, 2006 Dude, I'm 6'3", 149 lbs. I KNOW how you feel! It really sucks to look down on yourself cuz of it. I'm one of those guys that just doesn't eat enough, plus I'm diabetic, AND I have super fast metabolism. Well, lately, I've been forcing myself to eat, and now I'm actually hungry when it's time to eat. I know how it is, though. You ever seen that Road Trip movie with the skinny guy in it?? I HATE that kid cuz I think I must look/act like that guy. It's NOT true though, bro! Skinny guys can be INCREDIBLY sexy, and there ARE some girls that are totally hawt for our types... (I've heard ) You don't have to work on the weight thing.. just work on being ****ing sexy and smooth... be a ladies man. Work on flirting, and acting like you could show a woman something she's never experienced before. Trust me, it totally helps, and girls can pick up on that. Skinny or not! Link to post Share on other sites
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