TYASAFAHICSI Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 Art---are you in the UK? Laws are as different as a zebra's stripes.
Art_Critic Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 Art---are you in the UK? Laws are as different as a zebra's stripes. No.. but I'm willing to bet that in the UK when a person calls the police and files a report of domestic that the police prepare the person on how to go about filing a TPO for their safety... The laws can't be so different that common sense shouldn't be applied here.. Do you think she should continue to contact him ?? Do you think she should continue to put her child at risk for a guy that is flaky? At this point it doesn't matter who caused the domestic with the kicking.. it is done and now she has to deal with child services.. no guy is worth that or any other trouble that he could cause in the very near future.. I stick to my advice.. Emma needs to Leave him alone.. She happens to be on the wrong side of the law at this particular moment as he filed the report and he is the one showing evidence that he is going to pull a power play..
TYASAFAHICSI Posted November 21, 2006 Posted November 21, 2006 I agree they ought to be apart for sure. I was just questioning if the laws are different there in the UK
Author emmaUK Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 I HAVE FOUND OUT THE TRUTH ABOUT THE TEXT. for a few weeks before last weekend me and my ex had been arranging to go to a club called the ministry of sound together on the friday jsut gone (17th nov). he told me he didnt really want to go any more becuase he didnt have alot of money so i said id try and sort out a guest list as my friend was dj-ing there. it turned out my friend had alreay given his 4 guestlists away so that wasnt possible. so i thoguht... well if my ex doesnt really wanna go that much then i wont bother. so we didnt go and i ended up arranging to go out with a friend who blew me out anyway so i wasted my sister coming over to babysit and had a crap night alone. anyway one the girls by BF talks to (ellie) has a myspacee, i actualyl dont mind her and i talk to her occasionally aswell. i mailed her on myspace yesterday and asked her if my BF had text her at all over the weekened.. to try n find out if it was her who he was texting she told me that she had text him on saturday but he didnt reply till sunday and told her it was becuase he didnt have any calling credit (A LIE COZ HE GETS FREE TEXTS AT THE WEKENEDS). so he musta been jsut about to text her on saturday when i caught him red handed n then left the texting till sunday. and the reason for him to not want me know he was texting her....... he went to the ministry of sound with his mates instead on friday and lied to me and told me he wasnt going and that he was staying over at his mate called lukes instead. he told me they were going to a few bars in bexley heath and that he was sleeping the night over there and it was this lukes driveway that he had this car crash in. so this girl ellie had known about him going mnistry and text him on saturday to ask him if it was a good night... so i musta caught him texting her back tell her about it and that is why he didnt want me seeing so much becuase then he woulda been caught out that he lied about his whereabouts on friday night and that he spouted a whole load of bull**** to me about what he did on friday night and even where he had this car crash (it was his mates alex's drive way on his mate lukes) i did contact him n told him i had caught him out..............he is saying the reason he didnt want me to go to the ministry is becuase he woulda spent alot more money if i had gone and he was just invited my his mate alex on the spur of the moment on friday afternoon. so i had a terrible night instead on my own and wasted a rare night that i get freedom while he is out partying enjoying himself. i feel sick he is still saying it was jsut his mum he was texting on saturday though.... he aint gonna budge on that one becuase then he knows i woulda had more of a reason to get angry but .......... he did email me saying this Im not an honest person and i hate myself 4 being like it. i must just be 2 young 2 take responsibilty. guess i need to grow up but i am tellin the truth on 1 ting. it was only my mum i was textin on saturday i dont know y i lie. i can say 2 u i have learnt my lesson but i wouldnt even believe myself. i said 2 myself 2day y bother lying if it just causes dis stuff so only time will tell. anyways now we can both move on with our lives as u must know now im not worth having as a bf. i want u 2 b happy with someone who can treat u right n not lke me who cant respect telling the truth wen it matters. im sorry emma i genuinly am sorry. u didnt miss out on much. plus u wouldnt b so annoyed if u had got 2 do something with your frined. plus it was packed in there badly. but 2 u i guess u dont care its jus the fact dat i went n lied. well u know me best as a horrible liar. i think u need 2 let me go. im really gutted i feel lke dis n we endin lke dis coz i feel i betrayed ur trust again. i feel really worthless. i dnt wana sound lke all depressd but i really regret the way i lied 2 u coz it would have been nice if u was there wit me. im sorry emma. well guess this is it now. i hope wen u look back and think of me u dont just see a liar coz i waned 2 b so much more 2 u than that but i ****ed up. i am truly sorry, if u can believe me on that
whichwayisup Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 Is he worth you giving him another chance? CAN he actually be your boyfriend without lying? Can he be honest and straight forward with you? See, those little stupid white lies he tells, not only to you, but to others as well, is very immature. He even says it to you in his email. To be honest, I'm not sure if he's pulling the "I'm sorry, I don't deserve you, it would be best if I wasnt' your boyfriend anymore" bullsheeyt to make himself look like a victim, (yeah he ownes up to it, but doesn't say he'll DO anything to improve himself or stop lying) so you won't actually break up with him.
Author emmaUK Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 i dont feel there will ever ever be any trust there again now so i need to let go and need to get him out my head. he jsut text me saying he wants to be real n he wants me to trust him again and that he is so sorry etc. but i feel i would not have any respect for myself if we carried on and i know he had lied to me numerous times. i so want to meet someone who is real and who doesnt lie about anything. i always pick guys who lie ... ALWAYS maybe its my punishment for all the times i lied and cheated when i was a teenager
Walk Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 only ever told the truth but got myself in a little mess bcoz i didnt think u was guna persue this text thing. i thought just show u a text u would go 2 the toilet. He feels so bad about it.. whatever. He feels bad he got called out on his lying. You're making the best decision for you and your daughter. I'd rather be alone then with someone I can't ever trust. Its not worth the pain, heartache, insecurities and roller coaster ride...
Author emmaUK Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 do u know wot hurts alot.... that if i had been able to get guest-list he woulda gone with me .. but coz i couldnt sort it out he ended up goign without me and lying. it kinda feels liek he wsa using me for a cheap entry but went without me when he knew he wasnt gonna get it
Guest Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 i so want to meet someone who is real and who doesnt lie about anything. i always pick guys who lie ... ALWAYS maybe its my punishment for all the times i lied and cheated when i was a teenager First, sorry for my bad English. It is not my first language. Negative thinking always make bad things happen. When a girl says, "I will never fall in love", chances are, if she keeps saying this over and over, it will eventually come true. You keep thinking to yourself, " I always pick up the liars", and then your brain gets pre-programmed to get attracted to guys like these. When you see a genuinely good guy, you probably would overlook him, because of your pre-determination that you have to end up with liars. Maybe I have been reading lots of goal achievement books, so I hope the above part doesn't sound very cheesy You deserve a better person. From your posts here, I feel you are a genuinely good person. I don't know how much lying you did in the past, but you are clearly a different person now. Don't let your older image of yourself ruin your life. Just think positively. Be very assured that you will find a good one who is not a liar. And, it will happen. My post could sound like a text-book excerpt or something, but I swear I started applying this recently (2 years now), and my life has totally changed to the better. Our ideas about ourselves really can change everything Best of luck to you
Author emmaUK Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 i know that is all true. i am deff gonna say some more positive things now so i make sure i meet the right guy next. i am so heartbroken .. i cant stop crying.... i cant do anything expect pace up and down and occasionally sit at my pc and lie on my bed and cry. why has he been so seflish after everything we have been thru?? why have i let him do this to me??
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