curly girly Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 So, on friday night I went on a great date with a guy I had met online. We went out, had a few drinks at one bar and when it got too loud and crowded there, he suggested we go to another one. We were having a great chat, very easy going and there was lots of laughing. Once at that bar, there was definetly some chemistry and some flirting going on. We played pool, and there was some very positive body language on both our parts. I finally had to end the date, since it was getting late and I had to get up early the next day. He thanked me for a great time and suggested that we do it again some time. I said that would be great. He drove me home, and when we said good night, he said he would call me soon and we should get together next weekend. I gave him the oppurtunity to kiss me, but he didn't take it. So I said good night, and got out of the car. I'm used to really aggressive guys who try to maul me on dates, so I'm a little shocked by the no kiss thing. Does it signal disintrest? Do you think I'll get a call from him?
monkey00 Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 maybe he wants to take it slow. if the date is as fun as you said it was... from what you said it seems he has incentive to go out with you again, if he said he'll call let him call. But it doesnt mean you cant call him.
Sand&Water Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 RE: It is possible, Curly Girly, that he is concurrently dating other women. As a result, putting himself out there so as to maximize his chances of success -but without jumping into serious territory. In other words, he's gradually feeling the ground in which he is walking on. Not every man, will kiss a woman on a first date. Consequently, manners and respect could be playing a key role in this gentleman's standards. I recommend, you continue along this journey with an open mind. Don't place absurd judgments thus early into the courting process. However, as a cautious sign, do take note of subtle disinterest signals from his side of the lane. He will call IF he wants to continue with you -i.e. interest. Sand&Water
AmCanIam Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 He potentially sounds like a man with integrity and standards. You were possibly expecting to me "mauled" by him as you have in the past? He could be quite the gentleman; the SECOND date will speak volumes if he DOESN'T kiss you then if you offer him the opportunity. Plus, good old fashioned communication helps. Simply ask him if he'd like to kiss you. I hope you have an enjoy a second date with him if that's what you'd like. DJ
Green Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 Im going to predict no second date only because of the way the situation was described, thus I'm also predicting no phone call...
Author curly girly Posted November 22, 2006 Author Posted November 22, 2006 Yay! He called. We have a second date on friday, and I'm sure I'll need some advice after that one. Hopefully this time I'll get a kiss...
Green Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 well I blame you 4 my error in prediction the way you told the story made it seem like this was unlikely. Just expect a kiss at the end of the date, this guy has no game if he doesnt atleast try for one at the end. Oh yeah and get real close to him so he has the oportuninty... Oh yeah and shave those legs
Author curly girly Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 I wll be sure to shave my legs, but I have made the mistake too many times of moving too fast with guys. I think I'm going to take it nice and slow with this one. But I will be sure to get real close, just to tease a little...
Wantingtogetitright Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 sounds like you may have found a decent guy that wants to know you not your booty! If all you are after is booty best tell the poor guy. Are you looking for a "relationship" or just fun dates and sex. Which is the impression you give in your posts.
Green Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 She gives me the impression shes looking for some one to date and doesnt want to get hurt
Author curly girly Posted November 23, 2006 Author Posted November 23, 2006 She gives me the impression shes looking for some one to date and doesnt want to get hurt KMT's got it right. I've done the whole casual dating/booty call thing and I am so done with it. So I'm just adjusting my way of thinking so I can see where things with this guy may lead. But hey, I haven't been on the second date yet. Who know's what's going to happen.
Wantingtogetitright Posted November 23, 2006 Posted November 23, 2006 shaving your legs and acting all teasing, doesn't sound like someone who wants to get to know someone. Shave your legs, wear nice underwear etc etc as it makes YOU feel nice and adds to your confidence which is what he will find appealing. Moving in real close and teasing him will only lead him to think otherwise of you.
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