Lauriebell82 Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 ok well i have a problem. i've been with my bf for awhile now and he doesn't say "i love u" as much as he used to. he still does sweet things and comes to visit me for the weekend (i go to college an hour 1/2 away) but he used to tell me how much he loved me constantly and now he doesn't do that as much. i don't want to doubt that he loves me but i guess i'm just confused because in my other relationships my boyfriends have always told me they love me constantly. is this normal? we have been together for about 4 months now so maybe he is becoming more comfortable with me i dont know. please give me advice i need it!
Tony T Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 This is perfectly normal for some people. However, you have to ask for what you need. If constant vakidation and confirmation is a necessity for you, you must tell your boyfriend so he knows. Some men hardly ever say it at all. Generally speaking, many of the great things that happen at the beginning of a relationship tone down somewhat as things progress. That doesn't mean you are loved any less or that the relationship is weakening...it's just that the physical laws of the universe stipulate that all things wear with time. Again, if this is something you must have let it be known.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted November 20, 2006 Author Posted November 20, 2006 hey thanks for ur reply. it's nice to hear when he says he loves me but i am scared to tell him because i dont want him to think i am doubting him or make him think that i'm real desperate for validation or whatever. i love him and i don't want to lose him but its nice to hear that he loves me.
brickaney Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 Yeah Tony T said it right. Guys aren't psychic and they need to be asked for things. If he said he loves you then he still does. Guys generally say what they mean and mean what they say. Most likely he is comfortable enough with you to assume that you don't need to be reminded that he still loves you.
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