chill chic Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Quick question...I always say in a message to this guy I like, "call me when you get a chance" but doesn't call back right away. Is it right for me to tell him that he should call me more often, like be more up front with him about phone calls? If he was the one that wanted to keep in touch in the first place and said, "call me if you ever need someone to talk to" well should I tell him he's not holding up his end of the deal? He might mean "talk to me about more serious matters" but all I have done so far is be fun or happy in his phone messages. So is he waiting for me to be serious? Sorry I do ask alot of questions
magichands Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 So is he waiting for me to be serious? You have nothing to lose by putting your cards on the table. Sorry I do ask a lot of questions That's what we're here for.
Author chill chic Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 You have nothing to lose by putting your cards on the table. That's what we're here for. thanks magichands did you read my "vulnerability" post? Since you said "putting your cards on the table" Just wondering what you thought about that...the confidence part-meaning I showed confidence when I was with him, but I was using a "crutch" (pills) to help it. Would he think that's crazy? thanks for your other comment too
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I really don't know what to say VIP....except maybe if a girl I was dating told me to call her more I'd probably get mildly pissed. I like to take the relationship at my pace and if she doens't like it then too bad.
magichands Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Would he think that's crazy? Not crazy - just human. You are treading a fine line here, though. Opening up can sometimes be thinly-veiled attention-seeking behaviour. But I think you should open up to him. This is the thing - show him that you have been trying to deal with your problem. Then you can be an inspiration to him, yes? Maybe you could go and watch this. I found it very inspiring. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=977750&postcount=56 Kidneys are very cool - look them up sometime. Please don't abuse yours. Even though you have two, each one is precious.
Author chill chic Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 Not crazy - just human. You are treading a fine line here, though. Opening up can sometimes be thinly-veiled attention-seeking behaviour. But I think you should open up to him. This is the thing - show him that you have been trying to deal with your problem. Then you can be an inspiration to him, yes? Maybe you could go and watch this. I found it very inspiring. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=977750&postcount=56 Kidneys are very cool - look them up sometime. Please don't abuse yours. Even though you have two, each one is precious. I think it would be a good idea, to reveal to him that I've been dealing with this problem. I read Pink Amulet's "too perfect" thread and it gave me more confidence to tell him, after reading everyone's reply posts. Because in the long run, I'm sure I'll be dealing with this for awhile, and if I want him in my life, he'd have to know sometime. And it's odd, but I think since he knew my body more than anyone else at the time, I feel that connection to talk to him about this problem. And maybe you're right, it could be an inspiration to him...well in what way to you mean? I understand what you're getting at though. Thanks for that link, it did give me some inspiration, to not hesitate in certain matters. Yah I better look up kidney information, knowing that I'll probably have problems with "them"...before I lose one The sad thing is, I'm already starting to have problems
magichands Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 The sad thing is, I'm already starting to have problems I don't think it's too late. Take the problems as a wake-up call. Remember that it's kind of silly to expect someone to care about you when you don't seem to care about yourself. Do whatever it takes to get off those diet pills!! Flush those suckers. I mean it.
Author chill chic Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 I don't think it's too late. Take the problems as a wake-up call. Remember that it's kind of silly to expect someone to care about you when you don't seem to care about yourself. Do whatever it takes to get off those diet pills!! Flush those suckers. I mean it. It's definitely been a wake-up call to me, and I have stop the pills at least taking them everyday or every other day. It's more like once a week or every other week, just because I was having withdrawals, so I didn't want to stop cold turkey. But I think the problem for me is going to be not wanting to go back to taking them. Or having that urge to buy them at the store or gas station. And if I ever do want to take them again, all I have to tell myself is that "I'll regret it later" So even though, I'm dealing with it myself, should I still tell him?
magichands Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 So even though, I'm dealing with it myself, should I still tell him? Yes. A little extra support always comes in handy. I'm sure he's not the only one that cares about you, though. So keep trying for them, and for yourself. I like my girls healthy - first and foremost.
Author chill chic Posted November 20, 2006 Author Posted November 20, 2006 Yes. A little extra support always comes in handy. I'm sure he's not the only one that cares about you, though. So keep trying for them, and for yourself. I like my girls healthy - first and foremost. sounds like a plan then thanks for your support magichands, I appreciate it
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