Do Women Still Want to be Wooed?

[Pyro]

You have to wonder what's going on out of shot of the camera.

 

We can save that info for another thread.

[rglove]

There has been a question as to what wooing is about it based intent whether towards a commitment or sex. Well in the definition I saw, found, it was gear towards the intent of marriage I also saw it defined as bedding a woman, basically. In and at its essence, what I would say wooing is, is the exploration of ones interest in another (a man's interest in a woman) and doing what you need to accomplish that, to bring it from a mere interest to reality. Sometime the interest is love, sometimes it just physical attraction (exploring the physical plane with them), sometimes it's both, but no matter what the interest that interest is still genuine, although one is far less noble than the other, but the one being suited can always gage, read, the interest of their suitor, because no matter how one tries to disguise it, their leanings always show. But, even if all the want is purely physical, if the mutual attraction and sexual/physical chemistry it there, that not necessarily a bad thing, as long as you both no what is, what going on, that it’s mainly a physical thing. The problem that gets run into are sometimes wooers present dishonest intent and the once being wooed, a too glaze over, or plum stupid, recognized the clear signs of their true intent. Me, I think wooing is wonderful, but one needs to be honest about their intention. There's nothing wrong with pursuing to bed someone, as long as they know that's what your doing, pursuing. I say, whatever your intent, be honest. Me personally, I recently pursued a girl that I have a college class with and was intrigued by (Michelle). I just liked her, as far as what I saw, had the occasion to know, on a limited bases, and wanted to get to know her better, experience all of her, which at point and time I couldn't, for she had a boyfriend, but I could still express my genuine interest, which I did and seek to built a relationship, at least as friends. My attempt to woo her was through attention, adoration, poetry, and showing a sincere earnest interest in her. She responded well to my attention - as well as she could being already in a relationship - so, I decided to write her, her own original poem - expressing my fervor, affinity for her, along with a written explanation of my interest - unfortunately, I got stop there, for her boyfriend had discovered some of the other poetry and such I had grace her with and was uncomfortable with the attention I was given her and told her it be best not to accept the poems and such from me. Here is what she would have gotten, if she could have accepted it. It is an expression of my interest, affinity, adoration, and a statement towards my intent/intents, as far as she, we, were concerned;

 

 

The Ecstasy, of You!!!

 

 

The ecstasy, of you, is something I await, to get lost in.

I want to fall, into you, and lose myself, therein

Your sweet, spelling, splendor.

Every part of you seduces me, to you, I surrender.

You have, captured me, whole.

By each and every part of you, I am, extolled,

Entranced, enchanted, bewitched, beguiled.

Just the mere essence of you drives me, so wild.

Taken, I am, enraptured, my being,

By this beautiful vision, of you, I’m seeing.

 

Fast, beats my heart, as you enter, the room,

By you and your wonder, I’m just, consumed,

Butterflies take hold of me.

With just one look at you, I’m roused, in rhapsody.

Every part of you, I want, to explore.

I’m in, affinity of you, with such ardor.

Amorous, is my ardent admiration,

Fanciful, my heart, with fervent fascination.

Oh, how you enthrall me, so.

Charmed, I am by you, set aglow,

Engulfed, in exhilaration,

Engrossed, by infatuation,

Intoxicated, by the essence, the thought, of you,

Addicted, inebriated, by your heavenly hue,

The iridescence, resplendence, that just pours out of you,

Cascading beauty, rapture, upon my soul,

Leaving me, transfixed, bewitched, taken whole.

Oh, what sweet and wondrous things, to me, you do.

I get lost, I am lost, in the ecstasy, of you!!!

 

 

Robert Gardiner

R.G.Love

 

Written for Michelle, to her magic extol. There’s just something about you girl. My praise you richly deserve. You have utterly captured me. I hope these words they capture you!!!

 

 

 

Explanation of My Intent, Interest:

 

 

Michelle, your poem, “The Ecstasy of You”, and every poem that I give you and all of the things I do are to express my unadulterated affinity towards you, to express my fascinated fancy, the ardor with which I’m enamored, and the fervor of my admiration. By you, I’m intoxicated, enraptured, and enchanted, and I ‘m just trying to win your fancy. Although there are plenty of things I'd like us to be -- romantically linked (lovers) being my first option -- I just want to build a relationship right now as friends. I realize you have a man in your life, already, and if that's a good, happy relationship, I’m cool with the friends’ option, I don't want you to break that off, end it - considering that we don't know what the cards (fate) holds for us romantically, and if he is making your happy, filling your life with love, adoration, and ardent amorous affection, I want you to remain in such, in that state of bliss, but as I told you, if he should stop proving to be "Mr. Right", I want you to remember me and turn your amatory affections towards me, my way. I have a definite affinity towards you, and feel you have a bit towards me -- although I don't know how much. But what I'm trying to do is to let you know my sincere, earnest, interest, and foster that affinity you have towards me. All I'm trying to do is show my genuine interest towards you and win you over to the thought of me - in whatever aspect that should happen to be, whether love (romance) or just friendship.

 

 

With the sincerest of interest – Robert

 

 

Well, this is my truth, and my story and further expansion of what I feel on the subject!!!

[BuckeyeBabe]

Personally, I am not a big romantic nor am I a game player. I sort of see "wooing" as a game. Men and women instinctively know upon meeting if there is a "spark". I get hit on a lot and I am very honest, in a kind way, about my disinterest.

I am very drawn to the "man's man". Intelligent, but not sappy. Be able to read and understand a poem, but not necessarily write me one. Don't call it "making love" - call it sex and be incredible.

Maybe I just sound insensitive. That's just my opinion. Wooing is a waste of time.

[magichands]

Wooing is a waste of time.

And don't forget expensive. Oohing and ahhing are way more important than wooing and hooing.

[BuckeyeBabe]

Yes, expensive too. I would much rather have a man plant a kiss on me that makes me want to........

....Flowers or a meal are just not necessary.

[Trialbyfire]

I like this statement.

 

Some things a man will dominate in a relationship and some things a women will as well.

Thanks.

 

Yes, for example I like to gourmet cook so I tend to do the cooking. I'm useless with a hammer and nail but I can work a mean socket wrench, lol.

 

Now back on topic.

 

Again, I think people assume that men who woo are not being sincere or honest and that it's a pretence. That isn't always true. Like everything else, you as a person must decide what's dross and what's real gold.

[BuckeyeBabe]

I don't doubt a man's sincerity or honesty unless he gives me reason to do so! Men buy me gifts and take me to dinner often and I do not question their character or integrity. What I will do is be very honest with them about how unnecessary it is. If I like a man and I am feeling "it" then it does not matter what he does. If I do not like a man and I am not feeling "it" then it does not matter what he does. If the chemistry is present then it's just a matter of finding out if we are compatible in other ways.

I will agree with men and women having specific strengths and weaknesses.

[Trialbyfire]

Wooing doesn't always entail showering a girl with material things. Wooing is about making her feel special and how much you enjoy and want her company. An example of this is for a guy to chill a bottle of wine, pack some nice finger foods and take her to a scenic place for the two to spend time enjoying each other in the perfect setting. Not expensive but very considerate.

[magichands]

Not expensive but very considerate.

Let's hope it's not a bottle of red.

[rglove]

I personally like wooing, as I said and admire old fashion romanticism. I am a big fan of the "Romantic Ear" poets, classic soul love songs, and making the mix tape for you girl, like they use to do back in the day. Now, it'd be burn a cd, but I'm a big fan of such expressions of love. People know me to be very affectionate, and I have a most amorous nature, so romance, wooing, works (come naturally for me)! And I am usually the one people call upon, when in need to do something romantic. I just got an email form a girl on one of the poetry sites I'm on who mother is getting married next year, and she asked if I could help her with an original poem for the occasion, because that's what her mother would like. I told her I'd be glad to help, because love, romance, is ever, always worthy of being exalted, extolled, and entering in to it a most worthwhile endeavor. There may not be as many of us out there, but I'm still a romantic!!!

[rglove]

Some people think and would say that wooing is all about the woman, and as a wooer, let me tell you that is not whole truth. Yes, wooing is about the woman – it’s about given her attention and letting her now your interest, that you’re interested – but it is also about the man’s ego. To attempt to woo a woman and have her respond well to that is quite a stroke for the ego. Not only is there ego involved – sometimes there’s narcissism, wherein the positive attention one (a guy) might get back would act to feed his narcissism (his self admiration and love of being admire). Yes, wooing is about the woman, but that’s not all it’s about. A man’s ego plays a heavy part; in fact, many times it’s the major most factor as to whether a man attempts to woo or if he doesn’t. If his self-confidence is high, wooing is easy. If he’s not in possession of much at all, he won’t even attempt to!!!

[Green]

you wooed me and I'm a hetro Sexualistic man.