lindya Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Being wooed doesn't mean it has to be the chocolates and flowers routine. For me, being wooed is for the man to put out serious effort to show that he's very interested. Call me old-fashioned but I do like being wooed. I agree, but I'm guessing that when you say you enjoy being wooed, you only enjoy it if you are romantically interested in the man already. Being awarded flowers and presents by a hopeful man who you have no romantic interest in is an awkward, guilt inducing thing. Men talk about getting mixed messages from women on this subject, and I guess the problem is that they hear us say "we like romantic gestures" and assume we mean that this is what makes us fall in love..when perhaps what most of us mean is that we like romantic gestures from someone we're already in love with. Great post, btw, Baby Phoenix.
Trialbyfire Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I agree, but I'm guessing that when you say you enjoy being wooed, you only enjoy it if you are romantically interested in the man already. Being awarded flowers and presents by a hopeful man who you have no romantic interest in is an awkward, guilt inducing thing. Men talk about getting mixed messages from women on this subject, and I guess the problem is that they hear us say "we like romantic gestures" and assume we mean that this is what makes us fall in love..when perhaps what most of us mean is that we like romantic gestures from someone we're already in love with. Great post, btw, Baby Phoenix. Agreed to an extent. I'm funny that way. I usually don't find myself interested in a man unless he shows strong interest first.
shoesies05 Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Tell me what girl doesn't like to be treated like they are a princess by a guy. Women love little things that are done for them, for instance opening of a door, flowers, sweet phone calls just to say hello and see how they are, not trying to get in their pants on the first date, paying for the check. etc... Women like to be treated special. If you've seen the movie hitch you know what im talking about.
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I think that women like when a man take interest in her, flowers ect are nice and all but it is him really getting to know her. I like for it to be both ways man and woman both taking a interest in each other, not one way or the other. You know when a man is trying to be sweet to you and if he is genuine... but everyone plays a different role there are givers and takers...
IpAncA Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 would you like to be "wooed" by an unattractive man with no job who lives in his mom's basement and has no transportation? Well no but I was speaking in general. If it's by the right person then sure women do like it.
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I personally prefer a man who stays out of the flower shop and focuses on developing higher emotional intelligence. Flowers work. Period. Developing one's "emotional IQ" may or may not work... Well no but I was speaking in general. If it's by the right person then sure women do like it. Oh yeah, you women always have to qualify everything or have a condition on it. "Oh I want him to be manly BUT not too much"......"Why can't my guy be sensitive but masculine at the same time?"
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Flowers work. Period. Developing one's "emotional IQ" may or may not work... Oh yeah, you women always have to qualify everything or have a condition on it. "Oh I want him to be manly BUT not too much"......"Why can't my guy be sensitive but masculine at the same time?" we can't put all women in this category. Some women like the man that they like just the way he is. flowers are beautiful, but it is when people take an interest in getting to know what thier love really likes, maybe she is allergic to flowers and she has a hobby or an interest that he can showcase instead.
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 , maybe she is allergic to flowers . ha ha ha....i've never met a woman allergic to flowers, chocolate, or money...
BenThereDunThat Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 ha ha ha....i've never met a woman allergic to flowers, chocolate, or money... Your cynical (and often wrong) views of women continue to astound me Alpha.
IpAncA Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Flowers work. Period. Developing one's "emotional IQ" may or may not work... Oh yeah, you women always have to qualify everything or have a condition on it. "Oh I want him to be manly BUT not too much"......"Why can't my guy be sensitive but masculine at the same time?" Hey I not like that at all. I have my own tastes on how a guy should and shouldn't be. I'm far away from the whole he should be Mr. Sensitive thing. What ever happen guys being gentlemen when it comes to holding the door open or whatever else some women like?
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 ha ha ha....i've never met a woman allergic to flowers, chocolate, or money... Alpha, that is typical to think that of a woman, maybe you are just not meeting the right woman. What I am saying is that women want more then just the same old things, what works for one woman may not for the next, and the same goes for men as well. Take a sincere interest in what your girl or guy likes and that may take it to the next level, not all women like those things, flowers chocolate and money I mean. Listen you need money to survive to make a living, to make a life for yourslef. What kind of women are we talking about
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Your cynical (and often wrong) views of women continue to astound me Alpha. I dont' care what you think BTDT... What ever happen guys being gentlemen when it comes to holding the door open or whatever else some women like? Look up "Womens Lib" on Wikipedia...
BenThereDunThat Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I dont' care what you think BTDT... ... Whatever......
Pyro Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Do Women Still Want to be Wooed? Ladies, in these cynical times, of over political correctness, and oversensitivity, where many females seem to shy away from interpersonal relationship with the opposite sex, and many of us - both men and women seem to shy away from interpersonal relationships in general, do you still want to be wooed, want a man to woo you? Ladies, do you still value being pursued, wooed, courted, or is it all just stalking and sexual harassment to you? Does wooing still have a place or have we become so detached, and overly sensitive as a society that such a think is looked upon with distaste, distrust, and as a nuisance or in a negative connotation. I came up with this question after writing "The Art of Wooing" and in doing research on wooing, and one of the statements clearly being made about wooing in these times in what I read was that wooing doesn't have the grandeur it use to, that it's just not respond to in the same way, and as well as it use to be, and had kind of lost it's relevance today. That it didn't have much of a place in the society of today. I wanted to see, if it still did have relevance. I've seen how the socio-political climate of today has left some men some men gun shy, and down right confused as to how to approach their interest in a female. It seems, when you take a shallow glance at it, that the only place a man can safely approach and pursue a woman is in a singles bar/club setting, and I want to get a clearer picture as to what was the state of wooing in our society!!! This question goes along with “The Art of Wooing” which was posted earlier; http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=985335#post985335 __________________________ Woo (Wooing): 1: to seek the favor, affection, or love of (usually a woman); 2: to solicit in love; to court 3: make amorous advances towards; "John is courting Mary" [syn: court, romance] 4: to seek the affection of with romantic intent; 5: to work to gain or sway the affinity, affection of, through deliberate action with amatory intentions. I would think that women would liked to be wooed, just as much as guys do, unless the woman is not looking for a relationship at the time. I would say that the most difficult part about wooing is to not try too hard and make it look stalkerish.
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I dont' care what you think BTDT... Look up "Womens Lib" on Wikipedia... this is a certian type of woman, and there are different degrees in "womens lib" Alpha why are you so afraid of a strong woman? and may I add I love men, most men that is.He he
IpAncA Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Look up "Womens Lib" on Wikipedia... Ok I see what your saying and I don't think like that on a lot of issues they want because a lot of what they stand for I don't agree with. The whole voting and being equal thing (on some things) is fine but when they take it to the next level, that's where I don't agree and they start giving women a bad name. I don't know maybe I'm just old fashion.
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Alpha why are you so afraid of a strong woman? because they make me feel weak, inferior and infantile...
norajane Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Wooing is an art. There are men who are masters, and men who will never have a grasp. It's not about giving flowers and chocolate. It can be, if given in ways or times that make a woman feel treasured...receiving flowers after the first time you've had sex can have quite an impact. How many of you gentlemen have sent flowers to your lady on that occasion? Do you even call the next day? How many of you ladies have ever received them then? Or after a night of especially passionate passion? I hope you do one day - it makes you feel like the most special woman in the world. And that's what wooing is about. Showing a woman that you think she is special, fascinating, charming, and a treasure.
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Wooing is an art. There are men who are masters, and men who will never have a grasp. I would say with the right woman I'm pretty good at it... ...receiving flowers after the first time you've had sex can have quite an impact. How many of you gentlemen have sent flowers to your lady on that occasion? No, I've never done that....reeks of desperation. Do you even call the next day? Depends on the situation and if I want to see her again... Or after a night of especially passionate passion? If she lets me do anal she's be getting a HUGE bouquet...without a rubber it'll be the bouquet + chocolates
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 because they make me feel weak, inferior and infantile... oh poor poor alpha:p
Pyro Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Wooing is an art. There are men who are masters, and men who will never have a grasp. It's not about giving flowers and chocolate. It can be, if given in ways or times that make a woman feel treasured...receiving flowers after the first time you've had sex can have quite an impact. How many of you gentlemen have sent flowers to your lady on that occasion? Do you even call the next day? How many of you ladies have ever received them then? Or after a night of especially passionate passion? I hope you do one day - it makes you feel like the most special woman in the world. And that's what wooing is about. Showing a woman that you think she is special, fascinating, charming, and a treasure. So in other words, the art of wooing is just being thoughtful and considerate of another?
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 So in other words, the art of wooing is just being thoughtful and considerate of another? or as Alpha says being considerate of weather or not you will let him do whatever he wants. only then will he call you in the morning... oh and if she likes being woo'd in that fashion maybe she will answer the phone...
Pyro Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 or as Alpha says being considerate of weather or not you will let him do whatever he wants. only then will he call you in the morning... oh and if she likes being woo'd in that fashion maybe she will answer the phone... No, I think I like my explanation better......
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 No, I think I like my explanation better...... I like yours better as well
norajane Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 So in other words, the art of wooing is just being thoughtful and considerate of another? Yes, but in the context of "I know I want this woman, and I'm going to treat her like a treasure because she IS." It has a lot to do with confidence and going after her to "make" her yours. It also requires knowing the woman and what will make her feel special. For example, a beautiful woman who's always gotten compliments on her beauty isn't necessarily going to feel more special because you compliment her on her beauty...in her life, that's pretty much a given. But if you notice something else about her, something she's proud of and wishes that people would notice in addition to her beauty, then you can really make her feel wonderful and as though you see her in a way that's different from everyone else. That makes YOU different from everyone else, to her.
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