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The Art of Wooing!!!

 

 

 

Wooing is the delicate art of trying to win, to gain, to sway, the affection, affinity, of the one with whom you’re enamored, in admiration of. It is the subtle yet bold art of romance (romancing), of trying to incite the interest of - (traditionally a woman) and entice and attract them towards amorous affection, a romantic desire for you. It is a mixture of flirtatiousness and charm, of guile and luck, a delicate balance daring and tactfulness, between audacity and introversion. To be able to woo well, one must be able to be both cocky and coy, forward and reserved. You need a certain amount of nerve, courage, and self-confident, to get started, get your wooing of the ground (a certain level of arrogance, forwardness, can work to your advantage), but get too brazened, daring, and you could put her off. You have to be able to go into your wooing process unabashed (not worrying about the possible rejection), but you have to have a certain level of grace, as well. The number one thing you need though is to be able to read the person (the woman) with whom you’re fancied and gage what she might respond best, whether to you being flirtatiously forward or coquettishly coy and also to read how she resounds to, receive, your attention.

 

 

The intent of wooing is to peak a woman’s interest, to show that you’re somebody she wants to have around, be around and that’ll enhance, add pleasure, to her life. It is to show her that you’re what she wants, needs, desires. The object is to create affinity in her for you, liken you have for her. You want to win over her affections and sweep her away in thoughts of and with longing for you. You want to engender, endear, the thought of you and her together, within her heart, her soul, her mind. You want to enwrap her being, with pleasant thoughts of you and capture all of her there is to capture and that there is what it is to woo.

 

 

Now, what is wooing, ACTION!!! It’s letting the person you’re interested in know of your interest through your words, body language, and gestures, your actions of affection towards them. It’s showing your affinity for them in an active manner – so, where as, they see earnest interest in them. Some people woo with gifts and such (by lavishing the woman in whom they’re interested with as extravagant a gift/gifts at they can afford), other simply by the way they act towards the one who holds their affection. The best wooers employ methods, use gifts and actions to show their affinity (attraction). Gifts are always good, for the show one generosity, can show that one has a generous heart, but it’s one earnest sincerity that’ll wholly win them over. What you want to do is shower the woman of your interest with attention and compliments, with a certain level of affection.

 

 

Most people se wooing in terms of “BIG” romantic gestures, in terms of “GRAND” overtures made towards another (the woman in whom you’re interested), but a lot of the time it’s the little things that do it. It’s your consistent (steady) adoration and kind, sweet words, your genuine, sincere, interest shown for her, to her. It’s the consistent attention you pay her through your compliments, caring, and kindness. It’s noticing her hair, nails, outfit. It’s being there to make her smile laugh, just when she needs one, being there to calm, to settle her, when she gets a little frazzled, overwhelmed. It’s being able to remind her that she’s worthwhile, simply by the way you treat her. It’s those things you do in the everyday, to show your adoration, admiration, and affinity, towards her!!!

 

 

Now, all this being said, wooing can still be an iffy proposition, because she might be suspect of your intent, the world and it women have got much more cynical now a days. Wooing does not always have it intended effect. The line between wooer and stalker has become quite a thin one, and even if she thinks you not a stalker, other issues problems could yet exist. The woman could be suspect of your intention and not give you a fair chance because of it. And if you shower some women too much with compliment, attention, affection, during the wooing stage, they might think you are wuss (a little too soft for a man). The might she you as a little too nice, desperate, or clingy. So, you can run into the problem of being so sweet, so complimentary, and so nice, that they think you’re trying too hard or that you’re up to something (that you’re just playing a game of sly manipulation to get your way, what you want). Either way, they’re put off!!!

 

 

Although wooing can have its missteps and problem, if there is sincere an earnest interest there on your part, it is well the effort, because accomplishing your goal of winner her affections, affinity, offers far more in reward, than rejection offer in scorn, or ego blow. Don’t be afraid to partake in the wooing art. If you can get past their, hang-ups, and anxiety, compliments and shows of affections can work. If you like her, take action, show it, in whatever way works for you and works with her. If you don’t take the opportunity, to try and make something happen, it might never, so find your courage and woo her!!!

 

 

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Woo (Wooing): 1: to seek the favor, affection, or love of (usually a woman); 2: to solicit in love; to court 3: make amorous advances towards; "John is courting Mary" [syn: court, romance] 4: to seek the affection of with romantic intent; 5: to work to gain or sway the affinity, affection of, through deliberate action with amatory intentions.

 

 

A Few Questions:

 

 

What is wooing to you, in your opinion what is it to woo, be wooed?

 

 

 

Ladies, what woos, wows you? How are you best wooed? What works best for you, on you?

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I want a man to show me attention and be creative.I want romance.It doesn't cost alot of money to court a woman .

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It doesn't cost alot of money to court a woman .

Have you ever "courted" a woman before sister? Probably not. It's not cheap :laugh:

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alpha,

 

Stop dating anna nicole smith:laugh:

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Stop dating anna nicole smith:laugh:

I wouldn't touch that skank with B4R's penis :laugh:

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Alpha,

That is cold blooded.:laugh:How are these women making you broke?

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Alpha,

That is cold blooded.:laugh:How are these women making you broke?

Dating and mating is expensive....do you know how much a dinner at AppleBee's costs now a days? Its like $9.00 :lmao:

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1st impressions last i guess, taking a girl to McDonalds dressed in a t-shirt & jeans isn't something i'd do!

Thats something you'd do when well into a relationship.

In nature, animals show off to their partners, like the Peacock & Peahen, he shows his display of feathers.

Romance doesn't cost much, but putting in a little effort does.

cg

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