IpAncA Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 The longest for me is about 4 years and still going?
dgiirl Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 My first bf lasted 6 months Then single for 2 years Then i had a i donno what you call it with a guy 6 years older than I for like a month or two? Then he kinda just stopped calling me altogether, I didnt really pine for him at all tho. Then single for 2 years.. (Within the first year, Older man asked my friend if I'd talk to him, he called, had a really odd convo on the phone with him, i think he was about to get married, but i have no clue why he called me. He said he'd call later that week, I said "Euuh, ok? Sure" not really caring if he'd call, and thankfully he didnt) Then met my exh, we were together for almost 11 years before he ran off with his assistant Now almost single for 2 years Damn i'm due for a i dont know what you call it lol
the_alchemyst Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I think I've seen your picture before, D. You are so pretty, and from your posts, you seem so funny, smart, and nice--I can't believe you haven't had more SOs than that!
KittenMoon Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 6.5 years- and the reason I'm here. Before that, dated a couple guys in high school I can barely call bfs. And quite frankly I don't want to go through this again.
alphamale Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 my longest was 4.5 years but that was on/off. we were probably together for 3 years over the 4.5 year period.
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 6.5 years- and the reason I'm here. Before that, dated a couple guys in high school I can barely call bfs. And quite frankly I don't want to go through this again. Who does, KM? Who does? It's worth taking another chance though. It really is.
Jeep81Guy Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I've noticed that three years is a big breaking point with a lot of people. I've been with my wife for 6 years next month and we've been married for 3.5 years. Seems that our/her struggles started at 3 years of marriage.
IpAncA Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 O thats just great. I'm coming up on our 3rd year in a couple of months.
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 I've been with my wife for 6 years next month and we've been married for 3.5 years. Seems that our/her struggles started at 3 years of marriage. Yes, I can relate. My ex and I were together 6 years before we got married. The marriage just made it to the three year mark. That's a tough transitional period for some reason. You're going from newlywed status into a truly long-term thing. The honeymoon phase is usually over by then and the reality sets in. It's a real "make it or break it" time I think. It's weird because it happens again at the seven-year mark from what I've seen in my own marriage and others. If you're mostly compatible you can ride these stormy periods out. But if you're on a shaky foundation to start with you don't stand a chance. Good luck JeepGuy! I hope you fall into the former category and not the latter.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 My husband - 10 years, 3 months. (He's also my first BF.) That's why I'm so ambivalent about our relationship sometimes. But he really, really adores me. I know that now.
Storyrider Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Yes, I'm Jewish but H isn't. Neither one of us is religious at all but we both believe in God. I was prepared to raise our child as a "mut" but H said we should pick one or it would be confusing (I don't totally agree with that) but anyway, our son identifies himself as a Jew. I really had very little exposure to the religion or to the traditions growing up. My grandmorther did always cook all the traditional dishes though. YUM! No one had a problem with my marrying outside our faith because my mom paved the way with that one when she married my stepdad. My grandparents disowned her because he wasn't Jewish but they ended up falling in love with him after a year of NC. So I had no problem with family in that regard. So they were suspicious of your Catholic husband, huh? HA! That made me laugh for some reason. Was it because he is Catholic or some other reason? I realized after I made my post that mutt has two "Ts". In a way I agree with your husband about raising children in one faith. It is not good to confuse them. I would say my kids are "majoring" in Catholicism with a "minor" in Judaism. It is a long, strange story about why my parents were suspicious of H. First, when I first started dating him, I made the mistake of telling my mom he had not dated in the last several years. (He was ten years older than me, and had been burned in a relationship so had stopped dating for while.) She thought it was strange that a man in his early thirties would not have been involved with a woman for several years. Then, I arranged an outing with my parents for the four of us to get to know each other better, and we ended up going bowling. I think this was my zany idea, as I somehow thought an activity would break the ice. My father, who is a manly-man athlete type was taking the bowling really seriously, swearing when he didn't score well and making things tense and competitive. This made my husband nervous, so he started acting silly, cheering and giving me high fives and jumping up and down. Later that evening, I had one of the strangest conversations I'd ever had, as my parents confronted me and told me H. was a "latent homosexual". Those were their exact words, I kid you not. Their reasoning was his lack of recent dating combined with acting silly while bowling!!! I was stunned. I could not believe it. I started arguing with them, and they were insistant about it, saying, "He is gay even if he doesn't realize it yet." I was furious with them and didn't speak with them for several days, then I think I went back to graduate school for the fall and we didn't discuss it again. About three years later, we were married with my parents blessings. Strangely, I brought it back up with my parents recently, and both of them denied that the conversation had ever occured. They seemed to have genuinely forgotten the whole thing.
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 I loved how you described your kids as majoring in Catholocism and minoring in Judaism. Very cute. GREAT story about you and your husband. Funny how something can be such an issue and then years later it's completely forgotten. Did you tell your parents that your husband's homosexuality must be REALLY latent as it has not surfaced yet? Or did they "forget" that part as well? Anyway, that gave me a few good chuckles. Thanks for that, Story!
Storyrider Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I loved how you described your kids as majoring in Catholocism and minoring in Judaism. Very cute. GREAT story about you and your husband. Funny how something can be such an issue and then years later it's completely forgotten. Did you tell your parents that your husband's homosexuality must be REALLY latent as it has not surfaced yet? Or did they "forget" that part as well? Anyway, that gave me a few good chuckles. Thanks for that, Story! They forgot EVERYTHING they said that night. Like a repressed memory... ...Glad you liked it.
dgiirl Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 I think I've seen your picture before, D. You are so pretty, and from your posts, you seem so funny, smart, and nice--I can't believe you haven't had more SOs than that! Thanks A. That's very sweet of you to say and I wish that were true. It would have been nice to have dated a little bit in my youth.
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 Thanks A. That's very sweet of you to say and I wish that were true. It would have been nice to have dated a little bit in my youth. How old are you, DG eighty? It's not too late to date now you know.
pricillia Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 My longest relationship was to my highschool sweetheart, it lasted 9 years. I was part of his family, it was what I needed at the time. I always thought at the time that I would marry him.
dgiirl Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 How old are you, DG eighty? It's not too late to date now you know. euh, maybe? it's hard to date when noone asks you
Aloros Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 Five and a half years. Ugh. I wish I'd broken it off sooner so I could have been with my current boyfriend longer. We were so incompatible, and we tried so hard to make it work. Being with my current boyfriend has made me realize that although relationships are work, they shouldn't really be that hard! Five months currently, and easy as pie.
Ariadne Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 Hey Touche, What's the longest relationship you've ever had? I seem to have long relationships for some reason. I'd say the longest was my first husband, about 10 years together. Then my second husband 5 years. The ex bf was 3 years. And I had some other ones for a year. The ones that don't work out just end after the second or third date. Ariadne
allina Posted November 20, 2006 Posted November 20, 2006 I've had two that lasted around a year and a half, one was my high school bf, and one was the ex I was with when I was 21-22, I'm not sure which was longer, I'm on friendly terms with them both. It looks like I'm the only one who has not done the on again off again thing, unless you count that a-hole that I had to leave 3 times because he wouldn't let me break up with him. I've had a few 3 month relationships, nothing memorable. My current one has been about 4 months and I know there is more to come :love:
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