Touche Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 What's the longest relationship you've ever had? Me? My relationship with my husband is the longest. We met 12 years ago. Before that, I was with my ex for nine years (on and off). In my early twenties, I never had a relationship last more than one year. I always got bored at the six-month mark. What about you?
magichands Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 A single, brief liaison. March the sixteenth, seven thirty-one PM to seven forty-three PM. Twelve minutes. And that includes the time it took to eat the pizza.
melodymatters Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Hmm, interesting topic !!! My first husband I married at 22 and we divorced 7 yrs later due to his alcoholism and drug abuse. I put up with it all those yrs, but immediatley after our daughter was born something " clicked" and it was like " No way is this fresh new life going to be polluted by your insanity" next longest was 6 yrs, we dated for 5, got married and he left 5 weeks later ! Now we are good friends, that was and still is an ODD relationship. Otherwise, they tend to last 3 months, and that gives me enough time to figure out if it could work or is worth it, or they go a year or two, and they end dramatically !!! Next go around, I'm lookin' for smooooth sailing, no more drama !!!
RecordProducer Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 What's the longest relationship you've ever had? Ironically it was with my first BF. Ugh... why did you remind me and why am I answering this question at all? I spent 6 years on and off with that creep. But in the first couple years he was just using me for sex (I was age 16-18). Then I left him a few times. We finally broke up when I was 21, but continued to see each other occasionally for a year until I started dating my ex-husband. The ex-husband and I were friends during all this time while I was with the ex-BF. The ex-BF and ex-husband were very good buddies and I never had any thoughts about my ex-husband during this period. He was married to a wonderful woman who died in a car accident only two months before he made advances toward me and we hooked up. After dating for 4 months, we moved in together and I got pregnant. We got married and stayed married (on and off - he was leaving me after every argument) for a couple years. Then we split. I attempted to bring him back for like 6 more months and then gave up. The kids were only 2 y.o. when we split for good. I find it very difficult to answer correctly when people ask me for how long I was married to my ex. I usually say 2-3 years. I've been married to my current husband for almost one year (in 12 days) and I hope this will be my longest relationship - a lifetime one.
the_alchemyst Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Almost 3 years. 2 years and . . . 9 months, more specifically. I think. Yea, that sounds right. Anyway, we were also on and off (is it some kind of trend to be "on and off" with your first SO or when you're really young or something?) for about 1 year and a half, and things didn't seem like they were going to change anytime soon. I guess 3 years is probably not that long in general, but to me it was a hell of a long time, considering it was my first serious relationship, and well, my first relationship altogether.
Moose Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 It will be 20 years on 12/12/06. We will have been together for exactly HALF our lifes........
Author Touche Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 Interesting answers guys! Congrats on your upcoming big 20th Moose! Hope we're lucky enough to make it to that in a few years. Burning, couldn't you have gone one more lousy month so you can at LEAST say that the longest relationship you've had is a year and a half? Sheesh! Alch, yes interesting how many "on again, off again" relationships some of us have had. That's why I usually advise people in those types of relationships to just split. They rarely work out. RP, I'm wishing you the best on your upcoming anniversary. YAY, you've almost made it through the dreaded first year! Melody, you're SO right to look for no drama this next time around. It's the only way to go. And it took me 30 years to figure out that a good relationship does not consist of constant drama. Magic, good for you! I'm so proud of you for finding someone who would stay with you for THAT long. Way to go! Try for at least work up to an hour next time though, ok?
blind_otter Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 5 months 3 years 3 months + 9 months (we broke up in the middle of that) 5 months 1 year and 4 months But there was some overlap on the early ones.
westernxer Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Longest relationship I ever had was from Denver to Sacramento, where I dropped her off.
PussInHeels Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 This one is a year and a half counting dating, and our anniversary is in Feb. I think I may have had a slightly longer relationship at some point, but I'm not sure which one, so it must have been one that was pretty boring and pointless.
Author Touche Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 Longest relationship I ever had was from Denver to Sacramento, where I dropped her off. :eek:
PussInHeels Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Longest relationship I ever had was from Denver to Sacramento, where I dropped her off. That caught me offguard, I nearly wet myself
westernxer Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 That caught me offguard, I nearly wet myself Yeah, it took us seven weeks to get there by wagon train. *snort*
melodymatters Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 WOW !!! you don't look your age at ALL !!
Pyro Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Both my ex's were each a year-and-a-half. Thats my longest.
Storyrider Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 -1 Year--first love in high school -8 Months--He was my Mr. Darcy by I wasn't his Elizabeth. Made me a cynic. -? (Rebound mistake. Doesn't count) -1 Year--beautiful cuban/chinese business major, big $. Long story. -1 Year--only Jewish guy I ever dated (my parents were hoping) -12 years--husband
bluetuesday Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 six-and-a-bit years is my longest relationship, which included a break of a couple of months after almost three years together.
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 -1 Year--first love in high school -8 Months--He was my Mr. Darcy by I wasn't his Elizabeth. Made me a cynic. -? (Rebound mistake. Doesn't count) -1 Year--beautiful cuban/chinese business major, big $. Long story. -1 Year--only Jewish guy I ever dated (my parents were hoping) -12 years--husband Are you Jewish Story? Were your parents disappointed that you didn't marry a Jewish man?
Storyrider Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Are you Jewish Story? Were your parents disappointed that you didn't marry a Jewish man? Yeah, I'm Jewish. (Aren't you as well, Touche?) I was raised in a conservative congregation, bat mitzvahed, and was the valedictorian of my confirmation class. (that's even nerdier than a librarian!) But although my parents cultivate their Jewishness, they aren't very religious and don't really believe in God. My mom says that if God exists he must have a really big ego to want everyone to worship him all the time. My dad calls himself a militant humanist. I was kind of a rebel and a druggy in my teens and twenties, so I think they were shocked when I married a practicing Catholic. If he had been an athiest of any background it would not have been as big a deal. They were extremely suspicious of him at first, but they like him now. I am still Jewish and my kids are muts . How about you, Touche? Is your husband Jewish?
RecordProducer Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 Longest relationship I ever had was from Denver to Sacramento, where I dropped her off. I thought you'd say 4 hours...(for some reason you couldn't cumm! )
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 Yeah, I'm Jewish. (Aren't you as well, Touche?) I was raised in a conservative congregation, bat mitzvahed, and was the valedictorian of my confirmation class. (that's even nerdier than a librarian!) But although my parents cultivate their Jewishness, they aren't very religious and don't really believe in God. My mom says that if God exists he must have a really big ego to want everyone to worship him all the time. My dad calls himself a militant humanist. I was kind of a rebel and a druggy in my teens and twenties, so I think they were shocked when I married a practicing Catholic. If he had been an athiest of any background it would not have been as big a deal. They were extremely suspicious of him at first, but they like him now. I am still Jewish and my kids are muts . How about you, Touche? Is your husband Jewish? Yes, I'm Jewish but H isn't. Neither one of us is religious at all but we both believe in God. I was prepared to raise our child as a "mut" but H said we should pick one or it would be confusing (I don't totally agree with that) but anyway, our son identifies himself as a Jew. I really had very little exposure to the religion or to the traditions growing up. My grandmorther did always cook all the traditional dishes though. YUM! No one had a problem with my marrying outside our faith because my mom paved the way with that one when she married my stepdad. My grandparents disowned her because he wasn't Jewish but they ended up falling in love with him after a year of NC. So I had no problem with family in that regard. So they were suspicious of your Catholic husband, huh? HA! That made me laugh for some reason. Was it because he is Catholic or some other reason?
Author Touche Posted November 19, 2006 Author Posted November 19, 2006 six-and-a-bit years is my longest relationship, which included a break of a couple of months after almost three years together. I've noticed that three years is a big breaking point with a lot of people.
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