hugznkisses21 Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Hey guys... Im not sure if what i am going to write is as a result of the many emotions my bf is going through or not - im at quite a loss....in my other threas i wrote how my bf recently a few weeks ago lost his best friend - i have done everything i could possibly do to help him - i would do anything for him. So i guess things have been rocky with diff emotions everywhere...its takes time. He seems to be doing much better, accepting things, and has a positive out look on moving on with the memories of his friend. I would say we have been arguing a bit more that usual - nothing big but i wrote alot of it off to stress and emotions. He came over last night - he had a headache so things we quite but nice - we watched tv - layed down together - had intimate moments - then he hits me with something i did weeks back that he didnt like. He said the one of his old old buddies and i were chatting while one of the many get together with friends while all this stuff was happened with his friend passing away. I made a general effort to chat with his old freinds - and my bf wasnt talking to me much those days cause of his own pain and i know that he didnt want me to worry about him so i was sitting next to his friend and just chit chat about work, my bf, his daughter etc. And my bf was chatting with others - harmless - then his buddy had a bit to drink - starting saying silly things like - oh all girls are dirty, im cleaning than most girls... Well not a good thing to say to me cause i automatically get my back up...and i was like i dont think so...hes like - i bet im cleaner that you...so i was like i doubt that very much.....so then he goes as asked my bf how many girls he has been with - he answers - and then asks me - i answer - stating also that somegirls are cleaner that you and not dirty. end of story So my bf brought this up to me last night and stated how that really bothered him that i answered that. I can see now yes - it not his business - i really didnt look at it anything more than defending that women arent dirty....and i was explaining to my bf why i said it...plus i did say sorry. well, he raised his voice at me - rolled over...and didnt talk to me. So after a few mins of laying there i got up - left him for a bit went to the living room thinking after he layed there for a bit he may comeout and talk. NOPE - he came out and said he was going home. Well that upset me - he came over - had a good time - got intimate with me - got upset with me - then leaves....thats not fair. So i was upset - lead to an argument - which lead to him saying all these faults i have, things i say, things i do..etc etc... I dont know where this came from - we are very much in love. He has many faults too we are both human - but i tell him from time to time this - and he just doesnt accept he is faulty too. I feel very stuck - i feel like i love him so much - but hear many faults of mine that he isnt happy with and i feel like - maybe there is just too many that i dont make him happy enough. Then he asked my why i love him, and stuff like that. I know what he is going through is very hard - but i dont know that im the best for him - its scary caise i love him so much....just two days ago he sent an ecard saying how much i mean to him and that my love makes him very happy - he couldnt picture his life with anyone else. Did he just have a bad day with emotions or is it really me? - i know i can be insecure, i know sometimes i say things with attitude or say thing like u neevr lsiten to me etc when im upset - but doesnt everyone? Very Upset...
Author hugznkisses21 Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 can anyone help me? i want to be the best person i can be for him
Touche Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I didn't really understand your post. Was the fight because you were talking about housecleaning and who is cleaner..men or women? I don't get it. Let him be for now. Don't chase after him and ask him what's wrong every minute. He'll probably come around. My H was very moody when his best friend died a few years ago. I remember squabbling a lot during that time. Give him some room now.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 sorry touche, I guess the fight started after he got upset at me over the discussion about what bothered him - cause i just dotn udnerstand why he blew me off ater i tried to explain to him why i answered his buddies question (clean - like how many people u have slept with)
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