--- Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I've always been sort of a shy person and i don't really talk to people unless they start talking to me first. When people do come to talk to me, the conversation lasts for a few minutes and then dies because I can never think of anything to say, and then theres an awkward silence... I'm always in my head, thinking... a friend of mine said that i think too much, and i know i do, and i think (there it is again...) that because i think too much i begin thinking of what to say to people... sometimes when i do think of something to say, i either re-think it and decide whether or not i should say it, or its too late and the conversations already moved on... I've tried to become more talkative by approaching people (mostly just people i know...) and then just saying "hi, hows it goin?" and then seeing where the conversation goes from there, but im always falling into old habits and 'over thinking' things again... I want to also start talking to people i don't usually talk to, but i never have the courage to approach them and begin talking... again.. the whole 'over-thinking' thing where i go, "hmmm... what if they don't want to talk to me?" or "what if the conversation stops.. then it'll become really awkward..." does anyone have any tips on how i might be able to become more talkative?
Fun2BMe Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I want to also start talking to people i don't usually talk to, but i never have the courage to approach them and begin talking... again.. the whole 'over-thinking' thing where i go, "hmmm... what if they don't want to talk to me?" or "what if the conversation stops.. then it'll become really awkward..." does anyone have any tips on how i might be able to become more talkative? Try not to think about "what if the conversation stops" and instead try to make short small talk. That will ease the pressure for you to expect some long complicated conversation to happen. Approach the person and ask for the time or compliment them on something. From their response you can tell if they are open to engaging to more talk and if they say or ask something back, or if they are not interested. In that case, don't feel like you failed but try again. With practice and not expecting too much, you will feel more comfortable and get better at it.
Xhie Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Well I don't know what men do when they talk to each other, seems that most of the ones I'm around its either about school or what they managed to stick there dicks into, but I assume they have other hobbies and talk about them with each other. As a female though, if I want to go talk to another girl for whatever reason, say I'm making new friends, I just go up to her and complement her bag or something and ask where she got it, something that makes them feel nice. I assume there is some male version of the same thing. As far as over thinking your conversation with people goes: If you cant talk to them because the communication is just not there you will not ever be friends so who cares if they don't want to talk to you?
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