Author Greenfrog Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Document EVERYTHING. Start a log of all the events that have occurred to date. And yes, even though it's a hassle you need to change your phone number and e-mail - given what he's already done, number and e-mail blocking are probably not enough. Thank you so much to everyone for advice. This disturbed man has my home phone, not my cell. Since Im moving in a couple days, the landline phone will be turned off. He has only sent me a couple emails, his poison is IMs. I have all IMs archived and logged via YM & AIM. Plus screenshots loaded to my remote server. I use IMs a lot for my work, Im putting everyone on block except people whom I already know. I suppose Im lucky in that Im a researcher and was able to get information on this creep and his whereabouts. Turns out he lied about which town he lives in. (hmmm) He was truthful about his job. Anyway I know his home address and will avoid places he probably frequents. (all my favorite places - ack) Itll be a pain, but probably best for a few months. The one comfort is he has a huge ego and Im sure lots of women find him appealing on the surface (very rich) I just hope I havent overlooked something and that he is actually a real danger to women. I had a nightmare about him last night and he was Yellow Bastard from "Sin City" in the dream..sounds funny - but creepy. im annoyed that I let him get under my skin and didnt block him sooner. I would feel like crap if he hurt anyone and I couldve alerted someone. ::bites lip and sighs::
Gala Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 It sounds like you have plenty of material safely collected! The rich part helps explain the outside-the-boundaries-of-the-acceptable behavior -- he may have a sense of immunity, that rules for "ordinary" people don't apply to him. Threats may be his specialty, and his way of bringing people (esp. women) within his control. But someone who would make the statements that he has is not necessarily predictable, and certainly not safe... It is quite possible, BTW, to file a report with the phone company about phone harassment. If one doesn't know where calls are coming from, but has reason to believe they are from one source, the phone company will put a tracer on your line. And in CA, at least, this also involves a police report -- i.e., it becomes a police matter.
cuddlybunny Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 omg, what is WITH guys? That's so disgusting! I actually talked to a guy like that recently who I dated once. He seemed all nice and then he started talking all dirty and saying all these nasty things he wanted to do with me and I was like.......omg, relax buddy, you don't even KNOW me! I'm sooooo tired of guys like that. I mean, you THINK they might actually care about who you are on the inside and then that kind of things happens. grrrrrrrrrrrrr....avoid them at all costs, even if they try to talk sweet and backtrack afterwards.
Author Greenfrog Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 How old is this guy? Almost 32.
MOMMIE Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 and front for that matter:) ....Now you know he should know better than to be carrying on like that....Just be careful.....
Mary3 Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 He is simply using your pics to masterbate . Period. Don't give him ANYTHING but a big brush off ! Loser.
DanielMadr Posted December 21, 2006 Posted December 21, 2006 Hi I think I made the right decision but here goes my situation. A guy I once dated found me online recently. I'm moving back to my hometown in a month or two where he also lives nearby. I thought he wanted to get to know me as a person but I changed my mind when we chatted tonight. The IMs got very sexy and he ended up sending me a picture of his 'private area' I was kinda shocked but laughed it off in my mind. Then he asked for me to send pictures of my bare breasts. I kept hesitating and finally he said he would never ever speak to me again and was dead serious if i didnt take a pic and send them right away. Well I thought he was being funny, but then he said 'nice knowing you, last chane to send them" That turned me off, because as much as I used to like him and stuff, I think its wrong to demand that of me and then say he'd never speak to me again if I didnt. I dont care how lonely he is and how much he wants me. Was I right to refuse and maybe lose him ? I know I was right, but it still is depressing. I actually was starting to really like him and then he goes and pulls this crap. I mean I already have told him how I couldnt wait to see him when I move home and his patience would be rewarded. We never had sex years ago when we dated and he knows Im a fairly conservative girl who wouldnt flaunt her goodies like that. Giving ultimatums over my refusal to email him bare breasted pics sounds very controlling, doesn't it ? Or is he just a pervy jerk ? I'm glum, but I'm pretty certain Im made the strong right decision. He is definetely not a gentleman. I dont think the ultimatum was really ultimatum. He probably watch too much MTV and Girls Gone Wild so he thinks it is normal for girls to film their boobs. So he is not creep for wanting to see your boobs especially after your sexy chat Probably naive and not very modest and decent. Could you post the pic so we can see what he was missing? Thanks.
Author Greenfrog Posted December 26, 2006 Author Posted December 26, 2006 So all I got for Christmas was a lousy bitter stalker. Christmas Eve and then tonight pervy guy IMd me. I ignored him last night. But tonight I responded to his IMs. (I plead temporary insanity induced by seeing my family all Christmas day) So he asked to see me later tonight. I told him I wasnt interested in a Christmas Booty call for Christ's sake. Well here's how he responded: xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:51:37 PM): all of a sudden you are like all direct and mean with me xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:51:44 PM): its christmas and u are being a bitch me (12/25/2006 6:51:47 PM): i asked you like a zillion times to have a normal conversation xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:51:50 PM): dont know hwta the hell that is all about me (12/25/2006 6:52:05 PM): omg you just called me a bitch ? xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:52:07 PM): all i ****ing asked was if u were aroudnd and that it would be nice to see u on chistmas xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:52:13 PM): well u r being one xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:53:08 PM): i was htinking sweetthings and u jumped all over me me (12/25/2006 6:53:35 PM): im sorry if i seemed harsh. me (12/25/2006 6:53:44 PM): but thats no excuse to call me a bitch. xxxx x (12/25/2006 6:54:07 PM): yes it is -------------------- Yes always a good idea when a gal is scared to see you already to call her a bitch. WOW. Is he turning stalkerish ? Why is he so angry ?
Vertex Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 THAT guy is almost 32? Good lord. He sounds like my spoiled little brother who whines when he doesn't get his way. Why are you continuing contact with this guy? I'd end it immediately -- change some contact information and keep your distance. This dude's bad news. Good job on saving as much information as possible. It'll come in handy if he decides to continue harrassing you. He's single and lonely for a good reason -- and it seems as if you are continuing your supply of attention to this guy. He may be harmless, but it's not worth risking, of course. I'd threaten to inform the autorities if he keeps after you. Just tell him you aren't interested and then cut off the contact and leave it at that. The more you let this guy talk to you, the worse the situation will become.
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2006 Posted December 26, 2006 Why the heck are you even talking to this guy still? BLOCK HIM FROM YOUR IM or start up another account and add the people you talk to online. This is guy is messing with you and isn't worth anymore energy on! He's a complete loser and an a_hole! Why do you want to even talk to a guy like that?
Author Greenfrog Posted December 27, 2006 Author Posted December 27, 2006 I logged online to block pervy guy and he was quick enough to get in one last IM to me. He wrote in big 48 pt type face caps that since I was mean ,"I made him not want me at all" Well I guess it's good for safety for him to save face and feel he got to reject me. ::chortle:: ::snarky laughter:: what a crazy freaking weenie. My friends are now calling him the Red Dragon (from the novel) he's rich and handsome so i guess other prey has stumbled into his net and he can place his predatory stare on them. whew. i think im free of him.
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