Guest Posted November 17, 2006 Posted November 17, 2006 I have fallen very hard for a man 22 years older than myself. When we are together, I am so happy. I could stay in his arms forever. But when we are chatting online, he's is aloof. Unfortunately, we don't see each other often. He likes to tell me about his fantasies. Where we would go together and what we would do. He says I am sexy, sensual, beautiful, and intelligent. He tells me we are cut from the same cloth. He says he wants to make love to me. He tells me that I need a distinguished older gentleman to wisk me away ( referring to himslef I think ) But....... He also tells me that he has war injuries that would prevent him from satisfying me sexually. He thinks he is too old for me. He has admitted that he is afraid of me. Good grief, I just want to be with him. I told him that his injuries and limitations are not a factor in my eyes. It's him I care for, not parts of him. He won't listen. He gets angry and says that I have an "agenda" and that I am not hearing what he is saying. I'm lost. I don't get it. I'd be happy sitting on a couch sipping hot chocolate with him, but he won't. He thinks because I am younger and sexual that all I want is a romp. I can't be any more clear with this man. Why is he acting like this. He can be very cruel to me and I don't know why. Can somebody clue me in? Thank you.
Guest Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Why is he acting like this. He can be very cruel to me and I don't know why. Can somebody clue me in? Thank you. Either he's making up excuses to not be with you by putting it all on you or else he's a commitmentphobe, believes all the BS he tells himself, and won't change. Unfortunately, either way you're probably hooped.
norajane Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 If his 'injuries' prevent him from having sex, then he's going stay away from any kind of relationship with you. A guy who can't have sex - for whatever reason - believes he doesn't have anything to offer a woman, and you can't tell him differently, no matter what.
Mary3 Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 He might be married. He might not really have a war injury but perhaps erectile dysfunction where his penis does not get hard or stay hard. Thats common in older men. He may have performance anxiety. He may be afraid to have sex with you. Maybe he does not feel he * measures up * Maybe he has a 3 inch penis ? He could have closeness issues with women in general. He could have a host of problems you don't even know about. Its hard to believe that a young vibrant female would not want to get laid at least once a day.....Thats what he thinks too....
Guest Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Ok, I admit I would love to, often think about, and would do anything to be sexually intimate with him. Getting laid once a day is not a bad idea, but also not necessary. Sex is easy - I can get that anywhere. This man is different. He makes me think and feel. If, in fact, he is just making up excuses to not be with me, then why the game? Why talk the talk and then run away? I'm not a game player. I'm very upfront. This is very hurtful. I'd walk away if I could, but he's holding my heart in his hands. Is he playing with me because he can or is he really that afraid of me? I'm not a boastful person, but to be perfectly honest I doubt he has in the past or will in the future be presented with an opportunity this sweet.
Mary3 Posted November 19, 2006 Posted November 19, 2006 He is operating soley on * fear * that he wont please you. Thats his issue and he OWNS it.....
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