fatty Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Hey guys, Just busy studying and decided to take a break. Feeling extremely lonely. BAH!!! Bahumbug to loneliness. HEHE. I just don't get it. Why is it that women will say i have the best qualites, the type of qualities that would make a "woman" go crazy about but yet no woman takes a chance for it. I guess its prolly my looks. BAH.. Anyone feelin the same.
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 It's not looks, it's how you feel about yourself. Self confidence and being happy with who you are. Positive energy and good thoughts attract people. I think you need to get out there and have some fun, stop thinking about this stuff for a while.
burning 4 revenge Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 It's not looks, it's how you feel about yourself. Self confidence and being happy with who you are. Positive energy and good thoughts attract people. I think you need to get out there and have some fun, stop thinking about this stuff for a while. WWIU you know thats bullsh*t
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 If a guy, goodlooking or not has NO self confidence, he isn't going to be happy. Relax B4R, why not offer up some words of wisdom for him instead of picking at my reply, eh!
Author fatty Posted November 16, 2006 Author Posted November 16, 2006 Hey, I think you are definately right. It all stems with how good you feel about yoruself. I feel good about myself but this shows I lack alot of self confidence. It is just that I always get told I am such a great person, such a nice guy but yet no one is willing to love me for it in a deeper and more emotional level and not just bieng freinds. I know i shouldnt think about these things, but I just feel soo alone nowadays, this feeling has creept out of no where. It is brigning my old insecurities back, I am starting to think there is somethign missing in me that women don't like.
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 And what do you think that is...What do you feel is missing from you when it comes to women and how you are in a relationship, or putting the 'I'm interested' energy out there. Do you hold back, are you loving and giving, understanding, fun and easy going? Are you strong willed, good natured, yet can stand your ground when you need to?
Author fatty Posted November 16, 2006 Author Posted November 16, 2006 Yup you hit the spot. Known by most of my female freinds as the closest thing to bieng gay. It is because I understand all emotions etc.. I am easy going, but I never put my foot down. I do not like to make other people uncomfortable for the sake of me, especially if I like someone. I will think that they will leave me or something. I got some messed up issues but I will dwell on this further cause I wanna get to teh bottom of this. You definately got my profile right. I am a bit shocked but damn you hit the spot! hehe
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 I am easy going, but I never put my foot down. I do not like to make other people uncomfortable for the sake of me, especially if I like someone. I will think that they will leave me or something. You can't be afraid of standing up for yourself (I'm not talking about freaking out or being rude) I'm saying that you have to be yourself and not worry about what others think. If you agree all the time, let people walk all over you, you're gonna get taken advantage of. Set up your own boundries and rules...Say yes sometimes and NO sometimes! People will respect you more if you put yourself first more often! If you don't do this, you're the one who suffers, you're the one who is filled with resentments that you're always the reliable one, the listener, the giver...Then, at the end of the day when you need someone - People say "I'm too busy, sorry." or, "I can't right now, too much going on in my own life." Trust me on this one, the sooner you learn to say no once in a while, the better off you will be. And if your friends (or whoever) walks away from you because you're not there for them 24/7, they aren't your friends. They're just plain selfish and using you. You have to trust yourself, and know your friends like you and aren't going to leave you. Obviously you have some issues from your past, childhood etc... Don't we all though!! Even now, I'm 35 years old, feel my old fears/insecurities creep up once in a blue moon. The difference is, I'm older, wiser and know NOT to let that stuff affect me now. Glad to help you, so keep on posting!
Maddy7777 Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Hey, no one gave you that hug you that hug you needed *HUG* "I do not like to make other people uncomfortable for the sake of me, especially if I like someone. I will think that they will leave me or something. " I can relate to this. But if people really do care for you then they care for what you want and your needs as well. Hope this helps
Author fatty Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 Listenin to I can't make you love me - George Michael what about the rest of you?
westernxer Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Why is it that women will say i have the best qualites, the type of qualities that would make a "woman" go crazy about but yet no woman takes a chance for it. I guess its prolly my looks. Nope. You need to stop listening to George Michael.
PussInHeels Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Here's a big, fat, sloppy hug from me to you! Studying sucks, whatever it is. I should be studying myself, but I'm pretty bored and lonely too, so instead I will be drinking mojitos. Take a mojito break! My husband was never a guy who had a lot of girlfriends or fun dates, he would often be studying hard, not having much fun. He doesn't see himself as attractive or desirable, while I still can't believe he didn't have girls throwing themselves at him when he was in school. (I actually kind of attacked him when we first met.) The point being that despite how things appear, there's most likely women out there that would be into you if they met you, so don't sweat it.
Author fatty Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 Thank you so much, I need to stop this self pitying bull ****. I sound like a deprssive maniac. I need to change my surroundings and challenge my negative thoughts. Someone help me with a list of good feel you good songs.
PussInHeels Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 When I'm sad I listen to Wesley Willis. How can you not laugh at songs like "Cut The Mullet" "Make Sure I'm Out Screwing Up" or "The Termites Ate My House Up?" And if you don't find it funny, it'll at least be irritating enough to distract you.
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