staRRz Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Okay, I've been involved with this man for over 2 years. 2 years ago we we had a relationship. We were together for 6 months, we had an off and on relationship throughout those 6 months. I was extremely attracted to him, but my family hated him. We have history together, and finally I met someone else and knew that I had to leave him alone. Not more than 2 months after that he was constantly calling me and wanted to see me. I was okay about being friends, it's possible, right? He called me several times a day and my new relationship had ended. Of course I still had feelings for this man, so we would see each other a lot. He would pick me up in his "new car" and we would spend time together. Someone had told me that he was in a relationship already and I asked him but he denied it. One morning I got a phone call from a woman, she told me that they had been together for over a year (we had spent time together that whole year) and they had a 5 month yr old baby. I was speechless. Of course this woman was very upset at me and I told her that he had kept denying it. This woman told me that he had told her it was HER fault him and I broke up. He even told her we have a child together! (not true!) I was afraid knowing that this woman had my phone #, knew my name, and even knew where I worked! From there on I left him alone. One day he caught up with me, when I explained the kind of drama he had me involved in he just laughed it off. He told me that I was the one he cared about, and he loves me and told me that if he didnt have feelings for me he wouldn't have chased me around for 2 yrs. This woman is practically taking care of him, she don't let him work because she wants him home. She changed the phone # he calls me from and he still calls me from the new # telling me he wants to see me and be with me. I know that once a cheater, always a cheater...but Im so confused, I don't know what to think anymore. Why does he keep doing this to me, why does he stay in touch with me? I just cant understand what he is trying to do. It's crazy. Any suggestions?
Spinderella Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Yes. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too. Unfortunately, it seems he treats his partner like dirt, and she puts up with it. You know, maybe he does have feelings for you, and maybe he does regret having a child with his partner, it does sound like it, and he cannot have been with her for very long at all before she got pregnant. BUT, look at the way he is treating the mother of his new baby! Mistake or not, if he really is not happy with being her partner, then he should leave her honestly and decently. She must really be going through alot right now, with her first baby, and its father running off in an affair during her entire pregnancy, and her having to wonder about what he is doing rather than being able to concentrate on her baby. Even if his feelings for you are genuine, is he really the type of guy you want to be with? Maybe your family saw something you didnt? What were their reasons for disliking him so much?
Jane Doe Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Yes, I have a suggestion. RUN!! This guy denied the existence of his own child. What type of man would do that? He's a kept man, unemployed and playing around with you and Lord only knows who else because he has nothing else to do with his time. He's a liar and a fraud. What possible good can he bring to your life? Lose him. Like yesterday.
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Don't tell me you're believing the crap he's feeding you on spoon!! He is scum and doesn't deserve you! No matter what, the guy has proven to be a liar! What you should do is get the three of you in a room together and talk. See who the liar really is........My guess is it's the one with the penis.
NoIDidn't Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Why the confusion? He not only lied TO you, he lied ABOUT you. You don't have his baby! Get away from this loser with a capital L. Run, run as fast as you can!
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