Anastasia0309 Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 So, the last few days I've been missing my Ex but today and sometimes in the past I feel like it's no big deal having him in my life. I don't know if that sounds right. I mean..... I miss him but I guess cause we've been talking lately I just feel like nothing in his life is changing. Here I am working out, doing Yoga...... Trying to better myself mentally and he's just the same. It's almost like I want to let go but apart of me is afraid of getting to the point of Not really wanting him in my life. Has anyone else felt like this? It's been about 3 months since we broke up ( He broke up with me) and I have felt like this before and the feeling just goes away. Sometimes I purposely watch sad country song and R&B songs to remind me of the good that I miss in him. Is that normal...... To not want to move on?
Mythical Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Hey, I guess im not really in the same situation because I broke up with my ex. BUt we dated for 4 years and have been broken up for 6 months. He was absolutely in love with me and still is. I have met new ppl, going out a lot working out all the time also, he has met SO many new ppl since we were together which is great for him, but still feels extremely incomplete without me. I KNOW that it is not me he needs it is just someone to care for him/ someone he can care about. I was his first relationship (we met pretty young) We still hang out and as much as we argue (still) we are still friends. Its been quite a long time and he still wants me back so bad but I know that there is just this void that needs to be filled with him. He is very sensitive and can't get over me. Anywase I don't think there is any problem with you still missing him (it has only been three months) but why did he break up with you? You've changed since than, goteen involved in other things etc and he stayed the same. Why did you guys break up? I know that it is probabaly better we don't speak anymore because it is way too tough on him he can't even stand hearing about me going out. BUt stil here I am hanging out with him and talking to him everyday. I feel the same
Author Anastasia0309 Posted November 15, 2006 Author Posted November 15, 2006 Dang, I kinda feel sorry for your Ex. He sounds like a really good guy. Do you think you'll get back together with him? As for me.... well, he broke up with me cause I got pretty depressed and was pretty much taking out on him. I lost my father like 8 months after we moved in together. We both knew nothing about what depression was so we both didn't think I was depressed. I kinda of new and asked him once if he thought I was depressed and he said no so I just told myself I wasn't. Pretty much.... we argued all the time and nothing he did was never good enough. I pretty much didn't feel like myself and was never unhappy. I was going through alot of family stuff. He basically had enough and thought I needed to work out my problems.... he said..... " There's nothing more I could do to help you... you need to help yourself". The other day we talked for 1hr and 10 minutes and It made me miss him more. You know the emotional connection and he is trying to understand depression more and working on his career. Now, that I think about it.... maybe I'm scared that if he start talking again I'll come to see that nothing has changed. I really don't know for sure if he has changed.... He was really level headed anyway.
Mythical Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Well if anything you need someone there for you. I know how it is to go through family things. I don't understand why he would leave you when you need him most? I mean you seem to be doing pretty good with getting your mind on other things and stuff but still no matter what I think he should have been there for you if he cared that much. There are people that get beyond depressed and the person that loves them with stick with them. Nothing against your ex (some people just arn't like that) and can't be around it (like me) I hate being around depressed people but if it was for someone I loved id do it. I think you should continue what you are doing because you seem do being doing fine without him and the feeling onyl comes when you guys talk again. Just stay friends?? Did he make you feel better when you talked that time? He wants you to get better on your own which you are and he wants to work on his career etc.I don't know how your relationship use to be (more stress) or less when you arn't together but if this is working out than maybe you need to focus on yourself more, than how someone is telling you to feel. No I will never get back with him....he is the most trustworthy human being on the planet very nice and caring but he has faults of unsderstanding and anger too..........I just fell out of love with him. I hope things work out for you when your ready. You should be number one to yourself! and you need to feel the best first
Author Anastasia0309 Posted November 15, 2006 Author Posted November 15, 2006 Thanks! Your really cool to talk to. I feel the same way sometimes about him leaving me when I needed him the most. But I did always threaten to leave everytime we got into a arguement. So, I was asking for this for awhile. Also, I really don't think I would have be able to do this much growing if I was still with him and living with him. I kinda of leaned on him a little to much after my dad died. I wanted to leave for a while, not because I didn't love him, but just because I felt lost and really didn't want to keep bringing him down with me. He loves me, For sure, he just knew I had to do this on my own and he knew I was way to weak to leave on my own. I've attempted to leave before but came right back and things would change for a little but well things were just complicated. Let just say, I understand and now thank him for breaking up with me. He often says that he did it for me. If it was up to him we would still be together. He has also told me that he doesn't think he will ever find anyone better then me. What does that mean? I just.... Maybe if I still have some issues then I shouldn't be talking to him that much yet. I kinda of feel like talking him is making me miss "Us" and I want to be with him but I know I'm not ready. Does that make sense? Do you think I should just be honest and talk to him about this? If I did talk to him about it what would I say?
Mythical Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Ok I understand more now Seems like he cares about you a lot than. I defiently think you should talk to him about this let him know you still care about him so much and want to be with him. Tell him what you told me! You still need to change some things but letting him know you still care and thank him for being understanding could never hurt! If anything it will show that thigns are changing for the better!
Author Anastasia0309 Posted November 17, 2006 Author Posted November 17, 2006 Yeah, I'm just going to keep being honest with him. For some reason it makes me feel better when I do. Thanks for the advise.
Mythical Posted November 17, 2006 Posted November 17, 2006 Yeah, I'm just going to keep being honest with him. For some reason it makes me feel better when I do. Thanks for the advise. No problem remember "Honesty sets you free"
Author Anastasia0309 Posted November 17, 2006 Author Posted November 17, 2006 Yeah, I Mos Def Agree with that.
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